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SHOULD A WOMAN CHANGE HER NAME WHEN SHE GETS MARRIED? Do you think a woman should keep her name as is, take on her husband's last name, or hyphenate to keep her maiden name and include his? My sister-in-law kept her name but after their were born, she began using my brother's last name. I asked what made her change her mind. She said it felt odd having a different surname from her . I've never married but I think that I would probably go the hyphen route. I've had my surname for my entire life so it would seem strange not having it. On the other hand, I'd want my husband to know that I love him and want to be part of who he is. Did you take on your husband's name or one of the other options? Would you do the same thing now?    Elaine Shuel |
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Yes Lulu, it is good that one has the choice. I'm glad it worked out for you. Thanks for your comment.  Elaine Shuel
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What's his is yours, Pat.  If it works for both of you, that's all that matters. Thanks for response to my post. Elaine Shuel
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I'm glad that it is now socially acceptable to either keep our own last name or hyphenate it if we want to. As for the kids' last name, that's a choice as well I think. Once people get used to whatever you two decide, it won't be confusing at all.
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I am an unclaimed treasure and therefore my name stays with me forever. I would never give up my last name as I was born with it so why should I give it up.
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I'm glad that it is now socially acceptable to either keep our own last name or hyphenate it if we want to. As for the kids' last name, that's a choice as well I think. Once people get used to whatever you two decide, it won't be confusing at all. Thanks for your comment, Rocket.Elaine Shuel
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I am an unclaimed treasure and therefore my name stays with me forever. I would never give up my last name as I was born with it so why should I give it up. When I talk to my boyfriend tonight (technically this morning), I'll let him know I am one too. Thanks for that great comment.Elaine Shuel
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4/8/2015 6:57 am |
Hi Elaine: I married and divorced twice, but kept my maiden name. We always seemed to be explaining that we were really married when they saw we had different last names. I like the idea of a woman using the hyphenated surname, but if they have children what surname would the kids have anyway, her hyphenated surname or their father's surname?
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I guess that depends on whether, or not you like your last name. I changed mine because it didn't matter to me, besides, as easy as it was to spell, no one ever pronounced it correctly.
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I love the way you phrased that, Shartaun03. When I talk to my boyfriend tonight (technically this morning), I'll let him know I am one too. Thanks for that great comment.
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Liszt, the question about whether women should keep their own names, can certainly be answered by men too. I want to know how men feel about the subject, as well as women. Your comment was very valid. I can see why Maisie would want to keep her own name at times and at other times use yours. I also get that woman with Gomppers as her last name but I've heard a lot worse surnames. Thanks for making a comment on this post. Elaine Shuel
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4/8/2015 10:07 am |
I took my husband's name the first time. When we divorced I legally resumed the original family name (my grandfather used a step parent's name). I loudly proclaimed that this was it. I was not going to go through the work of changing all of my documents "every time some azz hole decided to walk in and out of my life". When remarried I hyphenated and like Massie I can use either. I stayed married until my husband passed and am not likely to marry again so still use the hyphenated name. Spiritwoman ^i^
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That was hilarious, ET.  Thanks so much for your comment. I was laughing about what you said about all your sister's names. Elaine Shuel
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I agree, it should be discussed. A husband can be upset if his wife doesn't take her name. They have to work it out. Thanks for your comment, Helen. Elaine Shuel
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I like your style, Pat. Elaine Shuel
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Hi Elaine: I married and divorced twice, but kept my maiden name. We always seemed to be explaining that we were really married when they saw we had different last names. I like the idea of a woman using the hyphenated surname, but if they have children what surname would the kids have anyway, her hyphenated surname or their father's surname? I guess I'm traditional, as far as the kids. I would have had them take their dad's name. I would have hyphenated mine. Thanks for your input on this issue. Elaine Shuel
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That's why I put up a post asking why so many don't want to remarry. Thanks Roxy. Elaine Shuel
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Elaine I have been asked so many times why I was still single and I heard the expression an unclaimed treasure and decided that is what I am. When I reply with I am an unclaimed treasure they ask me anymore. It works for me so it should work for you.
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No they haven't divorced. There are rumors there's trouble in paradise, but that's not unusual for celebrities. I don't believe everything I read. Elaine Shuel
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I guess that depends on whether, or not you like your last name. I changed mine because it didn't matter to me, besides, as easy as it was to spell, no one ever pronounced it correctly.  Makes sense to me. Thanks for your comment. Elaine Shuel
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Elaine I have been asked so many times why I was still single and I heard the expression an unclaimed treasure and decided that is what I am. When I reply with I am an unclaimed treasure they ask me anymore. It works for me so it should work for you. Elaine Shuel
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I took my husband's name the first time. When we divorced I legally resumed the original family name (my grandfather used a step parent's name). I loudly proclaimed that this was it. I was not going to go through the work of changing all of my documents "every time some azz hole decided to walk in and out of my life". When remarried I hyphenated and like Massie I can use either. I stayed married until my husband passed and am not likely to marry again so still use the hyphenated name. What you did, certainly should satisfy all parties concerned.Elaine Shuel
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The custom here has been using the last name of the husband, with the preposition "de" (Spanish), as "Daisy de MartÃnez". I think that preposition give the idea of "possession", but that's usual. However, now I see that all young married women use their maiden name only.  Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.(Khalil Gibran)
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The custom here has been using the last name of the husband, with the preposition "de" (Spanish), as "Daisy de MartÃnez". I think that preposition give the idea of "possession", but that's usual. However, now I see that all young married women use their maiden name only. I hope you'll be glad that I put up a blog post, to wish and let others wish you, a Happy Birthday!!! I did it because you're a very sweet woman and I know others feel the same. Elaine Shuel
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Oops I should have said they do not ask me anymore why I am still single. Elaine Shuel
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