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I think it feels like love - but it's not real until you meet: you've "fallen in love" with the idea of someone, how they've presented themselves to you, how they have come across, all the things you've projected on to them. And that's all great - but in person connection and chemistry are crucial, and don't, in my expression, necessarily follow on from a great online connection. Usually why it's better to meet sooner rather than later, I think.
I'm thinking its lust. I've met some amazing men that give great e-mail/texts but when you meet face to face....crickets.
That happens far too often to me as well, and I really try to open the conversation, and still nothing... fucking crickets, someone gimme the RAID!
@Valkoinen_Leski @KittensnOrgasms it’s not about the naughty talk. It’s about the conversations in general. The ability to connect with what the other is saying and not just agree but expand on it. Yes it’s easy to sit back in a chat and be a passive participant and make the other person feel valued. It’s another thing when you actively engage in that conversation. Making points and counter points. It takes true energy and engagement to do that. Yes most relationships do start from lust. Especially from a mans perspective as we are visually stimulated. It’s easy to see a beautiful woman and lose ourselves in what we see and not really pay attention to what we’re hearing. To be honest one of the reasons we haven’t exchange intimate pictures. The second being we both want the first time we meet to be the first time we see each other completely exposed. But yes in our core we are still animals that have an internal desire for lust. It’s only our ability to reason and judge right from wrong that separate us.
Just my thoughts and opinion. And with that and $5 or more you can get a cup of coffee.
Gonna go with lust. The fantasy begins to build the further conversation progresses. In my opinion people will tell you what you want to hear, or what they want you to know. Until you can physically watch someone react to everyday situations, you don't really know much about them.
Don't get lost in the mists of illusion.
So very true! You have to learn to separate the fact from fiction. But this is where having the skill of profiling and reading people is a benefit. Asking the same question different ways, comparing answers, looking for inconsistencies in answers or stories. People shoveling BS eventually screw up its in their nature. Lies will eventually rise to the top.
Sure sure don't get lost in the mists, but by all means explore that territory!
Grest dong if i ever fall in love by shai
I believe it can happen, it has yet to happen for me, but that is not to say it can't. I don't believe, for me at least, that it would be real love until we met in person and the chemistry and connection were still there and continued to grow and deepen. Online can be a great starting point.
Very possible and very special
It's possible, in the sense you really get to know their personality and who they are... but sometimes people sometimes present just a front in order to attract. A lot of times once you meet you realize this. It's a difficult dance... I met my girl online elsewhere, but she messaged me first for some reason but we quickly switched to using Whats and Instagram etc.... and we did talk more and more until I took the leap of faith and went down to visit her and spend time with her in Colombia... and thus began our courtship... 2 months later I was totally head over heels and proposed to her!
This sounds like lust BUT with genuine affection. It's a really good thing.
No until you meet, you are really just fantasizing. There is no knowing whether you will hit it off in person, until you actually meet in person. Everything you do before then is just creating a fantasy in your mind of what you think its going to be like!
I think anything is possible. That is, you can develop feelings this way. Build a connection for sure. I've done that several times and still have some enduring friendships from meeting this way. But, feelings are fleeting. You can't know for sure if you want a "love relationship" with someone until you actually meet. And spend time with each other. That's when you know that love is enduring and a life with someone is truly possible and workable. But, what a fun way to begin a relationship!
Definitely, nothing ventured nothing gained
I def thinks its possible....it depends on if both people are being genuine and on the amount of time spent talking....emailing....sending cards/pics/ etc. Im not talking hours of connecting on line...im talking weeks...months etc.
After the intial hours of talking....its no longer lust. Lust is fleeting in my opinion....n comes n goes.
A genuine connection takes time to develop and if either person doesnt take the time.....then that speaks volumes and defines what they are looking for.....and its up to the other person if they wanna participate in that kind of relationship.
Here is a place with all kindsa everything.....something for everyone. We just have to have to find that like minded person~
There’s an old saying, nothing ventured nothing gained!
You can't love what you don't know. I met my second husband-twice widowed, and a lover online. Spent several weeks chatting via email with both before could meet either. Had a lot of sparks when first meeting. But also had 3 times it seemed there would be sparks via messages and phone calls and fell flat on meeting.
Life is full of two things, chances or missed opportunities!
@ILove69xoxo as well as potholes to miss and bullets to dodge.
@Ladyvivamus I dodged plenty of bullets in my 32 years in the military and potholes they’re a part of life. Sometimes you have to wager the most to win the biggest.
@ILove69xoxo if you don't bet you can't win.
Hmmm, good question, maybe lust could turn into love
It's incredibly possible. I wouldn't believe it if it hadn't happened to me. I was in a loving relationship and I still fell madly in love, as did he. Our entire relationship was on the phone and online (Skype). I felt like he was able to touch my very soul.
When you lack the physical you fill that void with more of the other things you do have. Like a blind person can smell, taste and feel more intensely because they are compensating for the missing sight.
Yes you most definitely can fall in love with someone
that you haven't met!!!
I agree! And it can be a very intense love because it’s not clouded by the physical. You’re connecting to the mind and personality.