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TIS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THAN NEVER TO HAVE LOVED AT ALL - TRUE OR FALSE? I know the expression, but is it true? I just read an interesting debate about that. Both sides have merits. One can argue that adversity makes one stronger along with other compelling arguments. The other side is that if you really love someone and lose them, you can never be the same. Loss can take many forms. I am not referring to death necessarily. It can mean a breakup. Based on your experience and point of view, what do you think? I always try to answer my own questions, to be fair. When my first boyfriend and I were through after 7 years together, I went through a long period of not wanting to start over with someone new. The pain was too great. However, I do love my current boyfriend and if I didn't let love in, I would not have met him. Therefore, I do believe "Tis Better To Have Loved And Lost Than Never To Have Loved At All". Elaine Shuel |
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It is true that you can't miss it, but sad that you never experienced it. Thanks for your comment, Knxldy. Elaine Shuel
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3/31/2016 8:35 pm |
I knew from the beginning that I would likely lose my husband becasue he was older than me. This was an issue I weighed when things got serious between us. I decided that I would go for it becasue no amount of loss can take away what I had. He has been gone 12 years and although I have had relationships since I doubt that I will ever love the same again. I figure I was very lucky to have found it once and that took me 40 years. However, just because I am unlikely to have the same level of a love relationship that does not mean that there aren't other possibilities to be explored. Spiritwoman ^i^
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I knew from the beginning that I would likely lose my husband becasue he was older than me. This was an issue I weighed when things got serious between us. I decided that I would go for it becasue no amount of loss can take away what I had. He has been gone 12 years and although I have had relationships since I doubt that I will ever love the same again. I figure I was very lucky to have found it once and that took me 40 years. However, just because I am unlikely to have the same level of a love relationship that does not mean that there aren't other possibilities to be explored. Elaine Shuel
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Thank Hiram. Sounds like a good song. Elaine Shuel
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That's wonderful, BOb. . Happy Anniversary. Elaine Shuel
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I dont know, it's like choosing your poison. We all long for love, many find it momentarily and then it blows up in their face. Those who really find it are blessed, but are probably in a very small minority. Interesting to know that stats if there are any. Judgment Day will be interesting - and all paths lead there.
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4/1/2016 3:39 am |
Hi Elaine: In a failed relationship I think the level of pain a person feels is according to who broke up with whom. The one who broke off the relationship might not feel any pain or loss at all, but for the other person it might be devastating. I think the key to recovering is to move on quickly, and not to sit at home and wait until you're over the person before looking for another relationship. I wish I had done it that way.
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Most of us have loved and lost in one form or the other. The hurt lessens or mostly goes away and we move on.
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Love isn't something you experience once in your life, there are many differing forms of love, we should enjoy them all. Alfie...
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I think that as we get older, we learn more about ourselves and what we need and love in someone else. I think we never really stop loving someone we loved. There is a part of our heart reserved for them. A wise man, my boyfriend, told me that and I agree. Thanks for your comment, Lulu. Elaine Shuel
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Better to have loved, even if you lose. Elaine Shuel
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Sorry I didn't mean you either. I just meant for those that don't miss what they never had, it's sad they never experienced love. Thanks Knxldy. Elaine Shuel
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I dont know, it's like choosing your poison. We all long for love, many find it momentarily and then it blows up in their face. Those who really find it are blessed, but are probably in a very small minority. Interesting to know that stats if there are any. Elaine Shuel
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Hi Elaine: In a failed relationship I think the level of pain a person feels is according to who broke up with whom. The one who broke off the relationship might not feel any pain or loss at all, but for the other person it might be devastating. I think the key to recovering is to move on quickly, and not to sit at home and wait until you're over the person before looking for another relationship. I wish I had done it that way. Elaine Shuel
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Cute way of putting that, dakota. Thanks for your comment. Elaine Shuel
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Most of us have loved and lost in one form or the other. The hurt lessens or mostly goes away and we move on. Elaine Shuel
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Love isn't something you experience once in your life, there are many differing forms of love, we should enjoy them all. Alfie... Elaine Shuel
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Everyone Needs To Experience Love - Daniel I Waited 54 Yrs For But I'd Loved Before him - But Nothing Like What He And I Have Elaine Shuel
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I hope so too, Puzzles. Sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime kind of love. Elaine Shuel
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Your feelings are normal. The fear of again losing someone you love, can be quite strong. I am glad that you took the plunge or you wouldn't be having the happiness you both deserve. Thanks for your heartwarming comment, Pat. Elaine Shuel
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Joe is wise like you, Pat. Our experiences, both good and bad, makes us what we are today. Elaine Shuel
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Hurt, hurts. I don't think there's a positive way to spin hurt philosophically. I would never, ever, try to minimize someone's loss in life, regardless of what it is. Even the BALD guy, whose loss was massive. Elaine Shuel
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You certainly do, akamatt. Good memories are cherished memories. Thanks for your response to my post. Elaine Shuel
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I take it you mean that it is false. It is not better to love and lost than never to have loved at all? Thanks for your comment,_JKH54. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks for your comment, JustAFewAgn. I like that one too. Elaine Shuel
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