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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR ABOUT HER BODY Last week I read a blog that made a joke about women's negative body image as opposed to men's positive body image. I know how I was meant to take it......HA HA.......but it's not a joke........it causes a lot of agony,health problems and even death......when I mentioned that on the blog and asked the blogger what he thought the reason for this disparity,he told me that he would block me if I continued to express a "women's libber" viewpoint.I don't know what his problem is, but equality seems to be a big threat to him. How to talk to your about her body Date: July 29, 2013Author: skopelham How to talk to your about her body, step one: don’t talk to your about her body, except to teach her how it works. Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight. If you think your ’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead: “You look so healthy!” is a great one. Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.” “I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.” Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body. Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one. Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself. Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your , or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your . Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself. Encourage your to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes. Help your love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with. Prove to your that women don’t need men to move their furniture. Teach your how to cook kale. Teach your how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter. Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside. Maybe you and your both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants. Remind your that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul. Based on a true story. |
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8/2/2013 6:37 pm |
I wish I'd had a mom like you. Man now joins clubs for the same reasons he once carried them! - Rod McKuen
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 Great blog.
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Thanks for this!!!! 'women's libber view point'....oh my goodness! -would be nice if some of the grumpy old men joined the 21st century.
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8/2/2013 8:30 pm |
Wonderful advice - focus on health in mind body and spirit. Spiritwoman ^i^
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Great blog. Very wise! GBU, Gavin
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8/2/2013 10:00 pm |
Wonderful blog! Women agonizing over their body - what a waste of time and human potential. I still have a weight problem (and body-image issues) which stems from a comment my relatives made when I was 16. Struggled with bulimia during my twenties and thirties. My opthamologist thinks a lot of my scar tissue was due to the pressure put on the inner eye (from self-induced vomitting.)
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