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I write this with a very heavy heart..... I received a phone call this afternoon about 2pm from my mom (stepmother). Her oldest , Debbie had been taken by ambulance to the hospital suffering an internal bleed. Her husband related what the Dr. had said.... Debbie had suffered an internal bleed due to her alcoholism... there was nothing they could do to save her... all they could do is put her on life support with the hope of keeping her alive until her that live 3 hrs away could be there to say their final goodbyes... I rushed to my mom's place and we sat in shock and alternated between unbelief, shock and tears.... Debbie's husband told us not to try to get there as they live about 9 hrs away and there was no way we would make it in time... so we sat and waited for the dreaded phone call... feeling completely helpless... there was nothing we could do... the call came a little after 5 pm... Debbie was gone at the age of 57 yrs old... Her husband in his grief is angry.... angry because her death was preventable... it didn't have to happen.... anger is part of the grief process... I am sure he will feel the pain and tears in the coming days... Debbie suffered from a disease called alcoholism. She had fought the battle all of her adult life... sometimes she did better than other times but for some reason she could not get sober and stay that way... She had several internal bleeds in the past due to her alcoholism and the Dr. had warned her to stop drinking... the last time he told her that if it happened again he didn't think there was another chance for her.... she either didn't believe it could happen to her or she did but took the risk....Think about your loved ones and what it would do to them if something happened to you because of an addiction... There is help out there... is it easy.... NO... but it is worth the fight... This is the second family member that we will bury due to addiction.... it is so senseless... I hope that sharing her story might help someone who has a problem or a family member with a problem to get help... I urge anyone that has an alcohol or drug problem to seek treatment... It can happen to you!! |
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2/17/2014 7:09 am |
As an alcoholic of long standing I can only sympathize. It's a very rocky road for all involved, and I am thankful I took the turn to Happy Destiny when I hit the T intersection.
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2/17/2014 7:28 am |
Comforting energy to you and your family. We have had a couple of incidents of individuals dying of addictions in my family. Coach is so right. As with any disease no one can do anything until the patient seeks help. I have a woman at my residence facility currently in the final stages of liver failure due to alcoholism. She does / did want to live but not enough to recover form the alcoholism. It's a very difficult thing to do as any recovering addict can verify. Spiritwoman ^i^
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You and your family have my prayers. With God help you can get thru this
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So sorry for your loss.
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I agree with Coach, the person has to want to stop for himself/herself, not for anyone else. I suffered from alcoholism for years to escape a bad marriage. Im 30 years away from it now. Its such a shame that your niiece didnt get the message as its such a simple mwaage. She is at peace now and its her family that will suffer. I would suggest her husband go to Al-Anon to try to understand her suffering as well. Alcoholism is a disease and its sheer torture for everyone connected to the family.
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amiga so sorry for your loss.
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So sad, Pink. My condolences to you and family. Trust in dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.(Khalil Gibran)
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