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Last night we said goodbye..Be at peace my . I've been struggling to keep everything positive, to not fall again. And it does work..let even the smallest amount of joy in your life, it can't help but make you smile. family, friends and this home..my dogs all help..and the memories... As I have said before..this will never leave me..but I can in time learn to live with it....just letting love and joy and laughter into my life. Because there were a lot of young we waited till they were all asleep. the hole had already been dug..the moon reflected on the lake, all was peaceful. My neighbor came here once again to say a few words from the the Bible. He is a minister and was here for Rob. As I returned Brian's ashes to the ground at the foot of his tree I said my own prayer, we all hugged and said our goodbyes. he is at rest..at peace. I kept some of Rob's ashes, and now some of Brian's...they will go with me if I move and will one day join mine at the foot of a tree. I now have a feeling of closure...I will remember their lives and how much they gave to me...hold their love close to my heart forever. In the picture...in the centre..Brian, his ashes in the green velvet bag, Rob's in the ginger jar. Now all put away. Rob's tree, on the right..a scarlet maple and Brian's tree, a red maple on the left. They are a comfort to me. Another milestone done...time for those grandchildren..time for love and living. 
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My dearest Erna, you are a strong woman carrying all these pains losing your love ones almost in the same time and you are right, time to moved on your life, LIFE GOES ON my dear friend. God will give you more strenght for everything! They said that losing a child is more painful than losing a husband and I understand you so much. Hugsssssss Sincerely, Betty "The only way to have a friend is to be one."
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Erna, You are lucky to be able to keep the ashes of your loved ones, we can't here. They have to be put in a cemetery niche or scattered in Memory Alley or in the sea or mountains. No taking the urn home. Kind of unfair. I'm glad you have found some peace of mind now.
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8/7/2012 9:07 am |
I can not imagine a more beautiful closure ceremony. You are so right - now it's time for living and loving. Those beautiful grand children will help. I remember how mine literally got me out of bed some mornings when I would have chosen not to get up. Hard not to react to a 2 year old jumping up and down on you saying "Get up, It's a sunny day". Out of the mouths of babes........ Spiritwoman ^i^
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8/7/2012 10:09 am |
Thankyou for your kind comments. You know..there are days when it's hard to get out of bed, the loss of my men crushes down on me....but I'll keep getting up, surrounding myself with positive influences...and keep looking for the sunshine....That is all you will hear from me now....it brightens my heart to tell you of the smiles , laughter and love...They will always be close to my heart....but I will live ....blessed with wonderful memories..
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A nice and affectionate tribute to your loved one, Erna. You're doing well, keep your positive mind and feelings. And as you say: "...time for those grandchildren..time for love and living". Hugs and blessings.  Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.(Khalil Gibran)
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Thank God for memories! They stay with YOU forever!!
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Hugssss my friend! I'm so glad that everything went smoothly. The trees look beautiful. I too, have kept a mini urn with some of Eric's ashes. The rest I had spread around our home acreage in areas special to us both. When I move, which I must eventually do, a part of him will still be with me. Hugsssss!!!
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What a lovely tribute, Erna.. happy you found closure!
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8/7/2012 2:25 pm |
Wonderful Erna, I have long admired your fortitude in your times of distress. Let the good memories remain.
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TY...Hugs and Prayers for you willcontinue. Available when needed..just pull them out of the air; we, your friends are always waiting there.
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8/8/2012 5:21 am |
Thankyou beep...you are a great comfort and a joy...I have and will continue to lean on my friends ....
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8/8/2012 5:23 am |
Exterra....thankyou for you kind words...
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8/8/2012 5:26 am |
Hi Frenchy...it's an everyday battle....but I'm so lucky to have family, friends, my dogs, my home and a great community....I can reach to them when the burden gets too heavy. (and a lot of my dear friends are right here in SFF)
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8/8/2012 5:31 am |
Rocket, that is beautiful. I can my see my trees all the time and there is comfort in that. I've saved some ashes...to move with me (I will have to one day) and to be mixed with mine. my sister (bless her heart) interred her husbands ashes in a memory wall at the cemetary. She never goes there. it may be a bit daft..but I talk to my trees...a little bit of both my men is close.
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8/8/2012 5:33 am |
Hugggs Anne...you so right..
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8/8/2012 5:35 am |
Ahhh Lucy..you are a dear friend...I've surrounded myself with love...and good memories..
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8/8/2012 5:41 am |
Archer..I'm sorry about that...it's given me great comfort to have their ashes with me. Now the men I loved so much have a living monument and will be close to me. What has been saved has been put away...in case I move and to join me in my final internment...
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8/8/2012 5:46 am |
Hey Roses...it's my brother hun..he'll be going in for surgery the first week of sept.......then we'll know if the cancer was caught in time...He went out and bought a motorcycle, right after he found out...he's always wanted one and rides every day..and what an awesome sister in law I have to support him and help bring the bike home..bless her.
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8/8/2012 5:48 am |
Thankyou so much Betty..I am blessed to have so much support through this time..
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