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I get that inkling at times. But then I get the “what if”. What if the good one is here, then I am not and I miss it. So, I don’t sweat it or obsess over it. I don’t base my happiness on it. I just roll on. Maybe I have a case FOMO. I will know when it is time to exit. I do enjoy the blogs and different takes on things here.
I'm with you on the What-If. I even did a post on it recently. I move through the real world fairly content but there are times I'd like just a bit more out of life. Perhaps I'm just being greedy.
You know…you might be on to something here. Because unless someone is extremely new on the site, having a gold membership certainly seems like a sign of not having common sense.
Hope it works out for you!
I need to at least try. Giving up goes against the grain.
I could never find the Dating side or women our age. With everything this site has taken away from the Standards I keep wondering why I have not left yet. I guess there are too many blogs I enjoy reading. Even tho most are not blogging as much now.
The Dating side is difficult even for a woman.
I've given up on the dating side completely. Stick around for a handful of bloggers. And soon I'm sure that won't be free either and I'll finally end my nearly decade on the site.
I am very close to giving up on the dating side. It's just that stubborn streak in me that hates giving up! Dammit!
@rm_Johnson3434 I'm not giving up blogging ...at least, not yet.
A perfect example of what this site has become! I paid for a silver membership once on this site and met a wonderful woman that introduced me to the life style. I dropped my membership when the silver as it disappeared and stayed on as a standard. I met a lot of people over the years but they have past away or moved on, now the site makes it difficult to contact others unless you pay for it. Past issues and the continuing problems with the site make it impossible for me to buy a membership.
Not every person has enough points to get Standards May Contact. Your comment makes me glad I chose that option. I remember the Silver membership. They should never have gotten rid of it.
Well, I am in the same boat. I was going to cancel too but I figure that nothing good comes from quitting. Even if I don't find anyone reading some of the profiles is great entertainment. So, it is worth it. lol
It's definitely cheap entertainment, at times.
I feel you, there are some kindred souls here I adore. I hope sincerely that you find all you seek
I'm enough of a realist to know that I'll never find ALL that I seek ... but I still hope to get close.
Welcome to my blog.
I've decided to blog on Medium instead of here - the site just overcharges you and gives you really nothing back.
I wish you the best, I feel your frustration!
You may have missed the point of this post. I'm having no problem with the Community side or with blogging. It's the dating side that is frustrating me ... and not the site part but the men.
I ain't been on this site but few times and not tech savvy at all and completely new to online anything for real, and super frustrated at the entire experience on here so far. I have no clue what's going on. What to do. How to chat. Friend request. View any content. No nothing. Guess you have to swipe the card and upgrade which would be ok but don't even know what gold does or what I'm purchasing. Smh. If anyone feels inclined to help out, would be appreciated.
I have been on this site for over 10 years. Here's my 2 cents worth of advice.
The right person is out there. Hugs!!
Perhaps but the pessimistic part of me (a small part but it's there) figures the right person is probably already with someone else.
I have wondered, recently, if I've aged out of this place.
@superbjversion2
@lonlyforlove2 I never wonder if I've aged out of living and loving ... just this particular site.
@superbjversion2
I hope you do a followup re: the standard may contact selection. I'm curious if it even actually works in real life. Standards find out pretty quickly that they can't initiate emails so unless there's a banner on your thumbnail or profile indicating that they CAN email you, how would they even know? I guess you could indicate that in the first few lines of your profile so that a mouseover would reveal that, but with so many people using phones to access the site, is there a mobile equivalent to mouseover. So many questions.
I placed my Standards May Contact on my profile as my status. After reading your comment, I went mobile and looked at my profile. The status bar doesn't show. So I moved the Standard note to my tagline which does show. I'll let you know how it goes.
It seems like no one swings anymore. Everyone is looking for a "relationship" or "soul mate" or "serious relationship".. Doesn't anyone just want some good sex and possibly ongoing swinger or fuck buddy anymore???
Been there. Done that. Got bored with it
btw ... Anything ongoing, even a fuck buddy, is a relationship. I'm not looking for a soul mate or anything serious. I just woul like my good sex to include outside the bedroom stuff.
If at first you don't succed, try, try & try again. Good luck anyway. 🤗
I do try again...and again... and again because I know that you can't succeed if you stop.
But you have survived train wrecks before. I wish you a lot of luck. I cannot say I have had any on here when I was looking. Had a lot better luck at Goodwill. They do have some classic items there sometimes.
You certainly deserve to find a good lover close by to do fun things together in the day and then even more fun things in the night.
Sending you big naked hugs.
Thanks for reminding me that I'm a dating survivor! Hugs back, my friend.
@superbjversion2 You are indeed a survivor and one of the best kind. You do not let the past darken your present or future. (Though like all of us you may have a few overcast days.) Hang in there as you never know when the makings of a good relationship may strike.
Hugs again to a most lovely and desirable woman.
Dont give up, you a beautiful great woman. Any man would be lucky to have a chance to have a date with you. Big hugs and kisses 💋💋💋
Thank you for the kind words. Sadly, part of the issue is finding someone nearby who wants more than sex.
@superbjversion2 so true finding the right one and then find out they are 200 mil aways sucks
This site makes it hard to stay, now GOLD will not let you view the entire profile, just the main page. You need to pay extra to view pics and vids. The dating part of this site is a joke.
Things have changed recently with all the nickel and dime shit they pull on you. If not a gold member,, can't private chat in rooms. Have to pay points to chat on IM. Pay extra (like you said) to view pics and vids.
I've enjoyed making friends on the site but that's not what I pay for and the site makes it impossible anymore to really meet someone for fun.
I've not encountered any restrictions on my Gold membership. Of course, we know that women and men are treated differently by the site.
@superbjversion2
Icebreakers are grandfathered into the old system, which is why we're not experiencing any of the changes implemented.
@JN63JPN Oooh! If paying for a gold membership doesn't give you gold (as we know it) benefits, what's the point? The powers that be should really rethink the Silver level ... like the old days.
@superbjversion2
That's what I suggested. I even suggested a breakdown combining the old fee structure and what was gained through population privileges. Time will tell which one of us is right
Train wrecks...hahah....I get it....LOL....please don't leave here. AFF just wouldn't be the same without you.....
Thank you. I think it would take more than disgruntled dating to get me to leave the blogs.
@superbjversion2 So what is considered gruntled dating?
@packageman57 Where you're as happy as a pig in slop. grunt. grunt
(naturally I looked to see if gruntled was a real word)
@superbjversion2 And the answer is???
@packageman57 it seems so. It means contented.
Well, if nothing else, at least you'll have some entertaining stories to tell your grandkids about the wild world of online dating…and train wrecks! 😎
I can guarantee I'll be provided with entertaining stories for my blog, too.
You could find another train wreak of a man OR. You can take a run north of the border and be with the most amazing man ever.
That's sweet of you.
I love the train wreck. Made me laugh out loud. I really hope something or someone comes along to make you smile. I, for one enjoy your blog! I would miss it if you leave us.
I would hang in the blogs for a while, even if I gave up on dating. Of course, my posts could become boring at that point.
Thanks for still enjoying my blog after all these years.
Hope you find you a good man!
They exist. I know good men exist!
@superbjversion2 yes they do and all aren’t taken!
@Bigwilly3392c But most are far away! 😥
@superbjversion2 keep on keeping on
Hey love chat with me!
Did you miss the part about too young and too far away?
It's never as bad as it looks or as dire as it sounds. 🤗💕
They righted that train, didn't they?
I don't know what happened to the train but I'm guessing the guy on the horse talked about those "new-fangled" locomotives.
I can't see any bad things happening, and I hope good things will happen.
They say that good things come to those that wait...but they never say how long the wait IS.