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I agree that it's better to look inside! Of course it's nice when someone is attractive both inside AND outside, heehee!
@smartasswoman
I look in the mirror and I see a woman that looks like a melting snowman and yet, when I'm with a man intimately, I don't even think about looks. However, if I'm with a man that has a lot of kink experience then I wonder how he could be satisfied with me.
That's a very good point - I don't feel insecure when we're having sex - we have a pretty nice connection. π It was just the shock of seeing that video...
I get what you're saying on the kink. I'm mostly comfortable but probably wouldn't make someone happy who wanted to be extremely dominant or submissive.
@smartasswoman Seeing oneself in a picture or video is different than just being naked. It took me quite a while to get comfortable posting for HNW but I still laugh every time a guy calls me sexy.
I am very infrequent in my blog readings.... but I somewhat regularly stumble upon yours... and all I can say is that I really only know one picture of you (fully clothed Wonder Woman) from memory. So, without looking at your profile pics, I can say this.... you - are - attractive. π―π§ ππ
Aw thanks, but youβve never seen my face! For all you know I could be hideous. π
@smartasswoman lol, yeah... ππ I doubt that very much.
My friend Picasso once told me someone had told him "remember, no one is EVER out of your league."
I have tried to live by this, but I have not really succeeded. You are right - I think we do gravitate towards people we feel are similarly attractive to our own level. I have always felt that I am one of those who is attractive to some and not to others, and you can never tell who that is going to be. Picasso has succeeded in living by this maxim, and as a result, some of his girlfriends over the years have been absolutely drop dead gorgeous.
On the other hand, I fall for women I like, not so much what they look like, and then when I have fallen for them, I start to think they look beautiful. So that works okay for me.
I was looking out some old photographs the other day, and I figure I was actualy not bad looking in my 20s and 30s, but I never really knew it. Recently I had the horrible experience of standing in a queue looking at the CCTV behind the counter, thinking "who is that bald old git standing behind me?" Then I realised it was me.......
I feel like most of us never realized our attractiveness in 20's and 30's. And also had no idea about the downward slide that would happen later on (had I been smart I could have just looked at my dad and seen the future).
I like the idea of partners becoming more good looking as you start to fall for them. β€οΈ
Yes I find women with the natural curves highly attractive whom are fun to be around and can hold conversations.
CF4U inserts his obligatory remark about having confidence here. Funny how some things never change! To wit:
Have any of you ever been paired with someone who you perceived to be much more attractive than you? - Pffff, ALL THE TIME!
How'd it go? - π
Did you have other "compensating" attributes that reduced the differential?" - A fun, adventurous, and playful attitude. It helps too that I genuinely like women, not just their body parts.
It's a shame HWD deleted the video, but gives you a good excuse to shoot it again!
I thought you'd appreciate that twelve years ago we already had the dynamic of you wanting me to be more confident. π
I think we will definitely try again. Perhaps with less spontaneity ... i.e. we will actually pose instead of just starting a video and taking a shower.
I suffer from high self esteem so no, I don't think I've dated anyone who was better looking than me, however it's very rare for me to date someone who weighs more than I do. That being said, I'll always remember (with great pleasure) the "mercy" hookup with a hot rich young bodybuilder... he was DEFINITELY more attractive lol!
You're so lucky to have high self esteem! Teach me, guru!
I remember a hookup with a young man (I was young too) who looked like Mikhail Baryshnikov. I was pinching myself. π¬
I think I usually dated men that were as attractive or maybe just slightly less so. I tend to avoid the really hot guys, as I met too many that were jerks. So now I'm shy that way, Yes I know its unfair.
I have been shocked at how many men seek women that are thick or curvy or just bigger. I don't know if it is a mother thing or maybe the thicker women tend to eat 'normally' and are less concerned with calories and such aka 'more fun'. I was suspicious then I noticed many of the men had a type.
HWD's previous partner was quite a bit overweight. So he obviously has no issue with a womans weight. That makes him more attractive to me aka less shallow. And tells me he is looking for the inner beauty and the sexy kink in the brain. He is a very smart man that way
I don't like seeing myself in pictures. The sad thing - when I was really slender, I didn't like my pics even then. I judge myself so harshly. Nobody else has ever judged me as badly. I am really trying to simply accept compliments with grace and thanks. Because the only person that has a problem with my weight or size is me.
It's really sad how we (women that is) have been conditioned to be so critical of ourselves. Your writing shows me a very beautiful person so I hope you can ease up on yourself. Hugs!
Sounds like new shower paying off. Enjoy having drinks and try not to overtime or stress. Like picture
I donβt have drinks on the docket tonight, that was part of the old post from 2012 that I copied in. π Good news is thereβs nothing to be nervous about haha!
It has been weird for me. Today i got a message from a woman on a vanilla dating site who is 71. I will be turning 60 this month but she wouldn't be someone I would be interested in if she was 40 anyway. This is the third time she has reached out to me and this time I just blocked her.
I am currently getting to know a woman who is 40 years old. We have a lot in common and she wants to actually date me. Although we haven't met yet, we have done the zoom and chat and all that you can do in communicating, I am still not sure. Would I want it to work out? YES! But I am not throwing myself blindly just yet. We will meet sometimes soon since she isn't anywhere close to me for now.
My self-conscious mind thinks, would you be ok with me being older? She says yes. She tells me the men her age just want to hit it and go. She wants a relationship, not a party guy. We will have to see.
Whoa, is that her? π²
You know from my recent post that my ex took up with a woman 20 years younger and theyβre still together, so these things can work out!
At the same time I think youβre smart not to throw yourself in blindly until an in-person meet can occur. Iβll admit , Iβm very jaded about chatting with people who arenβt nearby. Early on here, there was more than one time where I put in a LOT of time chatting with a man only to have it come to nothing. And Iβm pretty sure they never intended to try to meet, I was just idle entertainment for them.
Not that Iβm saying thatβs whatβs going on here. Just be careful. π
Congratulations
Being overweight is a huge ego and confidence killer. Yet some men prefer it or donβt mind it. I love those menπ. Yes, I have had handsome men who never failed to male me feel at ease. But I am always surprised when any man is attracted. Itβs a curse.
God bless the men who like women who arenβt skinny!
Most of my partners are terribly kind about the weight I've put on even though I feel completely shitty about it. I'm not sure how much they just like a thicker gal vs they know I am going to make sure they have fun no matter what I look like. I hate pics and vids of myself but hubs loves them so I tolerate them. But I totally get it... it's tough.
I'm pretty sure most guys aren't as turned off by our extra lbs as we are. Well a lot of guys anyway. I love for you that hubs likes your pictures. Hugs!
Wow.....did he delete the one where he is shorter too? If so...id say ur even. Im sure he would have liked looking back on the one he thought was hot.
Ive never considered this question. Im attracted to smart n funny. A beard is a plus . An interesting post~
It was the same video - the one where he realized he's quite a bit shorter is the same one where I realized I'm fat haha!
Like you, smart and funny is more important than looks to me. He is both. π
You pose a problem with your question that I often ponder, it would appear that after 60 there seems to be a shortage of available women that I am physically attracted to, I am often now considering if I can put personality top of the attraction list.
I guess it's the same for some of you girls.
I'm kind of jealous of my sister who's been married for 50 years. At least she and hubby have the memory of when they were young and hot?
Whereas it is tough to have the confidence to present yourself to a new partner after 60. Even if they're old too!
P.S. Anyone old enough to thinking along these lines isn't a "girl". π