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"I LOVE YOU" I HOPE NO MAN EVER SAYS IT TO ME! Last night in chat, a friend of mine, said he wouldn't stay with a woman who told him "she loved him". He went on to say when couples get together and a few weeks later they are "IN LOVE" make him sick. I am telling this as I remember it -- not his exact words. I agree with him. That "LOVE" word is so watered down and has been so corrupted it is revolting. I feel sorry for the poor guy that would ever try to say that word to me. People have used "LOVE" to deceive, betray, and delude, poor ole unassuming nincompoops like me.  Dad said it to Mom and meant it. Uncle Elmer says it to Aunt Mary Jean and it's beautiful. My brother says it to his bride of 49 years. She is the ONLY woman he ever said to. It is what God intended. How in the world have we come to this time in history where the word "Love" is only a means to get what you want? A selfish word? A throw away word that can be used at the drop of a hat? Not only can a man love? his woman-- he thinks he is entitled to stay married-- and "LOVE"? his masseuse and probably any other woman who bends over in front of him--all at the same time. His masseuse is "IN LOVE" ? with her husband (and all of her clientele?) Who KNOWS? If this is today's-- "IN LOVE" -- I pass.  Lordy, Lordy! Don't get me wrong. Men are a great invention. Thank you God! God invented men first and then he thought-- "Oh I can do better than this!" and he made women to help them along. I want a man in my life. ONLY ONE! I have expectations of that man. I want him to be good to me. I want him to be faithful. In turn I will treat him good. Cheating is taboo and there are no gray areas. He would be in my heart every minute of the day. (He is in my heart) I will spoil him and will do for him anything any other woman would do (and more). No other woman would ever be able to fill my shoes. EVER! It's because I've needed him for a long time and I won't take him for granted. It is the kind of wife I was. . . It is the kind of mate I will always be. When I touch his face and he will know how my heart feels. I don't need shallow words, his actions will speak loud enough I will know what he is feeling. Isn't life a wonderful thing? What's love got to do with it? ~Spunky's Rant~ P.S. There's a thunder storm here and Miss Vera Wag is sitting on my lap.  Gosh now-- I do LOVE her. LOL  If love is blind then maybe a blind person that loves has a greater understanding of it Criss Jami |
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There are people who say "I love you" to everyone. There are others that say it only to those they really do love. I was happy that my boyfriend didn't say "I love you" at the beginning. When he said it 8 months later, I knew he felt it. He wasn't the type to say it until he meant it. Those 3 little words are important, at least they are to me. Elaine Shuel
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What happened, Spunky? I'm afraid I do not understand your feelings now ... I thought you and a gentleman from NY were in love, right? I understood you both were happy?   Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.(Khalil Gibran)
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Spunky, I am the same way now, the last two men I dated said they loved me in less than a month. My reply? You don't even know me yet, how can you say you love me? Everything was going great before those three little words came into play, I stopped dating after the last one. I really want to get to know someone first, but it seems even love has to be rushed these days, but it really isn't love, it's more like desire.
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I am in total agreement with Mrs Joe as I met my wife(Lynn)at 7:00 on a Friday night and we hit it off right away. It was like we had known each other forever. We got back together on Sunday Night and we have been together ever since. My only regret is that we didn't meet years sooner. She is my whole life now.  Elaine Shuel
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6/6/2015 4:19 am |
Hi Spunky: I haven't even talked to a man in years, and am twice divorced so I'm no expert on love, but to me love has always been something that happens to two people right away. The rest of the things like caring, respect, honesty, liking the person....all that stuff may or may not happen with time. Love to me is when you meet someone and feel instantly comfortable with them, you want to hold their hand, you want to sit close to them and you don't even need to talk. You wait for their phone calls, your stomach does flip flops when you think about them. It's like an unexplainable chemistry, and it's nothing to do with the way they look or how much money they have. You can meet a hundred men and only feel that special feeling with one of them. I have felt that love twice in my life, and I don't know if it was just a coincidence but both men felt the same thing for me.
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Love is different in different ways...I love Alfie, I love chocolate. When I first met Alfie it was so hard to say the words, I love you. I could feel it happening but I wasn't ready to say it. He did quite some time before I told him. One day it just slipped out! Now we tell each other I love you easily during the day and always before we go to sleep.
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I'm glad I came back on to reread what comments I had read and read the newer ones. When I originally read your blog I wondered if what we were witnessing at John As was really happening...it was and I am so happy for you! He is really a nice guy! Here are hugs for both of you from me  and one for each of you from Alfie
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My friends, I guess I am being a little ambiguous. I have always been honest with you. My life is an open book. Mr. NY may find this offensive-- for that I'm sorry-- but here goes. He is in love with another woman. (She is a masseuse) He is married. It was a stump in the field I wasn't going to plow around. Please don't misunderstand me. I don't judge him. He did not do anything to me -- I did not allow him to do. My feelings are my responsibility. NOT HIS! I hope for him a good life.  Elaine Shuel
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I just now found the "blogs"... Just sitting here smiling
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I just now found the "blogs"... Just sitting here smiling
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I just now found the "blogs"... Just sitting here smiling  Alfie...
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Thanks Ya'll... still smiling!
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Now I'm glad for you, Spunky. Good luck!  Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.(Khalil Gibran)
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Spunky I have read your blog and it brought chills and tears to me. Chills to read about some of the wonderful loves in their lives my friends have. I am not jealous or envious of them. I am truly happy for them. Tears because that is the love I have been looking for and never been able to find. I still have hope to one day find that type of elusive love, for me.
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6/7/2015 7:33 pm |
I was worried about you, Spunky. Glad you have seen the light.
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