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Have you made any real friendships here? I've read about some love relationships that developed from this site. That's wonderful. It got me wondering if any friendships have resulted from here. I know that many people like each other but do you correspond outside of this site? In other words is this site good to make new friends besides love connections? Just curious. As we get older, we don't have the opportunity to make friends at school and usually work is either over with or we meet the same individuals at our jobs or work from home. It's hard to make new meaningful friendships. Is this a good place to make everlasting friendships? Elaine Shuel |
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I have met some wonderful woman friends here.............no luck with a guy, tho.
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I have met some wonderful woman friends here.............no luck with a guy, tho. Elaine Shuel
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Elaine, Thanks for your meaningful blog. It's true that one must be lucky to find a great love and a lasting relationship on here. To find good friendship always depends on one another. But one should be careful too in such dealing. Am sure you will find great friends here too, even a few than none at all. It also depends on the kind of feeling, on the simplicity, on the adaptation and acceptance of everyone. In life generally, not every considers or is considered as a great friend. Some or just a few can be as well. Depending on the likelihood, the sincerity and the trust as well. My best wishes to you Elaine. Lisa.
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Find those near you and schedule a luncheon. They have one most every month in Houston Texas. We have them here in Georgia every time someone comes through from another area. Here in the lower 48 we have what we call "bashes". The next one coming up is in Nashville, Tennessee, next will be in Bolixie, Mississippi, then one in Chattanooga, Tennessee the last weekend in Oct at the peak of the leaf season. Friendship can be cultivated better with a face to face meeting. Work on what you feel comfortable with. . The beginning of life, conception..
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I met my Spousal Equivilent (Hawkslayer) on SFF in June of 2006 and moved from Indiana to Georgia to be with him in December of 2007. I first met my best friend Mary (agedverywell) at a Bash in Florida. I have met lots of friends, both male and female on here. Many have been to our house.
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Yes. I have found several dates, 2 long term relationships, and many friends here both male and female , including aome I met in person. It takes a while and you have to kiss lots of frogs. Kind of mirrors real life. You have to know yourself, stay open and honest and don't be afraid to hit the delete button on those who are not a good fit. You will catch a bunch of flack now and then, mostly from those who want to draw you into their no real right or wrong personal stuff (like political or religious arguments or the worst on my opinion personal insults on other members.). On very rare occasions someone will become so obnoxious you need to block them but in 5 years I only had to do that twice and that was because a couple of individuals repeatedly took over my blog to spread negativity, name calling and insults, which is something I will not promote. Due to my professional background as a social worker and a spiritual practitioner I try to be supportive which a few take as insincerity. Lately there are lots of attempts at deception and manipulation so I sometimes call BS to help out someone, if I have the time. I have to agree with those who say there have been better times here for finding friends. Currently blogs are dominated by those who choose to argue for argument's sake but I am sure you can still find compatible people, it will just take longer. My only observation of you so far is that you might have alienated many and attracted those who are looking for something other than friendship. by jumping the gun on discussing your career. Controversial issues tend to do this. Hope you find what you are seeking. Spiritwoman ^i^
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That's fantastic!!! I am quite impressed by that. It obviously is a great site for making real friends. Elaine Shuel
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It's hard to find love but hang in there. Elaine Shuel
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That's good. The more open you are to others, the better your chances. Elaine Shuel
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Elaine, Thanks for your meaningful blog. It's true that one must be lucky to find a great love and a lasting relationship on here. To find good friendship always depends on one another. But one should be careful too in such dealing. Am sure you will find great friends here too, even a few than none at all. It also depends on the kind of feeling, on the simplicity, on the adaptation and acceptance of everyone. In life generally, not every considers or is considered as a great friend. Some or just a few can be as well. Depending on the likelihood, the sincerity and the trust as well. My best wishes to you Elaine. Lisa. Elaine Shuel
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Find those near you and schedule a luncheon. They have one most every month in Houston Texas. We have them here in Georgia every time someone comes through from another area. Here in the lower 48 we have what we call "bashes". The next one coming up is in Nashville, Tennessee, next will be in Bolixie, Mississippi, then one in Chattanooga, Tennessee the last weekend in Oct at the peak of the leaf season. Friendship can be cultivated better with a face to face meeting. Work on what you feel comfortable with. Elaine Shuel
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Elaine there are many in here who have met and formed deep and lasting friendships --,usually by going to the bashes held across country during the Year Elaine Shuel
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You always say such sweet things, Dianne. I am equally enriched by having met you here. Elaine Shuel
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There is no doubt that when you chat over the internet or on the phone, you can misunderstand some things. However, I've had lasting friendships with people I never met in person and I truly loved them as friends. Sadly several died years ago so it would be nice to make new relationships. Elaine Shuel
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I met my Spousal Equivilent (Hawkslayer) on SFF in June of 2006 and moved from Indiana to Georgia to be with him in December of 2007. I first met my best friend Mary (agedverywell) at a Bash in Florida. I have met lots of friends, both male and female on here. Many have been to our house. Elaine Shuel
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I love hearing about the experiences others have had. I remember being on a bus to visit my boyfriend when I was around 22. I sat next to an older man, probably around 70 (at least at 22 he seemed to be that age to me. lol). He was the most interesting person I ever met. He told me about his life and I was fascinated. A 6 hour or so bus ride was too short. Elaine Shuel
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Yes. I have found several dates, 2 long term relationships, and many friends here both male and female , including aome I met in person. It takes a while and you have to kiss lots of frogs. Kind of mirrors real life. You have to know yourself, stay open and honest and don't be afraid to hit the delete button on those who are not a good fit. You will catch a bunch of flack now and then, mostly from those who want to draw you into their no real right or wrong personal stuff (like political or religious arguments or the worst on my opinion personal insults on other members.). On very rare occasions someone will become so obnoxious you need to block them but in 5 years I only had to do that twice and that was because a couple of individuals repeatedly took over my blog to spread negativity, name calling and insults, which is something I will not promote. Due to my professional background as a social worker and a spiritual practitioner I try to be supportive which a few take as insincerity. Lately there are lots of attempts at deception and manipulation so I sometimes call BS to help out someone, if I have the time. I have to agree with those who say there have been better times here for finding friends. Currently blogs are dominated by those who choose to argue for argument's sake but I am sure you can still find compatible people, it will just take longer. My only observation of you so far is that you might have alienated many and attracted those who are looking for something other than friendship. by jumping the gun on discussing your career. Controversial issues tend to do this. Hope you find what you are seeking. That said, many people have been welcoming and those are the people that I do value. They will always get my honest opinion and if it's not what they want, it's best not to ask me my opinion. My boyfriend often teases that I'm brutally honest. I've always been upfront. I'm glad you found some meaningful relationships here. Elaine Shuel
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Yes, Elaine, I used to attend the bashes in FL and met some wonderful people there whom I continue to keep in touch with (some through F .
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That's exactly what I like, phone friendship. Good for you, Rainier. Elaine Shuel
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Yes I've made friends. Women and men. I phone them. They keep in touch with me. I've been on the site off and on for many years. Elaine Shuel
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Sounds like these bashes are well run and great for those that enjoy meeting in person. Thanks for your well wishes but I'm only looking for friendship. Elaine Shuel
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Yes, Elaine, I used to attend the bashes in FL and met some wonderful people there whom I continue to keep in touch with (some through F .Elaine Shuel
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I have accepted every single comment that was made on this post. As far as censored, I didn't even know any messages could be censored. I only know to accept or delete them and I've accepted all of them. I am curious why you would think something is missing though. You should definitely report it and please let me know about it. I think it's important that everyone be as social as they want to be. Some just want to check blogs I assume and I would guess some just look for a mate without even looking at the blogs. You attended a bash and you're private and it works for you. Elaine Shuel
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Yes, some are definitely more active than others. I was a member here for years and forgot all about it. I had never blogged here before last week. I'm glad you explained things regarding your question to me about deleting or censoring comments. If Mrs. Joe had posted something, I would have accepted it, as I did for every other comment in this post. What's auto censorship? As far as blocks, I have 1 blocked member from years ago. I think it was a guy that refused to take no for an answer when I wasn't interested. Everyone else can respond. I was upset by your question because I thought you meant that you think I go around deleting or censoring anything unfavorable. I wrote a new blog post about it today because your questions got me thinking. Discussions are good, at least I think so, so I thank you for making me consider the matter about bloggers deleting comments. Elaine Shuel
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Wow, I had no idea that they do that. Elaine Shuel
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