Though belief had to be suspended after the melodrama of the last interview, it's not easy being the next person interviewed, but very recently @sweetmamm, a relative newcomer to blogland, bravely and kindly agreed to be interviewed by me while promising to "be completely forthright".
If anyone can prove @sweetmamm is not who she says she is, I'll do a naked road trip, as penance, stopping off at every state in America, every province in Canada, and every country in Europe and elsewhere, as represented in comments here, to issue a personal apology! Due diligence has been done!
To find out why @sweetmamm embraces celibacy sometimes and how she has perfected the art of very deep penetration, please read her very interesting and fulsome answers to the interview questions below.
❓1. As a warm-up to the interview, here are ten quick-fire, this-or-that questions to answer briefly and quickly without thinking too much. The Beatles or The Rolling Stones? Beach holiday or city break? Dog or cat? Fries or salad? Coca-Cola or Pepsi? Marilyn Monroe or Audrey Hepburn? Paul Newman or Robert Redford? Dildo or vibrator? Spit or swallow? Dating or Community side of the site?
The Beatles or The Rolling Stones? My gut reaction is The Stones ... think that's because there's more memory association there, plus they are just fucking great! Do love The Beatles too. Well, they are both timeless aren't they!
Beach holiday or city break? Since I live in Manhattan, I'm blessed to get this glorious city as a break daily! As far as vacation goes, I'd prefer beach holiday. Unless the holiday is Thanksgiving or Christmas, then I want to be in the woods, preferably a house on a lake, for the fall foliage and snow for Christmas.
Dog or cat? Dog, always has been, except when I was considering a potbellied pig as a pet. Bonds with dogs and humans can be profound ones! Dogs have just always made me happy! Don't judge, seems these little pigs make great pets. They're clean, almost odor-free and smart. Winston Churchill summed it up in his quote: “Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us equals.”
Fries or salad? Fries. Been trying to get myself to prefer salads for a lifetime now ... but, hey, who are we kidding?! Although, I am more immersed in a healthier mindset, and lifestyle these days.
Coca-Cola or Pepsi? Pepsi, but I don't drink soda much any more.
Marilyn Monroe or Audrey Hepburn? Audrey Hepburn - I just love her! On screen and in life, she was one of those truly incredible people! I aspire to be like her! I must also give Marilyn her due ... hell, I fashioned myself after her since my teens. You know, the bleach-blonde, seductress thing ... kept it going through my 30s, LOL! I respect Norma Jeane's courage in overcoming her child abuse. She was a true survivor, no matter her demise!
Paul Newman or Robert Redford? Robert Redford - he just has that 'something'. Well, they both do actually! I'm just more familiar with Robert's work.
Dildo or vibrator? When masturbating, it is usually with a vibrator. I surprise myself in this as I am definitely more of a 'penetration girl'! It's just that a cold dildo feels almost invasive sometimes. Now, if toys are being used on me, I must confess to it not being one of my favorite things. Even if asked to use them on myself in front of him, I can't say toy play with a partner really works well for me. I'm too self-conscious to relax and truly enjoy it. But, hey ... just had a thought ... I might like using a dildo and/or vibrator on my partner. Hmmm, that thought does excite me! Even though toy play can be hot, I much prefer the amazing feeling, and warmth, of skin on skin when at all possible!
Spit or swallow? I must admit to being a swallower most of my life. Of course, the times we live in and my relationship status has changed all that. So, as long as I'm sexually casual, I will refrain from licking-up or swallowing. However, I do find the act of swallowing extremely erotic and will probably suck my next serious partner dry when the time comes!
Dating or Community side of the site? It's funny this question is included as it's something I'm struggling with currently - I wrote in my recent celibacy post [see Back To Celibacy?!? ] about how inundating the Dating side can be. I joined AFF [Adult FriendFinder] in February to break my celibacy and have accomplished that through the Dating side. This blogging side is new to me, and I'm getting great joy out of writing more due to it! Also, I've made an amazing blogger friend/pen pal/mentor on this Community side. I will increase my reading/commenting efforts of other blogs, facilitating other new friendship opportunities. I'm enjoying the platonic banter with both men and women in the blog community! I think of the AFF Community side differently from the Dating side, in that it is more of a 'safe space', easier to concentrate on writing and replying to comments instead of flirtation. Don't get me wrong, I love flirtation, both giving and receiving. However, if someone wants to come-on to me, or vice versa, best to take it to the Dating side with a mail I think. Don't want to create a soap opera for other viewers to read in the very public blog comments area, LOL! Lately however, I'm not opening many first-time-respondent mails unless they mention the blog. This is due to my temporary vow of celibacy. Presently, my increasing desire to write, coupled with life's other demands, makes answering new daily respondents too distracting. So, with the exception of answering prior, ongoing communications on the dating side, the Community side has my full attention these days! At least until I end this new, self-imposed celibacy. However, the Community side will remain my priority as it is providing a muse for more writing!
❓2. When and why did you join this site and, in particular, when and why did you decide to blog?
I joined AFF this past February. My profile explains the 15-year hiatus I unintentionally took from dating and sex due to the demands of being a single mother of a special needs child. Then, I woke one day last September, and said to myself ... "What the hell are you doing girl! How did you go from being so sexually active to being celibate for all these years! Well, no more dammit ... I want SEX!!" It dawned on me that, aged 15 with a lifetime of services, my autistic son was self-sufficient and latchkey-ready now. It was like a light went on shining on the fact that, after years of advocacy and getting everything in place for my son, I finally could start thinking about myself again!
Hence, my Google search to find a man! The very first link to show up was AFF. I took a breath, said to myself, "what the hell", and joined! I met someone the first hour I was on, who later turned into a FWB. So, I joined AFF to get laid not knowing about the blog area for many months to come. I was directed by an AFF friend from Scotland to go read his blog. I didn't read past his blog to others, and I didn't revisit blogs again until I started my own.
Ironically, my blog resulted from an altruistic act on behalf of an AFF pen pal. My daily chatting with this bicurious, divorced man in his 50s resulted in the sharing of his anxiety about giving his first blow job. Saying, fear of failure was keeping him from seeking his first sexual encounter with a man. After months, our growing friendship had me inspired to help him. One day, out of nowhere, I found myself writing a 'how to' piece for him on how to give a blow job. This piece is now on my blog, "MARY'S BLOW JOB" . His overwhelming response to the piece had him suggesting I post it on AFF. He said I could post it by starting a blog!
Well, I did just that! I started my blog a few months ago and I use it to post my autobiographical erotic stories. The blog gains more followers daily, and is now up to nearly 900 ... God bless y'all!
❓3. How successful has your search for what you're looking for been on this site? How many people have you met up with from this site? And, how many from this site have you had sex with?
When I decided to break my 15-year celibacy last year, I started with a 50s+ dating site and a cuddle site. After a daily six-month correspondence with someone on the dating site, ending before meeting, and a sexless cuddle session with someone from the cuddle site, I was so damn horny and found myself seeking a hook-up site! Google found me AFF, and my life took on a drastic change ... it was 'raining men'!
As with the other sites, the overwhelming number of respondents from AFF had me flabbergasted! I've lost count of the numbers - however, since joining AFF in February, the views I've received are in the thousands and personal communications in the hundreds. I have since started dating local AFFers, and have met about 20 men ... some of whom I have had sex with as they became FWBs for a while. Non-sexual friendships are developing through this blog now as well.
Presently, I'm practicing a self-imposed celibacy, while seeking personal accomplishments. So for now, even though I hear from past lovers, I've stopped dating. I'm refraining from opening new respondent messages currently too. When I do resume dating, I'll be looking for an ongoing FWB situation. Ultimately, I'll seek something serious again one day, and, who knows, I may even find him on AFF!
❓4. What three words would you use and what three words would a close friend use to describe your personality?
I'd describe myself as kind, determined, and sensual.
I asked some friends, my sister, and past lovers this question, and got a kick out of their answers. I'm just going to list them, even if more than three, as it's so heart-warming to me. My girlfriends/sister said I'm kind, gentle, open-minded, strong, loving, interested, warm, fun, dreamer, lively, curious, hopeful and sweet. My past lovers said I'm passionate, sensual, loving, erotic, friendly, kind, caring, sexy, sweet, nice, selfless, motherly and devoted. I am truly blessed to have such people in my life!
❓5. What sort of things do you like doing in your spare time?
As a kid, my spare time was doing everything outdoors - biking, hiking, swimming, camping, etc. I'm still a lover of all those things, just do them less than I'd like ... just like sex, which is my favorite thing to do!
Writing is at the top of my list these days, which includes research. I'm always researching opportunities towards long-desired goals and for new fun experiences. Voice-over and movie extra work being at the top of those list currently. For fun, my teen son and I take a weekly improv comedy class together. The great thing about living in NYC [New York City] is that there are seemingly endless things to do - tonight I found an escape room to take my son and his friend to!
❓6. What is your favourite book, song, movie and television show? And why are they your favourites?
I'd have to say the most memorable book is The Good Earth by Pearl S Buck. It won the Pulitzer Prize in 1932, and Buck won the Nobel Prize just six years later. Oddly, I happened upon a second-hand copy on a bookseller's table on a Manhattan street when in my 30s. I got comments on the cover by subway riders. My appreciation grew as I read it, especially the way the book put life into perspective. The novel focuses on Wang Lung and his family's suffering as he works hard, endures famine and poverty and eventually finds wealth. What stood out the most for me was the part where he chewed the last dried bean, mashing it enough to feed to his baby - he and the rest of his family left starving, leaving their land on a journey to the city in desperate search of a charitable food source. Also, memorable was the way that, even after he'd brought his mistress home to live, his hard-working wife endures, gaining his undying appreciation and respect, causing him to realize the error of his selfishness. My brain draws upon this story, of life being brought down to the importance of a single dried bean, whenever I allow superficiality to enter my thoughts. It puts things right back into perspective for me!
Now, I said this is my most memorable book ... I didn't say my favorite. To tell you my favorite, I'd be outing myself as a fluff reader. LOL! I always aspire to read more classics, but when I moved to NYC, discovering a Victorian romance novel on a street table, changed my reading habits for decades! That book had me shocked when midway it turned into graphic porn prose! Lords and ladies really getting it on, LOL! So, I started consuming numerous erotica Victorian/Regency novels per week, going to sleep and waking reading them. It's not just the erotic writing that drew me in though. I resonated with the era - London, 1800s - the 'Ton' (British high society) at the season's balls and soirees. I swear to God, the familiarity is so strong, I feel I'm reincarnated from that time!
The connection being so compelling, I've even created a masturbation fantasy surrounding it. In it, I'm being fingered, plus more, under the draped tablecloth by the lord seated on my right! He even had a liveried servant hidden under the table, unawares to me, guiding that extra hand with his own up my thigh under my elegant gown to add digital penetration to his clitoral stimulation! How fucking hard to have a normal conversation with the person on my left, when orgasming multiple times throughout the hours-long dinner! As extended dinners with large numbers of guest were a usual form of entertainment during the Victorian era, the association with huge table settings at Thanksgiving is prompting my desire to actually pen this fantasy into a short story for a Thanksgiving treat. LOL! Would, that I had time this week!
My favorite song is What A Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong, because my son and I sang it together with a picture book of lyrics every night. We still break into song with it at times. We have duets on YouTube since kindergarten, LOL!
Movies, and TV ... hmmm, damn, that's hard to answer! Favorite movie is easier ... I'd say, the 1946 James Stewart classic, It's A Wonderful Life, is at the top of my list. I watch it every Christmas!
I watched entirely too much TV growing up! Now with Netflix, I get caught up binge-watching old favorites. One I'm into currently, Californication with David Duchovny, was prompted by me being an extra in his new movie a few months ago. I'm also digging Grace and Frankie lately with its all-star cast, including Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin. Both are hilarious!
❓7. What were you like as a kid? And when a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
As a kid, I was adventurous! I'd leave home after breakfast only returning for lunch and dinner. I'd get on my bike and spend the days exploring. My favorite spots were along the bayou in my then undeveloped neighborhood on the Mississippi Gulf Coast.
I love antiques - my first apartment at 18 was filled with antiques I'd bought and put in storage since starting work at 15. After getting my own apartment - I re-finished all of them - I then put my passion for interior design to work on my place. So, I wanted to be an interior designer when I grew up! Well, my plan was to get my degree in interior design, then travel the world as a flight attendant after graduation. I planned to move to NYC to work in my degree field, after I'd spent years traveling.
I ended up getting my bachelor's in business, and didn't make it to NYC till I was 28, but I did work five years at a prominent interior design firm in Manhattan. It was in an administrative capacity, while taking design classes at FIT and Parsons. I've since worked administratively in various industries, and stopped pursuing that second degree or other jobs at interior design firms. It's still a personal passion of mine though.
Now, I want to be a WRITER when I grow up!
❓8. What's the best and worst place you've ever lived and the best and worst place you've ever visited? And why?
The best place I've ever lived would be New York City, and it still is. I love this city! I remember how exhilarating it was my first year here living in the East Village! I've lived in every borough in NYC over the past 33 years - Brooklyn, Bronx, Queens, Staten Island and Manhattan.
Even though I enjoyed the tranquility of the twice-daily ferry rides through New York Harbor, when living in Staten Island, after my marriage ended - Manhattan is where I want to live. Well, the goal is to keep a place in the city, and get a New England country home just hours away too!
I was an army brat twice over, and the military housing 'did' leave a lot to be desired. However, as a kid, what mattered more was losing friends with every move. Luckily, my mother did settle us on the Mississippi Gulf Coast after my father died in Vietnam. It was a great place to grow up, and I was able to make friendships that have lasted a lifetime before moving away for a few years.
We left, but came back to Mississippi when my mother married another army man. We were stationed at Fort Knox, KY till my stepfather retired a few years later. I'm not sure if it was the timing/circumstances - coming after my father's death - but I'd say that was my least favorite place to live.
As for the worst place I've ever visited, again the emotion would probably be more associated with the circumstances than the place. There are certainly unpleasant areas I've happened up on in New York City, but this is true of any city, so, as a whole, I can't really poo-poo any place I've visited.
I will rave about New Orleans, LA though! Being only an hour away from my home on the Mississippi Gulf Coast, I've spent many a Mardi Gras there - catching beads thrown from parade floats or partying all night in the French Quarter with high school friends. We loved a night in the Quarter, listening to jazz, drinking Hurricanes at Pat O'Brien's, and ending at Café Du Monde for chicory coffee and beignets by the Mississippi River. Fun times!
I also spent my honeymoon in New Orleans a few decades later. My Bronx-born husband and I married at a beachfront Victorian bed and breakfast in Mississippi, then left New Orleans for a week-long riverboat cruise up the Mississippi River, before returning to New York. So, I have many fond memories of my visits to New Orleans!
❓9. If you had to live your life in another time and place, when and where would you be?
Definitely Victorian England, London specifically! Seems forever now that I've resonated with that era! It truly solidified when I happened upon the period novel I mentioned finding on the street-seller's table after moving to NYC. It dawned on me how very much I connected with this time once I started engulfing several Victorian/Regency novels per week for decades to follow. The time that resonates the most about these periods in the 1800s is the London Season. That's when the 'Ton' came to town for the world's largest marriage market.
The London Season developed to coincide with the sitting of Parliament, so from about November till June, Lords and Ladies would descend upon London from their country estates in search of marriage and entertainment. Hey, those dukes, marquesses, earls, viscounts and barons had to be entertained too, and the marriage-minded mommas took advantage of that!
Due to the powerful connection I feel to the Victorian era, I often toy with the possibility of being reincarnated from that time. However, based on how difficult my life has been, I must have been a real high society BITCH! Like an unkind duke's daughter who had to be sent back to try again to be a nicer person, LOL! I feel like, with kindness being my foremost character trait in this life, I'm getting it right this time around! If I've faltered at all, life's hardships have been constant reminders to keep me on track. LOL!
❓10. If you were trying to seduce someone that you find very attractive, what would you do? And what type of date would you arrange for the seduction to take place?
It all starts with eye contact. I'd give him such a sensual, seductive look that he has no doubt whatsoever I want him!
I'd want us in a dimly lit place, with candles and ambience, fun music, and secluded seating. Best if we can sit at a 90° corner, elbow to elbow, instead of across the table, so touching is possible.
I'd be subtly brushing up against his leg, with my leg under the table, like it was unintentional. I'd subtly, but flirtatiously, touch his arm with hand gestures while talking. Then my hand might find its way to his knee, nonchalantly touching it as we chat casually.
My ability to lead the conversation in a more intimate direction opens the doors for me to pour on the flirtation, giving admiring eye contact while hanging on to his ever word. I redirect the conversation back to him again, and again - because I'm truly interested in him - and he can feel that!
I make my desire for him clear then, with my leaning posture and feather-light touches to his hand that's resting on the table. As things progress, my hand finds its way under the table to caress his thigh. It wouldn't take much more, but a kiss at the table would prompt the discussion of finding some place more comfortable for us to go!
❓11. On your profile, you mentioned that you abstained from sex for 15 years while devoting yourself to bringing up your autistic son but, now he's older and more independent, you wanted to make up for lost time by wanting a sexual relationship with "a young, virile man who can keep up with me." On a recent blog post, you announced that your "'sexual rebirth'" since February this year involving "a 'young man' phase" is over and that you are going back to "self-imposed celibacy again!" This is quite a sexual journey. Please can you tell us why you want to be celibate again after your "'sexual rebirth'"?
It's certainly not that I 'want' to be celibate again! Shit, I'm having way too much fun to ever want to stop sex in my life again! Believe me ... my resolve is already faltering in just the two weeks since I vowed this new self-imposed celibacy. Especially after the sexual 'young men' whirlwind I've been on since February! It is truly hell now for me to be saying no to myself, and to them!
However, that's the point - it's all too much! Just keeping up with all the correspondence surrounding dating, what became a few times a week, is inundating! It has just become prudent for me to reprioritize and restructure my life temporarily. For how long, I haven't decided - but I can see my current additional obligations need to take priority for a while longer ... hopefully to be resolved by the New Year!
Throwing myself into my writing was also my reason for this vow of celibacy - and I've done just that over the past two weeks since that post. I've been a writing maniac! Like day and night, non-stop writing ... seems I'll have to find balance with that blossoming passion too now, LOL!
So as for celibacy, this time, instead of practicing it as a means for a single mother to prioritize her autistic son's needs, I'm practicing it more to facilitate a journey of personal growth and accomplishments. It's about putting all my energy, and focus on priorities ... not men and sex. To buckle down and tackle pressing short-term business, to write write write, and to put long-term goals into play!
Once the pressing business is taken care of though, I truly can't wait to break my celibacy again! I am enjoying observing my body's reaction to this vowed abstinence however. I posted about how the non-stimulated orgasms are taking on a life of their own! [See NON-STIMULATED ORGASM .]
Today's meditation was uneventful - not triggering a non-stimulated orgasms through visualization - but that unintentional waking orgasm, which I wrote about in WAKING ORGASM , a few nights ago still has me baffled! Think these occurrences are my body's way of taking matters into its own hands, so to speak ... even though I'm not touching myself when they happen. LOL!
So, just to be clear, I've always been an insatiable woman and now, especially at my age, I certainly won't be depriving myself with celibacy for 15 years this time around! Hell, now that my sexual appetite has been piqued again, I'll be lucky if I can make it a few months!!
❓12. What is your favourite sex position? And why is this position your favourite?
I'm going to get very specific here. Even though I already posted MARY'S SEXUAL PREFERENCES, I've done further research since. My researching efforts, done to enhance the short story I'm writing, have made the scientificality of what I already know/feel more clear.
I crave deep penetration, and have discovered a better way to experience it - whether the guy is well-endowed or not - making an average cock feel deeper for me even. Thank God and Hallelujah ... at long last!!?
Before getting technical though, my favorite position is MISSIONARY for many reasons. My recent exploration with tantric sex opened my eyes to this being the only way to start. It allows the much needed intimacy, to then open and send me in other glorious directions/positions. My EVERLASTING AFTERGLOW post described my tantric sex experience with this.
Oh, how I'd like to explore all the Kama Sutra positions, if my body would cooperate! One of the most comfortable positions, for both partners, is also one of my favorites. It's with him laying on my back, inside me, grinding slowly while straddling my closed legs - our cheeks touching, his arms stretched overhead on top of mine, with our fingers interlacing ... OMG, I could stay like that for hours!!
Hell, come to think of it, for the deep penetration description, I'm just going to put an excerpt from my current work-in-progress here, as it's inclusive:
"Being he is so well endowed, and I wanted to feel every inch of him - the method of getting him deeply embedded needed to be more exacting. We had never discussed this before, and I've since done some research.
First and foremost, before penetration, the woman needs to be brought to a high state of arousal. Oh boy, thankfully, he is a 'foreplay guy'!
Seems it is this aroused state that causes the cervix to pull up into the body making the vagina several inches longer. Additionally, arousal causes the labia to swell, which also adds to the total length. This will all aid in accommodating his huge penis.
The cervix is not at the end of the vagina like a door at the end of a hall. It’s more like a skylight near the end of a hall. The penis can go deeper by passing under the cervix instead of knocking against it, which some women find unpleasant.
Now, having learned why deeper penetration has worked for me before, I want to explain it to him, and have him try it on me! My understanding is that once he has me nice and aroused, he pushes in all the way and then stops, just staying still in there, not moving for a minute, so my body can adjust to his cock before he starts pumping me.
All men should practice this ... makes average cocks feel so much deeper inside too! It's about allowing the cervix to lift for a better fit - and the man can supposedly feel this happening - intensifying the pleasure for both of them!
This 'push in and stop' method, opens me up, allowing my body to welcome his hard cock in slowly. If he starts pounding right off the bat, which he did, then my cervix stays down, creating a barrier to pound against. Depending on sensitivity, some women don't enjoy that cervix pounding. Luckily, I do - but not at first! I need to be eased into it ... but once I'm stimulated, he can fucking pound away! If allowed, my cervix lifting up makes the pounding feel OH, SO DAMN AMAZING! I don't mind my cervix getting a beating, but I'm not the majority. I've even gotten what I'm sure was a bruised cervix - and it was worth it to me, but there is another way!
So, the objective when he enters me is to have him take his time - to push in, stop, stay, and wait to feel the cervix lift up, and then push deeper, allowing him to ease into where, possibly, 'no man has gone before'! The difference is so mind-blowing - it's a sin that not all adult heterosexual partners are doing this!
Then, there's the tantric sex I want to discuss with him! To get us out of our heads to a higher level together. With a slower pace - reaching that incredibly comfortable, satiny, velvety plateau, and remaining there, gliding, allowing our spirit-selves to take over. Leaving us to experience it like flies on the wall, outside our bodies - seeing/feeling the movements happening seamlessly as if of their own accord!
Oh, every sexual encounter should and can be like this, damnit! The beauty of accomplishing this sends both partners to phenomenal heights in a tantric way. Once there, coupling it with speed/positions, can cause a feeling of being transcended into a completely different realm altogether, that spiritual realm! That glorious transcendence through the physical, mental, emotional to that mutually reached miraculous state, is something I'm dying to try with him!"
❓13. What's been your best ever sexual encounter? And why was it your best experience?
It would have to be the tantric sex I wrote about in my EVERLASTING AFTERGLOW post. Not only was it unlike anything I'd ever experienced, it lasted 10 hours!
❓14. Where has been the most unusual place you've had sex?
In the water in the Gulf of Mexico at Panama City Beach, FL. It was the summer before college, with the man I was falling in love with. That short summer romance turned into a live-in, seven-year engagement after just three months. Buoyancy is great for sex BTW!
❓15. Roughly, how many people have you had penetrative sex with? And what's the most number of times you've had sex in one day? What's the most number of people you've had sex with in one day?
I can't believe I'm actually going to answer these questions, ones I've been evading my whole life! That's just it, I was introduced to sex 'my whole life'. Some day I may explain that. For now, suffice to say there is a reason for my insatiability. FYI, I have been in several long-term relationships, including a seven-year engagement and a 10-year marriage - so, monogamy is doable for me too.
Okay, okay ... yikes, this shit is harder than I thought!! Damn, can I really divulge something so fucking personal??!!
Well, as has been happening since starting this blog a few months ago, the unraveling, peeling-back, and revealing needs to occur for me to really be free to write the many true stories burning to come out. So, after going back and forth with this, I realize now that this is the catalyst ... I must fess up and actually put a number to it all if I'm to move forward. So, here goes!!
Please don't judge, and if you do, please keep it to yourself. I'm mustering this courage, because I'm finally at peace with it, knowing it has made me the person I am today ... a true survivor! So here are my sex stats, most prior to the 15-year celibacy:
Penetrative sex - approximately 150 men in my lifetime.
Number of times sex in one day - seven rounds.
Number of people in one day - two.
I know, I know ... it's like being a horny teenage boy all the time right! I can relate, and I truly empathize with you guys!!
❓16. What are your kinks or pervs? And what's been your most kinkiest or most perverted sexual act you've done? Are there any sexual acts that you have not tried that you would like to do? And have there been any sexual acts that you have tried that you'd never do again?
With my recent 'sexual rebirth', I discovered I'm still learning my kinks/pervs it seems. I'm certain you've gathered by now, that I'm no novice to sex, and I thought I knew most everything there is to know, even if I haven't tried it. Well, joining AFF has me feeling almost virginal, realizing how much I don't know, LOL! Seems I'm learning new stuff every day through communications or reading blogs.
I certainly have had my fair share of experiences - threesomes, sex club, swingers party, which I described in my I'VE NEVER KISSED A WOMAN post. Even though I'm an adventurous lover, I tend to go with the flow not usually suggesting anything kinky, probably due to shyness. And though I can be a seductive tigress in the bedroom, I'm not comfortable with initiating any role-playing.
However, I am thrilled by my partner incorporating kinky moves and/or role-playing. I've recently discovered that I like to be dominated, and like it if my partner leads us into role-playing. Go figure ... I was shocked how exhilarating it was when a partner took on a 'daddy' role with me. Now, I'm not comfortable acting a part in role-playing, but I was surprised how excited I got when he did!
I was also surprised to learn I kinda like rough play ... like getting my nipples pinched hard or getting spanked. I'm curious about where that could lead, even though I tell myself I'm not into S & M - but hey, one should keep an open mind right, LOL!
I have had endless kinky requests made of me however since joining AFF in February, LOL! I've not honored any of these, even though I am a bit curious. Let's see ... there is the guy who wanted me to wear pantyhose without underwear so he could fuck me through them and then stuff them in his mouth. Then the guy who wanted to pee inside of me. The guy who wanted to fist me, which I'll admit fascinates me. The guy who wanted to worship my feet. The most bizarre request was from the guy who wanted to get into medical play, like piecing my nipples with needles etc. I never met with any of these guys ... guess I'm not as adventurous as I thought, LOL!
I have participated in some kinky acts however. There was the guy with the most massive dildo I've ever seen - he tried it on me and it finally worked by the end of the evening, when I was fully aroused - we even did DP. Then there's the young guy who wanted to role-play like he was my stepson. A FWB tied me up and pussy spanked me once. There's the guy who taught me to do digital prostate massage on him. The campfire guy risking discovery by fellow campers. The guy who did hours of foreplay on me. Then there's the guy who jerked off in front of me, giving me another surprising first of having a simultaneous, non-stimulated orgasm just from watching him cum!
Sexual acts I'd like to try ... hmmm, maybe fisting ... maybe not. Maybe multiple men, like real penis DP, instead of dildo. Maybe a woman. As far as places to do sexual acts, I'm open. A few fantasies are in a bus/train/plane, with a blanket, giving each other hand jobs while everyone else sleeps and/or hand jobs under a restaurant table, LOL!
As far as any sexual acts that I've tried, and would not repeat ... well, that's a hard one as I've pretty much liked every sexual act I've tried!
❓17. What has been your most embarrassing sexual moment?
My most embarrassing sexual moment came in high school with a guy I knew from early childhood. I thought I could trust him when, years later, we reacquainted and made a plan to hook-up and go have sex at a deserted indoor pool. We got in, got naked and started making out. Then, out of nowhere, he shocked the shit out of me by pushing me under the water ... repeatedly ... to the point of scaring me! When he finally stopped, I was gasping for breath and realized he was laughing! Even worse, I realized he had buddies hidden and watching, having prearranged this humiliating prank! He left me there, naked in the pool, as he went off laughing with his pals. I've never be so embarrassed in my life!! Thank God we went to different high schools so I never had to see him again!
❓18. What is your perfect three-course meal? And what drink would you have with the meal?
My perfect three-course meal starts with a crab meat-stuffed mushroom appetizer. Followed by surf 'n' turf, with filet mignon and sautéed shrimp, steamed broccoli and baked potato. For this meal the dessert is Dutch chocolate cake. I like a nice red wine, maybe a Pinot Noir to drink with the meal and an Irish coffee with dessert.
❓19. If you could invite three famous people, dead or alive, to join you at a dinner party, who would you invite?
My three dinner guests would be Audrey Hepburn, Siddhartha Gautama (Buddha), and David Duchovny - I was an extra on his movie set recently, and now have the hots for him, LOL!
❓20. As the last question, please can you volunteer three bits of information about yourself that haven't been covered in this interview?
I feel I was overly thorough with this interview leaving very little to add here, LOL! Okay, three more things:
For ten consecutive years, in our 30s/40s, my best buds (four heterosexual, professional, single women) and I camped in a rustic cabin (no plumbing) on a lake. We dubbed ourselves the 'Lake Ladies', and we have stayed friends for decades since.
I've been dropping a lot of weight this year and on a self-improvement kick with determination.
Practicing the power of positive thinking and methods based on the Law of Attraction has been changing my life for the better! Thank you Tom!
Do you have any questions for @sweetmamm? If so, please post them with a tag to her below?
Can you suggest other bloggers to be interviewed next? You can suggest yourself!
As I haven't interviewed a bot yet (well, not knowingly), would any bots out there like to be interviewed?
@sweetmamm is happy to stay behind and answer any questions you may have for her. So please post your tagged questions or comments below.
This interview is part of a series of interviews I have done with bloggers - see first comment at the end of the thread below for the list of bloggers so far interviewed.
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@sweetmamm
Community is what's been keeping me on this site despite the plethora of dicks and douchebags. LoL
I'm happy to see the last bitter experience hasn't discouraged Spunky from doing more interviews 🙂
@spunkycumfun
Yay for us readers!
I'm so happy he continued, as writing this interview has been very cathartic! Reading other interviews is too! Thanks spunkycumfun for your great service to fellow AFFers! Keep up the great work!
Awesome interview!
Thanks so much! Appreciate you reading!
Some things never change. I too, tried to scratch my itch without success with vanilla dating, and finally got so horny that I resorted to AFF, lol. (this was back in 2005).
Great interview, and kudos to you for revealing your "number". I must confess I lost count somewhere along the way and have no idea of mine.
Thanks so much for sharing that! Nice to know other other woman experience the insatiability similar to a horny teenage boys's LOL!
"Vanilla dating "...good name for it...enough to drive a hony woman crazy right!
@spunkycumfun Well if one were looking for romance or a traditional relationship, they'd be disabused pretty quickly. It's possible that some women take "friend finder" at face value and then quickly leave when they see the reality.
@spunkycumfun
You are wise to pickup on the relief of revealing spunky...that's true. Hey we women get horny too LOL!
@spunkycumfun
No doubt about it!!!!!
Great interview, thank you both. I'm quite tickled by the idea of a "young man phase."
I highly recommend it...especially if coming off such an extended celibacy! An insatiable older man would be appreciated too...may be more experienced and mentally compatible.
@spunkycumfun
Right...and if you had AFF to connect you to them! It's a win, win sexually LOL!
@spunkycumfun
No, it was the mature women who lost out LOL!
@spunkycumfun
Sounds like an interesting read! Yes, some woman do like to fib about their age...guess she really wanted you, not taking a chance her age would put you off. I've never lied about my age...and luckily it hasn't been a deterrent. So, is there a story to share there spunky!?
@spunkycumfun
Thanks for elaborating! I'm sure the age difference wasn't a problem...it's all relative. Bet you learned something right!
@spunkycumfun
Tantalizing synopsis...love to hear the full short story some day LOL! Enjoy your day!
@spunkycumfun
Let me know if you do. I'd make a point to read it!
Another good interview Spunky!
It's rare, intelligent women like this who keep me coming back for more. Bravo.
Bayarealover64, thanks for reading and for your nice comment!
Spunky, thanks again for doing such a great job with your interviews!
Sexy pics!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks!
I like her three course meal but I would add steamed lobster with the filet mignon! She can have the whole bottle of Pinot Noir...I'll join with the Irish coffee!
Great interview..I know so much more about @sweetmamm
Thanks for reading! Lobster sounds good too! Yummy!
@sweetmamm - howdy ... nice meeting you ... 🙂
@spunkycumfun - happy you aren't letting the fake interview slow you down! 🙂
Hey there! Nice meeting you too! 😊
You have a talent for finding them Spunky. Thanks for another enlightening and comprehensive interview. My only question for @sweetmamm kind of relates back to #3 and is: Given all the fun you're having exploring, do you think you'll ever find yourself into a more settled long term relationship, and if so with what, if any, preconditions?
Hi, thanks for reading! To answer your question about seeing myself in another serious long-term relationship...YES, absolutely! I will absolutely strive for that, and remain open to it happening at any time. If honest with myself, I'm really more of a one-on-one type of girl, and am still seeking my soul mate (for me, all the sex was mostly about that anyway).
I would like to honor my needs this time around however, which means finding an extremely evolved, open-minded, compassionate man. I'm not even sure I could handle an open relationship, but would like a man who is at least willing to entertain such thoughts.
But, truly, if speaking from my gut, I could see myself in a profoundly loving monogamous relationship...one where neither of us ever feels neglected, and are fulfilled because we are all each other needs. My
AFF blog mentor says I'm not being true to myself in this idea--that I am much too sexual a woman to be happy with monogamy.
The answer is still YES though, if speaking from my heart. Even if I am going through a post-celibacy amorous period of exploration presently--my plans are to start seeking someone to spend the rest of my life with in the not-too-distant future.
Whether that relationship is structured more openly...only our open/evolving communication will determine that as we grow together.
Welcome to SweetMamm, I hope she is enjoying her time here
with all the other great bloggers of blog land.
Thank you for another interesting interview today my friend.
I hope your enjoying a relaxing Sunday..
Thanks for the welcome! I'm most definitely enjoying getting to know fellow bloggers! I also appreciate spunkycumfun's interview/editing skills!
@spunkycumfun
Absolutely! Thanks to folks like y'all!
I enjoyed reading this interview. @sweetmamm's candor is compelling. I'm not sure I could be so open and less sure that I'd be even a fraction as interesting. So thanks, @sweetmamm and thanks @spunkycumfun
Thank you! Honestly, I'm still reeling from what I just divulged...gotta not go retreat in my shell this time! Now that I've ripped off the bandaid, giving me courage--my plan is to continue being forthright with many more explicit autobiographical stories to come. I'm glad you found my interview interesting.
Everyone is interesting...go for it!
@sweetmamm It wouldn't be a long post if I were the subject.
@spunkycumfun: So- care to tell us a little about yourself, kzoo?
Kzoopair: Ever heard of Dick from the internet?
@spunkycumfun: Um...ah...I see...yessss...Yes I have.
kzoopair: THat's me. Just an old horse's ass annoying decent folks on the interweb.
Then we'd break for a Metamucil commercial and the program director would frantically run an imaginary knife across his throat and pull the plug.
@spunkycumfun Heavens no! Who'd want to read that? You'd be better off interviewing Fred Girdley.
Nice read!!
Thank you...and thanks for reading!