Living the Lifestyle
One of the reasons we started this blog was to share our stories and experiences with you.
This one is from both of us. We have been seeing a lot of posts with people saying they are wanting to get into the lifestyle and/or asking for advice. We even have seen a lot of guys asking how to convince their woman to do it. Honestly, that is already a set up for failure of your relationship. This lifestyle is not something you can just dive into on a whim. So this series is about our experiences with this lifestyle. This one is the story about how and why we successfully joined this lifestyle.
First of all, we didn't just one day say we were going to do it and, "poof!" we did it. Even today, this is not something we do regularly. I would say that at least 80% of the time we are monogamous. We chat with you here, but even then the odds are we may never meet, let alone have sex. But there is always a chance that we will, we don't just jump into things with just anyone. Being part of this lifestyle adds to our sex life, it doesn't define it.
Next, is more about the online aspect of this lifestyle. A lot of you say that "Midwest" is a large area and ask me to narrow it down. There is a reason we have it like that. This lifestyle is focused on comfort level and "Midwest" is the area of the United States that I'm comfortable with letting EVERYONE know I'm from. Even if you look us up on the dating side of this site, we don't live there. We do have ties to that area, but it is hundreds of miles away from where we live. Does this make us appear shady? Perhaps, but it's for MY peace of mind. Let me explain...
A while back, I had a stalker. This guy acted like we just ran into each other wherever at times. He eventually started "asking me out" and would get upset when I would say no. I had no interest in this guy, mainly because he came off desperate and there was something off about him to me. I just never wanted to be alone with him. I guess he thought that because I was on an adult hookup site I must be easy and willing to fuck anyone, which is not the case. I had no idea he knew I had a profile here as he played like we just happened to meet by accident by running into each other, a lot. It wasn't until later that I found out he was stalking me and planned for these encounters to happen when they would.
I'll cut out the stories of him following me and finding out that he stole a pair of my panties while I was using the restroom at a Laundromat. He sexually assaulted me one time by groping one of my breasts and put his other hand down my pants trying to finger me. My friends got him off of me quickly. When asked why he thought it was OK to assault me, he called me a cock tease because of my profile here but yet wouldn't fuck him. I got a restraining order and moved when my lease ended after all that. So yes, Midwest is a large area, but it's my comfort zone. I shared this with you to enforce that the lifestyle is all about comfort levels. Not just your's but everyone involved. Be respectful of everyone's level and things will be great. If you don't, things get weird and you will not have a good experience.
So how did we decide to go with this lifestyle? We talked about it openly. We had a conversation one day about what we enjoyed about our sex life together. Basically it came down to that we enjoy sharing the experience of the moment together. He told me that he would love to see me enjoying the intensity of that first time with someone new again. I told him I wouldn't cheat on him again and how I was more than happy with our sex life together. He told me that in the past, it wasn't that I had sex with others that hurt him. It was that I lied about it and didn't include him in the experience that bothered him. I thought about it for a while and realized that it wasn't the thought of him having sex with others that would make me jealous. It was the idea he was doing it behind my back that I had issue with. We talked about this for months, just making sure we were being honest and not just fantasizing in the moment together. This was when we knocked on the door to join this lifestyle.
One night, on a whim, we went to a swingers night at a local club. We just went in to get a feel for the lifestyle. We sat down on a couch and had a few drinks. We talked with others there and enjoyed a totally relaxed atmosphere where anything went between consenting adults. What stood out to me that night was two couples next to us. The ladies were bent over the couch side by side with their skirts up and talking about anything and everything. The guys were fucking them also talking about their week. They would also give each other tips on what their partners liked and would try it. I realized after a bit that they were spouse swapping and that made it more exciting. We didn't partake in the festivities that night, but we enjoyed the relaxed atmosphere and all that was going on.
A few weeks later we went back. After a few drinks, we were talking with another couple when I noticed hubby was staring at me with a bulge in his pants. I jokingly asked if I needed to take care of that for him. The other couple laughed and the woman said if I wouldn't then she would. Hubby looked back at me and asked, "please?" I figured why not, and said go for it. She smiled and pulled hubby's cock out and started licking it as I watched. I watched her lick all over hubby's cock before she took him into her mouth. I heard hubby gasp and I looked into his eyes for the first time since it started and asked him how it felt. He said it felt great but he was expecting me to take care of it. I was surprised, he had another beautiful woman sucking his cock and he wanted me doing it. She pulled hubby's cock out of her mouth and smiled. She thanked me for letting her suck my man's cock then told me that I should take over. I did enjoy the show, but now I wanted to finish hubby off so bad. Knowing he had another woman sucking his cock but still wanted me doing it made me hungrier for his manhood.
I quickly went down and took over sucking his cock. I watched the other woman sit next to her husband again as they watched me go to work. The guy asked his wife how it was having hubby's fat cock in her mouth. She nodded in agreement as she started playing with herself while watching me. I pulled hubby's throbbing, spit covered rod from my mouth and gasped a little since I was deep throating him for a while. I asked them how they liked the show and the guy asked me to lick hubby's balls for a bit. So I slid down a little further and licked hubby's balls as I looked over and saw the other guy was slowly stroking his cock. They watched me suck hubby off while they masturbated together. As hubby was getting closer to exploding, she asked if he would cum on my face for them. Sure enough, at the last moment he pulled his cock out of my mouth and moaned as he shot his thick ropes of spunk over my face to their delight.
When I sat up, I realized that about 6 other people surrounded us and were watching our show. We stayed and had a few more drinks, talked with other people for a few more hours then went home. It was our first time finishing in front of an audience and a fantastic evening and experience to say the least.
18 comments
Very nice story Midwest
A great insight from you on this subject.
Never been in your position as such as when I had these opportunities it was with a fwb, so no real attachment. She is no longer my FWB as we moved away from each other, exciting to see her with another/s but no jealousy or other feelings getting in the way. Glad to see your honest account of the first visits to swingers club/parties too. My introduction was just with a couple in their and my home and it took a few visits before anything really happened too.
Great story, and you explain very well the love and trust that has to exist between a couple before embarking on your chosen lifestyle. Thank you for this. 🙏
You are great. Keep posting
Last night was amazing anyone interested
Awesome! It's a great lifestyle. Your doing it great! It's not for everyone. Some people want to try a 3 some with their spouses..then they find out its not for them. I have had an experience where I got naked with a couple and the man...as I was going down on His wife.... told me to stop. She was enjoying the way I was licking Her pussy. She had told him a few times that I was making her feel good. He did not like that. So, I stopped and we got dressed and we left. We never stayed in touch. You two are having a blast! I love reading your blog!!
We understand that also. If you were doing something to me that I was really enjoying, hubby would ask you to show him what and how to do it so he can also do it for me later. But not everyone is like that. 😕
He says he wants to please me. But yet he won't do bi-sexual stuff with a man even though I ask him to do it all the time. 😢
(Yes, it's difference in comfort levels and he doesn't mind watching guy on guy with me. He just refuses to participate in it. I'm hoping to desensitized him with it eventually by busting his balls about it to where he'll finally do it for me. 😂)
I would love to get in on that!!!!!
I'm sure. Not many guys wouldn't. 😉
@Midwest24fun Just waiting for an invite! LOL
@fniguy01 maybe one day. Never know what could happen. 😉