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Excitement and Disappointment I came to SFF about 2 months ago. I was excited to meet people and make new friends. I discovered the chat room right away and have visited it almost everyday since and met many wonderful people there. Those in the chat room told me about the blogs and encouraged me to read them and to start my own blog as a way to get to know others more personally. As I am a writer, I was eager to start my own blog, but while I pondered what I wanted it to be about, I began reading other blogs here. As I was new, I started by reading everyone's blog. Some were funny, Some were sad, some were inspiring, others thought provoking, and some blogs were uplifting. Your pictures were gorgeous. Color me excited to jump in to the blog pool. But lately the nature of the blogs have changed as has the tenor of the chat room at times. I found myself keeping quiet in chat and leaving quickly. I began to question my desire to have my own blog. Tonight I had read enough and found I can not hold my tongue any longer. I have vowed not to hide,not to wear a mask, but to be true to myself and my heart. So, tonight, as my first blog, I find myself in the position of posting out of my frustration and disappointment. I do it because I truly do want to be part of this SFF family, and because I value civility, respect for others, speaking out of a kind heart. I also value being honest with my feelings. So, I am reposting here my response to a post I read tonight. My hope is that just maybe a miracle will happen and someone will hear me and listen just once. The song says. "Light just one little candle" This is my candle. *************************** You know, I am new to SFF. I joined because I was lonely and wanted to make new friends. I have been visiting the chat room for about a month now. I was encouraged to read the blogs and really get to know people. Since I am a writer, I was also encouraged to think about starting my own blog. Well, I started reading blogs this past week. So far, the majority of what I have read is full of anger, hateful words, mud slinging and rancor. I don't care what your politics are. Isn't the site all about finding and making friends? I suddenly find that I am loathe to write a blog, or to even say anything in chat, as I have had my words jumped on, ridiculed, and my intelligence questioned. I just find it sad. And I am seriously thinking of quitting the site, because I am tired of wading through the ugliness and war going on here. Just think about what you doing to those of us who are new, Grandaddy. Is this what you want SFF to be? And don't tell me that the other side does it too. I know, but someone has to be the bigger person and just stop the fight, at least here. Correct me if I am wrong, as I know you will. But, frankly, my dear, I really don't give a damn anymore. Rosi |
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10/17/2013 12:19 am |
Hi Rosi: I applaud anyone in this group who is brave enough to express their opinions and feelings, which you have done so well here. At our ages, haven't we at least earned that small privilege without being insulted when we join any group? If it's any consolation Rosi, from what I can tell most of the bullies are married men. When I was diagnosed with cancer I was in the hospital and wrote a blog about my treatments. Honest to gawd one of the bullies said I deserved to have cancer and he hoped it would kill me.
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I do not read all the blogs. There some that are so far left and get ugly if anyone says anything that they do not agree with. So those I know who they are and do not even bother to read them. I love going to the chat room and have been over 10 years. There really are some good people in there and there are some ugly ones too. The ignore which I call my iggy hotel has lots of quest in there. I do not put up with people that is ugly to other people. I come in there to chat. Yes welcome and do not quit. I enjoy chatting with you and put the bad apples in iggy and enjoy the rest of us.
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I too considered myself a writer not so much a grammatical perfectionist though, more an idea man. I did not write before I came to this site. It took me a while to adjust. At first I looked for understanding and appreciation which came seldom. As soon as realized I was writing for myself and not others it became much easy here. Although, as of recently it may appear I am one those political nuts. My primary outlet here is my poetry. I'm comfortable with it now.
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You will find, in the chatroom and the blogs, the good, the bad, and the just plain ugly....just like real life. Don't hesitate to use the ignore, delete, & ban features. If you wouldn't associate with someone in real life, why put up with them in here!! There are some blogs I just don't open.
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10/17/2013 10:52 am |
Welcome. I can only reiterate what others have said. Pick and choose who you would befriend here just as you would in real life. Like several said most of us found a group of like minded people and ignore the others. Most rant and rave but if you ignore them they ignore you or end up on your ignore / banned list so you don't have to be bothered. Spiritwoman ^i^
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Welcome Rosi, When I first joined, I was frustrated like you too and, in fact, joined the war because I am one who finds it difficult to keep quiet for long. However, I have learned from my mentor, Poet, to go with the flow. There are a few here who were like me too. I guess some have learned to leave us alone. Lee Live today as if it is your last For tomorrow will soon be in the past
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Mrsjoe when you figure why it happened let me know, I can no longer size my print it disappears. Silver, almost all my poems are on my blog, some are pretty good.The others I just keep around to remind me of my humble beginnings! 
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Siver, if you choose to read my poetry, you should start at the earliest blog page and move to the more recent. There's like 13 pages begin at thirteen and move to one. Have a nice day.
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