56 posts 4/10/2019 8:17 pm
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"JUMPING IN THE SACK"
I HAVE A QUESTION ......... I HAVE DONE SOME DATING LATELY AND THE GUY ALWAYS WANTS TO TAKE TO BED AFTER THE FIRST DATE.........is this an older man thing .......in a rush because time is running out? I like to take it slow and find out if I even really like the guy........most of my friends say go for it but ..................don't know about that! How do you guys feel about it..........if you like the guy go for it? I would love other opinions on this. C'mon guys let me know how you feel also. do you feel like time is running out?  I was always taught that the man makes the first move is that all old school now?
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6195 posts 4/13/2019 12:55 am |
Ahh gee Greeneyes I never thought it was an older man thing. I always thought it was a "man" thing period. I haven't dated in a while and now that I am that age to me companionship means more than jumping in the bed. Mind you cuddling would be a good thing. 
GREEN__EYES replies on 4/13/2019 5:09 pm:
I agree shar..cuddling is a good thing. |
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1189 posts 4/13/2019 9:49 am |
hold out for the right guy, then tie him up and have your way! If you want a guy to cuddle make sure he is exhausted and spent first
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1189 posts 4/13/2019 10:00 am |
some ladies prefer a stable of lovers, some just an exclusive guy on call. Just don't fall for the "man who wants me for me" fantasy , you are better off enjoying activities with your girl friends. Its not unusual for a woman in her golden years to miss 'that' in her life too. Sometimes a little of 'that' goes a long way and you are better off living alone as long as you can. You could consider a married guy, or one very independent. And just assume he has other lovers too. That perfect 'romantic', or 'confident' pushy guy at our age, I wouldn't trust him. And know you are still attractive
GREEN__EYES replies on 4/13/2019 5:14 pm:
Thanks for the input...... |
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1189 posts 4/13/2019 10:18 am |
and be careful what you tell your girl friends, if good they will move on him. If negative they will feel better about themselves
GREEN__EYES replies on 4/13/2019 5:15 pm:
Hmmmmmm maybe true. |
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160 posts 4/13/2019 5:07 pm |
Quoting Shartaun03:
Ahh gee Greeneyes I never thought it was an older man thing. I always thought it was a "man" thing period. I haven't dated in a while and now that I am that age to me companionship means more than jumping in the bed. Mind you cuddling would be a good thing.
I agree Shar ..cuddling is a good thing.
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79 posts 4/15/2019 4:29 pm |
Well...at least you are dating....
GREEN__EYES replies on 4/22/2019 10:40 am:
I hope you are doing well....think of you often. |
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92 posts 4/22/2019 8:39 am |
I will add my 2 cents worth. Men have a much higher sex drive. The rules for older dating states that nothing should happen before the third date. That is why I always asked for the third date first. Once you jump into bed no matter which date, I believe a woman has a more serious view of their relationship. After sex, a woman wants more of a commitment than what a man is thinking. In time, a man may come around or he may go on his way. A woman is ready for a very serious relationship. Just my thoughts, but speaking from experience.
RDD
GREEN__EYES replies on 4/22/2019 9:06 am:
You have some good comments RDD! |
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160 posts 4/22/2019 9:05 am |
I agree about the sex drive....IF there is the third date yes there must be something there ...I call it chemistry! What do you mean by "come around" ?? so in other words, a guy goes to bed with the gal but has no serious thoughts about her?? Like he is making up his mind if he wants to be serious?? I'm not sure about the women wanting a serious relationship after sex ...would love more thoughts on that. Thanks, RDD for the comments ! You look like a really nice guy!
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92 posts 4/26/2019 2:30 am |
I feel that woman want love more than just sex. At first, a man wants sex and love will follow. There are two major types of men - boob men and leg men. I have always been a third type - All over man. The more all over you the better my enjoyment and hopefully yours. I am into making sure your enjoyment is equal to or better than mine.
A man has very serious thoughts or he would not have asked you out. Love comes later. Men have never been thought to read signals. Many are never received by a man. I believe most men will not make the first move, but will follow the woman's lead.
I took care of my mom for the last 3 yrs she was alive. She shared some advice. She told me that my major problem was that I was always waiting on the woman to make the first move. She stated that I needed to find a woman that I liked. Had never thought about that, but I do believe she was right.
RDD
GREEN__EYES replies on 4/27/2019 9:37 am:
I agree on the wanting love more than sex...rus you make good points. So you don't believe in "Love at first sight"?......speaking from a women's standpoint or mine. I never make the first move ..now I'm talking about a date maybe I'm wrong in that department maybe a guy likes a gal to make the first move ..who knows lol. It all boils down to chemistry with me if I'm not attracted to the guy It's over. |
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117 posts 1/27/2020 8:58 pm |
I can't nor will I speak for anyone but myself. Back when I was dating, I treated a Lady like a Lady and it was made clear from the start that IF there was going to be sex involved, it had to be HER CHOICE, not mine. I never expected anything but a Nice evening sharing a good meal, maybe some dancing. After that, it was the Lady's choice on how the evening should end and if it ended at the front door then I was ok with it.
I AM and always WILL be a Gentleman and I will continue to Respect a Lady at all times. Yes,,, I'm "Old Fashioned"
GREEN__EYES replies on 1/31/2020 7:06 pm:
Awwwwwwww I love your comment your my kinda guy and I'm sure lots of ladies kind of guy!! Ty for your comment! |
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I personally think that a first date is too early, a man should respect a lady and wait for a sign the lady wants to sleep with him. but at the end of the day that's just my view, wouldn't be better to have more dates so you feel comfortable with each other.
GREEN__EYES replies on 2/9/2020 5:08 pm:
I so agree tone..........but some men think you almost owe it to them or they think they are to old and can't wait.. |
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