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WHAT IS YOUR PERCEPTION ON DIVORCE? Divorce is a very stressful issue in the life of legally married couples who wish to end officially their union. . Divorce laws vary considerably around the world, but in most countries it requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process. The legal process of divorce may also involve issues of alimony (spousal support), custody, visitation / access, parenting time, support, distribution of property, and division of debt. Divorce procedures also differ in some religions, sects and tribes in the world. In my country, Mauritius, before proceeding to the Court of Law to file a divorce, the parties are advised to attend a private meeting with The Family Counseling and the Couple's Therapy, which comprise of A Legal Adviser, A Psychologist and A Priest or another religious person, according to the faith of the parties. They always try to reconcile the parties, specially those with . Though the couples are not forced to attend these sessions. They are however free to directly file the divorce in the court of Law, where legal actions will proceed. The types of Divorce: Summary divorce; Collaborative divorce; Mediated divorce; Contested divorce; At-fault divorce; No-fault divorce; Uncontested divorce. Causes of divorce: Adultery; (Extramarital sex; Infidelity); Domestic violence; Midlife crisis; Addictions to Drug, Alcohol and gambling; family strain; Insecure; Emotional verbal or physical abuse; Abandon; Furious Jealousy; possessiveness, Lack of Love, attention and Intimacy. It is considered that the first 5 years could be relatively divorce-free, Marriages that had lasted 10 to 15 years are speculated to end in divorce; if a marriage survives more than 20 years it is unlikely to end in divorce, though sometimes liable due to some obvious circumstances. Marriage is like a concealment of surprises, good, less good or bad even. Lots of marriages nowadays, do not even last a year or two, specially among young couples, who may be unprepared for it. Is it the modernism?, self dependency? Lack of maturity? Lack of total freedom or inappropriate or incompatible partners?. What are the main reasons of these currently multitude Divorce??. I would really like to have your views on this issue which will surely enlighten us more on the causes of " DIVORCE ". Thank you so much for your participation and I look forward to reading from you. Lisa.          |
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3/14/2015 7:01 am |
Hi Lisa: Here in Canada if a couple 'separates' (and that includes living together but not having s*x) for one year, that is the most common grounds for uncontested divorce. I've been through two uncontested divorces and both were very painful emotionally and financially. You feel like a failure, especially when you tried so hard to make it work but it didn't. Have you been through a divorce?
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3/14/2015 10:10 am |
I agree with Mrsjoe. When I got finally got divorced the marriage had been done for 10 years but I kept trying to make it work. When I finally admitted defeat no amount of intervention would have changed my mind. My ex did not want divorce and no one other supported my decision other than a few close friends. My primary reason for finally making the break was that I was raising daughters and did not want them to repeat the cycle of unhappy marriages prevalent in my family. Regrets? yes, that I didn't take action sooner. Both my ex and I eventually found more suitable partners. As a strega I perform legal marriages. Part of the ceremony states " if a time comes when love no longer exists it is best to part. Remaining together without love dishonors both love and yourselves." Spiritwoman ^i^
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MrsJoe hi, Thank you so much for your participation on this issue, I appreciate very much your point, you advice and and explanation. MrsJoe, you are a very wise person. May the example you gave us on here, be retained for each one. Thank you again MrsJoe, I've been so glad reading from you again and specially on such a topic. I wish a pleasant weekend to you and Mr.Joe as well. Lisa.
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Bijou my dear, hi Thank you for sharing your experience my dear, am delighted reading from you always on my blogs. I understand all what you've been trough Bijou. Yes, it should have been painful for you, surviving it twice as such. I wish and hope you've found peace now and living happily. God help and bless you Bijou. No Bijou, I haven't gone through any divorce as such. That's why am trying to know the experience of those who have gone through it. this would give me a good idea too. Thanks again for your participation on this issue, I do appreciate it so much. Have a blessed weekend my friend, till we read from each other again. My kind regards. Lisa.
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Mamannie lovely Lady, How glad I am reading your comments in participating on this blog of mine. I thank you so much for your visit as well. I am sorry reading your experience after 25 yrs of marriage as you said above. What else one can do when it comes to an end. I hope it was the best for both of you and wish that you're having a better life now. Thanks again Mamannie and God keep you well and happy always. My best wishes. Lisa.
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Spiritwoman hello, You are always welcome and thank you so much for your visit, you nice comments and participation on this issue. I can imagine what you've been through, dear. Yes, you are correct in your thoughts Spiritwoman. it's better to take the steps you've taken to have peace in mind and for a better life also. Each one has gone through a certain ordeal but has come to the best decision. Am glad for it. Thanks again and have a pleasant weekend, dear. My hearty wishes to you. Lisa.
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Rainier, hi, It's a pleasure reading from you again and on this issue. I thank so much you for your participation and for your visit too. thank you warmly for your nice advice as well, it will surely serve each of us. Hope reading from you again in the future Rainier. Have a lovely weekend and thanks again. Lisa.
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MySeek hi, I am having really a very good idea about Divorce as experienced by my dear readers. I haven't gone through such deal before, therefore reading the others, widens my knowledge and am very thankful to each of you on this matter. I believe you have taken the right decision MeSeek and it's the best for you and for your daughter as well. I hope you have a better life now and enjoying the happiness MySeek, I trust, when one cannot support it any more, then it's the last thing to do. I wish you and your daughter the very best of everything. Keep happy and healthy always and keep also your nice smile too. My kind regards to you with all my thanks as well. Lisa.
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I think that Ann Landers nailed it!!
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Lisa,dear mlld. Divorce is the most unfortunate thing that could happen to a married couple for ending an union that is supposed to continue until death do part them. Hope,your blog would immensely help those who are happily married until now. However, I agree with you that it should be the last thing to do. Have a nice weekend. Regards. look
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Rocketship, hi, Thanks for your visit and for your participation on this issue, which I appreciate very much. You are quite right and Ann Landers has perfectly initiated it. When all effort is done to save the relationship or the marriage, and when there's no improvement at all, the last thing to do is TO LET IT GO. Thanks again Rocketship. Have a nice weekend. L:isa.
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Looklook, mbn, hi, Your participation on this issue is very much appreciated and I greatly thank you for your visit and for your views in this subject as well. Being the only male so far, taking part on this shared opinion, you are warmly welcome. In the event of a divorce, we assume that both parties may be at fault in a way or the other. However, it depends on their attitude, on their ongoing feelings. When everything to the utmost have been tried but failed, then the last painful step is to split, to break-up, to part, to dissolve the union and to divorce. I wish no one to undertake such action but unfortunately in many cases, one is really obliged to. They know better what they've gone or going through to take such decision. I greatly wish each and everyone concerned, a better life and to find the true happiness sought. Yes Looklook, the responses of the above readers have really given me a good idea and have also widened my scope on the purpose or reasons of their divorce. Am so pleased reading from all of you. I thank you again Looklook and hope reading from you as usual and always with the same pleasure too. With my best regards, I wish you a happy weekend. Lisa.
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Leaf hi, It's my great pleasure reading from you on this blog of mine. Thank you very much for bringing up you past experience. I can feel for you on such a case. I am so glad, you could relief yourself here, telling me all what you have gone through. Really it's a heartache but if it was the right decision at that time, do not regret it Leaf. It reaches a moment in life where one or both parties have to take such decision. Leaf, I understand your situation and your feelings about it too. It has happened with one of my relatives as well. Kids were affected by such decision, they were still young but with time but gradually they have been used to it. And now everything is ok for all of them. I wish you to find someone else compatible with you and I wish you a better life also. Life goes on, Leaf, don't let down, have courage and faith. Step forward, look front also, leave your past to the past. Take lessons from it and do the best you can for the future. Thanks so much again for sharing that with us. I wish you all the possible best for the future. Lisa.
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Leaf, Thanks again for your added post. I agree with you that if within a family, there's the matter of drug and alcohol, abuse and violence, the whole family would be ruined in every way. This is so true and it would force in the divorce sooner or later. Thank you Leaf. Lisa.
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