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If they are having sex with other men, they aren't straight and are not "bi curious". They're bi, at least.
Then they wouldnot be straight in my opinion
Agree with others here. If he is having sex with other men . He is no longer straight. He is at least bi or gay. His cranky attitude is because he knows deep inside that what he is doing is wrong. First . Wrong by neglecting you. His guilt is what is fueling the personality change. Don't know where you stand on having sex with him but I have several options . Have you thought of doing a mfm or mmf with him ? If that is not a possibility then it is not fair for you to do with out . And you are correct. We are not dead or uninterested in sex at 60. I am 69 and still love it. Second possibility is to see if you two agree to you having a lover to fulfil those needs for you. He is having that filled with what he is doing. Believe me . There are lots of older straight guys like me that would love to help. As we age . Health reasons often leave a mate hanging on their sexual needs. Mine has declining mental problems. I hope I have helped some.
Yes, i am one of them. Fem. CD sissy boys.
Just hope you stay safe in whatever you choose to do 🙏 abuse is a bad sign. Best wishes to you and yours
Keep an open mind sex can be fun with anyone.
It happens and might be worth exploring with him, just something about it that drives me wild! I've been working the idea into my man's head for years and now he's willing to submit to giving it a try. When ever we are having sex I just need to talk about it and he gives me a great ramming until he explodes! Can't wait to find the right fellow or great looking tranny to actually put him in that situation for real!
Why don't you offer to meet bi men with him and do this together?
He doesn’t want me to see him doing it and he doesn’t want me involved…I think he’d get jealous because the guy would pay more attention to me he’s has immatured soooo much in the last couple years…I don’t know why…
If he is getting abusive, is there any possibility he is using drugs of any sort? Has he asked to end the marriage or does he want to keep up appearances?
He’s used drugs the entire 30 years I’ve known him and he’s become extremely abusive this past year
@Deepurrrr oh wow. I hope you stay safe. If getting out is an option, it sounds like the situation has changed. Maybe new drugs now that he is experimenting sexually? Possibly even judging himself. Many people are gay and either hide it or try to just live the typical life. It eats away at them. Not saying that's his situation but by your description it sounds like it could potentially be this.
There seem to be a lot of guys on here who are not getting oral sex at home and go looking for a guy to give them what their wife doesn't. There seems to be a view that it isn't cheating if there isn't another woman involved.
I’m into doing anything to keep him loyal to his vows and his true morals …I’ve found a couple pictures children (not inappropriate ones thankfully) but I don’t recognize these children so it has me concerned but I don’t have any weird feelings about that….I just can’t understand why he’d be averse to 1. Keeping his morals, he would opt to deny me for some sweaty (possibly diseased) man..gross and 3 why he’s hitting me after this last year…I’m seriously thinking about divorce even though it would destroy my Christian relationship with God
@Deepurrrr If he's abusing you, I would leave. That shouldn't have any effect on your relationship with God. Being vindictive about it would, but you can leave him without doing that.
@Deepurrrr faith and a wayward spouse tend to clash. Pray for him as well as yourself for guidance in this situation. I don’t think God wants you to live that life. Read Paul’s advice to the married couples. You might be surprised what he says about an unequally yoked marriage.