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When is it wrong to say "I'm falling in love with you"? When a guy isn't sure about his feelings, is it alright to tell a woman he is falling in love with her? I asked 2 guys and they gave different answers. What got me started on this topic is that I was watching The Bachelor, which put the guy in an unusual circumstance. He was down to choosing between 3 women (poor guy, I know) and he told at least 2 women to their faces that he was starting to fall in love with them. The 3rd one he said he was falling for her on camera, but we didn't see him tell her directly. I felt that was very wrong and lost all respect for him. Until he made up his mind who he truly loves, he had no business saying anything about love to any of the women. In the case of the TV show, he might have said it to get them into bed. He told them after they agreed to spend the night with him in the fantasy suite. He might have been worried they would just talk all night. Who knows? In a guy's regular life, to tell a woman he is falling in love with her, when he is dating others, isn't right in my opinion. Same if a woman does that to a guy, when she has multiple men in her love life. I'd love to hear comments on what others think. Elaine Shuel |
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Elaine I watched that show last night. I always question why they make the comment that they are falling in love. To me it would sound better if they said they have strong feelings. Saying falling in love is really only reserved for the person at the end. I think Chris was torn last night. The girl that was sent home no doubt felt she had been sidelined and wasn't expecting that. But hey this is a reality show and he had to make a decision and obviously he felt stronger about the other two women. Personally I wouldn't want to make that decision.
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I don't watch that show to often because it's all staged-- the producers push drama every time they can-- this guy it's all about getting them in the sack-- very few of these matches stay together anyway!! Elaine Shuel
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Elaine I watched that show last night. I always question why they make the comment that they are falling in love. To me it would sound better if they said they have strong feelings. Saying falling in love is really only reserved for the person at the end. I think Chris was torn last night. The girl that was sent home no doubt felt she had been sidelined and wasn't expecting that. But hey this is a reality show and he had to make a decision and obviously he felt stronger about the other two women. Personally I wouldn't want to make that decision. I don't see Chris as the wonderful guy many do. I'm not a fan of his. This just made me lose any respect I had for him. Elaine Shuel
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I don't watch reality shows, because they aren't really real, besides the fact that I don't watch television, no cable, or dish, no little black box either. Personally, if someone told me that they were falling in love with me within a few weeks of knowing me, I wouldn't believe it, most likely because I didn't share the same feeling. That doesn't mean it's impossible, it does happen, I know people that fell in love quickly and are still together, and it's awesome. I think some people use the word love to loosely, I think more often than not, it's lust.
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I don't watch reality shows, because they aren't really real, besides the fact that I don't watch television, no cable, or dish, no little black box either. Personally, if someone told me that they were falling in love with me within a few weeks of knowing me, I wouldn't believe it, most likely because I didn't share the same feeling. That doesn't mean it's impossible, it does happen, I know people that fell in love quickly and are still together, and it's awesome. I think some people use the word love to loosely, I think more often than not, it's lust. My post wasn't really about reality TV. I already have a post regarding that. Watching the show just got me annoyed by hearing him say "I'm falling in love with you" to more than one person. I asked 2 guys. One said, well given he was torn, it was fine for him to say it to each. The other said it's not right. He said that only once the guy's mind is made up, should it be said to the one he truly loves. So, I wanted to hear what others think about saying those words, when a person feels that for more than one person. Elaine Shuel
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I think that it isn't wrong to say, "I think that I'm falling in love with you." when a person is actually truly stating their feelings. I don't think there's a right or wrong timeline as to when a person might say this. Reality shows are staged and roughly scripted, so no comment on them.
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I think that it isn't wrong to say, "I think that I'm falling in love with you." when a person is actually truly stating their feelings. I don't think there's a right or wrong timeline as to when a person might say this. Reality shows are staged and roughly scripted, so no comment on them. Elaine Shuel
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That's great Pat. Sometimes things go quickly and it was just meant to be. I'm glad it's worked out for you and Joe. Elaine Shuel
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2/24/2015 8:58 pm |
My late husband and I both fell in love on our first meeting, 5 AM in a Denny's restaurant. It took a while for either of us to voice our feelings becasue we questioned that this was possible. We were still in love when he passed 20 years later. Before I experienced it I did not believe it could happen either, especially since I was 40 and a single mom with 2 little girls and a disabled son at the time - but it did. As for the TV show, I can't comment as I never watch it. I hate the so called "reality" shows. I never really cared for them but when my son was a participant on one and I learned first hand how not reality they are I lost any curiosity I might have had in them. Spiritwoman ^i^
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My late husband and I both fell in love on our first meeting, 5 AM in a Denny's restaurant. It took a while for either of us to voice our feelings becasue we questioned that this was possible. We were still in love when he passed 20 years later. Before I experienced it I did not believe it could happen either, especially since I was 40 and a single mom with 2 little girls and a disabled son at the time - but it did. As for the TV show, I can't comment as I never watch it. I hate the so called "reality" shows. I never really cared for them but when my son was a participant on one and I learned first hand how not reality they are I lost any curiosity I might have had in them. This post wasn't really about the show. It was to ask if it's fine to tell more than one person that you are falling in love with them, during the same period of time. Elaine Shuel
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Hi Elaine, We don't get that show here and It's not the type of reality show that would appeal to me. That guy sure sounds like a first class jerk though, leading both of those girls on with lies. I agree with what Rocketship says.
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In my opinion, his motive was obvious, Bill. He said it at the fantasy suite, right before spending the night with each of them (2 of the 3 women, at least). Elaine Shuel
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Hi Elaine, We don't get that show here and It's not the type of reality show that would appeal to me. That guy sure sounds like a first class jerk though, leading both of those girls on with lies. I agree with what Rocketship says. He's a jerk in my eyes but the women are swooning. I don't get it at all. Elaine Shuel
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