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brightsmile003B 84F
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9/22/2018 7:17 am
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MrsJoe 76F
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9/22/2018 7:49 am

There is truth in that, but "level of self-esteem" is somewhat misleading. There are those who think more highly of themselves than they should, and those folks usually show contempt for others because they believe others are beneath them.

Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


brightsmile003B 84F

9/22/2018 11:28 am

    Quoting MrsJoe:
    There is truth in that, but "level of self-esteem" is somewhat misleading. There are those who think more highly of themselves than they should, and those folks usually show contempt for others because they believe others are beneath them.
Hello Mrsjoe.....Thanks for your input and I agree with what you say because that statement is sort of broad and there is always an exception. I hope that you and Mrjoe are well.


MrsJoe 76F
17308 posts
9/22/2018 11:46 am

    Quoting brightsmile003B:
    Hello Mrsjoe.....Thanks for your input and I agree with what you say because that statement is sort of broad and there is always an exception. I hope that you and Mrjoe are well.
Doing fairly well...... health issues popping up, but we are dealing with each one as they come. Traveling whenever we can and enjoying each day together. Hoping to see you again sometime....... I promise to look the other way as you and Joe flirt so shamelessly. ROFL. Let others take that however they want to take it, eh?
Hope all is well with you, my friend.


Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
9/22/2018 1:19 pm

    Quoting  :

I think there are different levels of respect. There is Social respect, which is the level of respect we have for all sentient beings....then there are the many levels of earned respect.Then there is Trust, which must always be earned. Respect and Trust are often in contradiction.


brightsmile003B 84F

9/22/2018 2:18 pm

    Quoting MrsJoe:
    Doing fairly well...... health issues popping up, but we are dealing with each one as they come. Traveling whenever we can and enjoying each day together. Hoping to see you again sometime....... I promise to look the other way as you and Joe flirt so shamelessly. ROFL. Let others take that however they want to take it, eh?
    Hope all is well with you, my friend.
Hello Mrsjoe.......I think as we get older health issues will pop up. As you say we have to deal with them as they come. I hope to see you both again soon also ,I am hoping that Duckie can get something in Chattanooga Tenn .

Lol...yep you can turn your head as Mrjoe and I flirt. He is a real sweetheart and I mean that seriously. You are so blessed to have him and he you. I am hoping that I can find a man like Mrjoe. Both of you take care.


brightsmile003B 84F

9/22/2018 2:26 pm

    Quoting  :

Hello Deborahsu.....Thanks for your input and my parents taught me the same thing as yours did for you. The title is Respect but my take on the quote is that when folk do not have a good feeling about themselves or they have low self esteem they tend to be unkind in their dealings with people. Most folk who have high self esteem and feel good about themselves tend to be kinder and generous. That is what I have found to be true in my dealings with people however there is always an exception to the rule.


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
9/22/2018 4:11 pm

    Quoting brightsmile003B:
    Hello Deborahsu.....Thanks for your input and my parents taught me the same thing as yours did for you. The title is Respect but my take on the quote is that when folk do not have a good feeling about themselves or they have low self esteem they tend to be unkind in their dealings with people. Most folk who have high self esteem and feel good about themselves tend to be kinder and generous. That is what I have found to be true in my dealings with people however there is always an exception to the rule.
I agree with you that it's generally true. A friend who is a Sociology professor in New York, e-mailed me last year to let me know that there was a man in my small community that was a registered member of the American Nazi party. I wasn't surprised when he told me his name......The man, who I have known since he was a teen had been ostracized from the community for his asinine behaviour bordering on the criminal. He has treated his wife(ex) children, neighbours and community in despicable, bullying, disrespectful and cruel ways..........My friend asked me about his background....as a professional doing reseach ......I thought about it for a couple of days and realized that the over-arching characteristic of this Nazi, is his low self-esteem........There are many contributing factors to that, but his 3 younger siblings are normal, respectful citizens.....When I asked myself what the difference was in their nurture, I remembered that their father died when the Nazi was a teen and the younger kids were a lot younger. Then I remember hearing that his father was abusive.....

It starts early in most cases.....A child is disrespected by parents and grows up with low self-esteem and disrespects others.


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
9/22/2018 8:48 pm

    Quoting  :

I was using the term "normal" in a social sense, not in a personal sense......Of course the nazi's behaviour is his normal......I don't understand what you're getting at. What I'm saying is that lack of respect for others is probably cyclical........A child who is chronically disrespected will grow up with low self esteem and disrespect others.......


brightsmile003B 84F

9/23/2018 8:49 am

    Quoting  :

Hello Tanzanite my friend........After putting the blog up I realized that my title was a bit off from the message but I let it stay because I believe you earn respect. The person who earns respect in my opinion will in most cases have a healthy sense of self- esteem. I find that people who are mean spirited and nasty most times have low self-esteem.

I love and respect you friend.


brightsmile003B 84F

9/23/2018 8:58 am

    Quoting sparkleflit:
    I agree with you that it's generally true. A friend who is a Sociology professor in New York, e-mailed me last year to let me know that there was a man in my small community that was a registered member of the American Nazi party. I wasn't surprised when he told me his name......The man, who I have known since he was a teen had been ostracized from the community for his asinine behaviour bordering on the criminal. He has treated his wife(ex) children, neighbours and community in despicable, bullying, disrespectful and cruel ways..........My friend asked me about his background....as a professional doing reseach ......I thought about it for a couple of days and realized that the over-arching characteristic of this Nazi, is his low self-esteem........There are many contributing factors to that, but his 3 younger siblings are normal, respectful citizens.....When I asked myself what the difference was in their nurture, I remembered that their father died when the Nazi was a teen and the younger kids were a lot younger. Then I remember hearing that his father was abusive.....

    It starts early in most cases.....A child is disrespected by parents and grows up with low self-esteem and disrespects others.
Hello Sparkleflit....sorry to be late in responding to your post. I thought that I had last evening but found out this morning that I had not..........getting old does that sometime.....lol. Thanks for your lovely response. I agree with you and it does start early with children because I have seen it happen with friends and their children.


brightsmile003B 84F

9/25/2018 5:46 am

Hello Joannit........I agree with what you say. Respect is a part of self-esteem and when some people have low self-esteem they tend to treat others and themselves in negative ways whereas folk with high self-esteem tend to act in a positive way. That is what I am saying with this blog how ever I should have used a different title.