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WOULD YOU MARRY FOR COMPANIONSHIP ONLY? Love is great and to me, it is a requirement for marriage. That said, I get the feeling that some people would get married to someone because they don't want to be alone. What is your take on this? I am sorry that I don't come here more often. I always mean to but then something gets in the way. I do miss all of you and I wish you all a great weekend!!! Elaine Shuel |
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I would not Elaine marry for companionship, if I want a companion, I have my family. My children and grandkids. Love is happiness for couples who love each other. Love is ageless. Nice to see you back. "The only way to have a friend is to be one."
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2/26/2016 11:44 pm |
I do not plan on marrying again either. I had the kind of love that only a few experience so would not expect to find it twice. Add to that that I have a life long dependent child. I would never allow anyone I loved and who loved me to put them self in a position where they could be financially or physically responsible for him. companionship is a good thing at my age, in fact it may be a healthier way to live since most of us are getting to the age where we should not be living alone. Unfortunately many of us find ourselves in situations where we live alone, good thing or not. A companion does not have to be a boy / girl friend. A relative, good friend or perhaps just a compatible room / housemate would work just as well. Spiritwoman ^i^
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I would not Elaine marry for companionship, if I want a companion, I have my family. My children and grandkids. Love is happiness for couples who love each other. Love is ageless. Nice to see you back.  Yes I feel the same way. Nice to see my friends here.Elaine Shuel
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H[ Elaine, good to see you. Hope you are keeping well. The answer to your question is, a big fat noooooooooo lol. 
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Deinately not shuel.I am not marriagable, but would never have married without love.I am in aged care, quite the invalid, but that has nothing to dowith my answer! Perhaps I was wrong in thinking some would marry for companionship.Elaine Shuel
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I can understand that, Lulu. One doesn't have to get married to have love or companionship. Good point.  Elaine Shuel
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I do not plan on marrying again either. I had the kind of love that only a few experience so would not expect to find it twice. Add to that that I have a life long dependent child. I would never allow anyone I loved and who loved me to put them self in a position where they could be financially or physically responsible for him. companionship is a good thing at my age, in fact it may be a healthier way to live since most of us are getting to the age where we should not be living alone. Unfortunately many of us find ourselves in situations where we live alone, good thing or not. A companion does not have to be a boy / girl friend. A relative, good friend or perhaps just a compatible room / housemate would work just as well. It does take away loneliness when one has someone around, whether or not there are any romantic entanglements.Elaine Shuel
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H[ Elaine, good to see you. Hope you are keeping well. The answer to your question is, a big fat noooooooooo lol.  Thanks Maura. Your answer is very clear. lolElaine Shuel
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2/27/2016 3:19 am |
Hi Elaine: So nice to see you again. I'd like to have a male friend but I don't feel that 99.9% of men are capable of being 'just friends'. I have tried that in the past and even though both agreed to be just friends, shortly after they start by telling an off colour joke, or start trying to control me or tell me what to wear etc, then they start trying to get physical.
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What is love and what is companionship?. We read the question and each of us has our own interpretation. We assume you mean one negates the other. Defining love that's the tough one. Bells and whistles are just echo's of the past. So love is.... whatever it is now, whatever you can give. Companionship without a level of giving, I'm not sure that exist. Fear does and fear is no companion.
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Hi Elaine: So nice to see you again. I'd like to have a male friend but I don't feel that 99.9% of men are capable of being 'just friends'. I have tried that in the past and even though both agreed to be just friends, shortly after they start by telling an off colour joke, or start trying to control me or tell me what to wear etc, then they start trying to get physical. It just not true.....I can't speak for gay men, but I gotta believe one hundred percent of men, don't want to be your "buddy"
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2/27/2016 6:41 am |
You're way off base with that 99.9%. It just not true.....I can't speak for gay men, but I gotta believe one hundred percent of men, don't want to be your "buddy"
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Can you cook Elaine? 
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Rainier and I are on the same wave length. I enjoy my independence. I love house guests like family & friends, but after four or five days I would like them gone. Hope that you are doing well Shuel!! Hugsss~~~
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Hi Elaine....nice to see you blogging again. My answer to your question is no. I like my own space way too much to share with anyone else. That's not to say one cannot have a companion to do things with. You don't have to live with someone to care and love them.
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I want to make sure I understand what you're saying. I said that I think 99.9% of men are not capable of being just friends. You're saying the same thing but you disagree?? Hell....10 honest men could have saved Sodom and Gomorra. THAT ALOT! loL
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I was under the impression that sometimes one does. Elaine Shuel
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Hi Elaine: So nice to see you again. I'd like to have a male friend but I don't feel that 99.9% of men are capable of being 'just friends'. I have tried that in the past and even though both agreed to be just friends, shortly after they start by telling an off colour joke, or start trying to control me or tell me what to wear etc, then they start trying to get physical. Nice to see you too. Sorry you have had those experiences. Perhaps it's because I have had many phone friendships, I have had some long lasting ones that have been great with men.Elaine Shuel
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What is love and what is companionship?. We read the question and each of us has our own interpretation. We assume you mean one negates the other. Defining love that's the tough one. Bells and whistles are just echo's of the past. So love is.... whatever it is now, whatever you can give. Companionship without a level of giving, I'm not sure that exist. Fear does and fear is no companion. One can have love that provides companionship at the same time. My question involved feeling companionship for someone without any love attached.Elaine Shuel
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I'm doing great, thanks Roxy. We all do have different ideas about what constitutes love, that is true. Companionship to me is straightforward. It is having someone there so we aren't lonely. Elaine Shuel
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Hey Shuel-Great To See You Back- To Me The 2 Go Hand in hand I was going to write that they do but after thinking about it, not necessarily. I love my boyfriend and he loves me and yet I get lonely. He is a workaholic so we don't see each other as often as we'd like to.Elaine Shuel
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Thanks Pat. I feel the same way. I have always found things to do to keep myself busy. I get lonely but never enough that I would marry just to have someone. Elaine Shuel
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Can you cook Elaine? Let's just say, my boyfriend is the more domestic of the two of us. Elaine Shuel
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You definitely wouldn't want a guy like that. Wow, 5 times.  Thanks for your comment, Knxidy. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks _JKH54 I don't blame you. Elaine Shuel
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