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Anger Unleashed – Does It Make you Feel Any Better? I’m sure it does. I remember the first and only time I allowed myself to express some justified and earned anger by throwing things into the street. I admit it felt good but……. Responding to Dan’s blog earlier brought some of my scattered reactions and thoughts into focus. Anger, meanness and validation of self by belittling others is the “in” behavior these days. Personally I do not think these feelings are new to any of us. What has changed is that we have been given permission to allow them to dominate our behavior. While Trump’s victory is merely symbolic, it gives the behavior validation. The natural reasoning follows that if he won it must be what we too need to do to “win”. It’s the old method of leading by example. Following the leader’s example for behavior has long been touted as a way to advance both in the work place and in social settings. As far back as elementary school the way to gain social acceptance has been to emulate the behavior of the popular . Right or wrong, good or bad the natural leader of the pack became our role model, who we strove to be. While this is normal human behavior we do not need to engage, especially at our age. What prize is there still to win? Do we still need to advance our careers? Do we have any need to dominate the scene socially? Do we have any need to jump on the bandwagon to survive? By this time in life our financial and social positions have been established. We are free. No need to emulate. It is wonderfully liberating to be able to live authentically. Advice I received in my early days in DCFS court work regarding attorney’s outrageous performances applies perfectly “Just because he is dealing under the table doesn’t mean you have to crawl down there and join him.” If being mean, contentious and a bully is who you really are then go for it but don’t perform because it is the “in” thing. If you are a kind, compassionate, respectful don’t allow “popularity” to change you. The people who are right for you will love you anyway and those who don’t shouldn’t matter to you. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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2/1/2017 3:04 pm |
Forgot. Needs a bump Spiritwoman ^i^
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Unfortunately, we have spent the last eight years listening to a community agitator. The outcome is what you see today in the streets. “The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it.”
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A long time ago, I had a bit of an anger problem, but I soon learned if I did something stupid because I was angry, I was the loser. Kick something? Ouch! Throw and break something? I had to clean it up and I now did not have whatever it was I broke. Scream and yell nasty things? The damage caused by that cannot be repaired easily....... unless you are in the middle of a field and nobody else hears you. That is why I feel pity for those people who have to destroy things because they are angry at whatever..... like losing an election. Life goes on. This day really does end, and tomorrow is another day. As you said, especially at our age............  Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.
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2/2/2017 2:56 am |
Hi Spirit: Good blog. I used to feel angry and upset when I read some of the blogs, replies and insults in this group. Now nothing that goes on here seems to bother me very much. I like Liszt's, Fossil's and Leafie's blogs no matter what's in them because they make me laugh. Maisie makes me think and I marvel at her ideas and good writing, even though we have totally opposite views on every topic. I love Ann and Alfie and wish I could move in with them. I have no sisters in real life but think how lucky a woman would be to have a sister like AneMac, Earthy, MrsJoe, or you. I think I've changed a lot since I joined SFF because I have come to realize that on the grand scale of life and death, this group doesn't really mean much at all. Since I joined SFF fifteen people in the seniors' building where I live have died and I came very close twice myself. These life ending or life changing events really put into perspective what is important and what's not important.
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What I notice is that bad behavior is based on disagreement. Bad behavior is supported by whatever political clique you belong too. It's so horrible, that for some here, it's all about the clique. Using the clique to justify bad behavior. the clique only does one of two thing. ignores or supports the bad behavior as to those they see in their clique. Justifiable, because of the disagreement, or what they see as bad behavior from the other side. This is the way, of SOME on the Left, but ALL on the Right. As I read through your blog, it is apparent that those on the right, blame someone else for their bad behavior. My bad behavior, is my own. I don't need support, I do not need justification, from anyone but myself. And as those on the right, accuse me of being alone, so it is, I see myself that way. But I don't have to live with them, but I have to live with myself. Everyday, I ask myself, is it worth it? Everyday the answer is the same, maybe tomorrow it will be. My focus has change since the election, I can not do anything about the bad behavior from the right, but maybe I can change the left. to understand the US against them that the right so adamantly projects, is an illusion. We are all in this together. Even if they don't want to participate. WE have reached a point where disagreement only justifies them. From the standpoint of the left disagreement, they should no longer need to justify them. It was in their illusion that the left has been beaten over the head for the last eight years. I know it, and the left should know it, now that the right has apparently gotten what they wanted. They will soon find out what that is, we don't need to tell them. WE now can speak through the voices of America, one voice that drowns the disagreement. No matter what your particular fear or goal is. whether it be racial, gender, ideology, war, or human rights.. These are not separate things, they mean the same and solutions are found by the same means. Separate voices are not heard, separate voices are drowned out. A black person, not speaking for blacks but speaking of prejudice A woman not speaking for her rights, but human right An immigrant not speaking for illegals rights, but the rights of all immigrants. The dove not speaking against hawks, but speaks of the meaning of love Those that believe in God, not speaking of God, but of the false gods held before them. One America, One voice.
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Great blog, spirit and much room for thought. Some of the comments here are definitely worthwhile taking note of; they might hit home for some. Life is too short to worry about the small stuff. Naturally, we can't all agree, especially when we're on opposite sides of the fence! I remain a proud Canadian in spite of my political beliefs. I don't like what's been going on in our country, as many of you can probably tell (I'm not alone in my feelings either). Life goes on, good friends remain!!  
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