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Is Fear Energizing? Grandkid visit today so major pick up etc. to make sure my toys were out of the way so they had place to eat and play. In the process I found some old magazines I had saved for one reason or another, probably for recipes that after thinking about I would never try. Looking through them before I put them in the recycling I found an article about confronting changes and resulting fear. The author discusses career changes in her mid 50’s and people’s reactions. Many told her she should be considering slowing down, moving to France or the like and enjoying life. (She had considerable success in her previous career and was financially secure for life). She explained that tackling a new career at her age was enjoying life, that she felt like a 27 year old in a 55 year old body. She stated that she saw the fear associated with a new endeavor as energizing. I would agree. The edge or adrenaline rush from taking on something new and thus far unknown has always been a high for me. Exploring her attitude about energizing fear she states that her attitude comes from her father who always told her to think about challenges and ask "what the worst thing that can happen?". Most of the time that is simply that you will come away from the experience essentially the same as you were before taking a change. Sort of nothing ventured, nothing gained. She gave a few examples of this. One that has been discussed often here almost to the point of being beaten to death is dating. I always approach dating from the point of view of why not? At the very least I will have an interesting encounter with someone I didn’t know before. Using this lady’s criteria it boils down to “What’s the worst thing that can happen?” Put this way it is simply that we will return home without having met a good match and essentially in the same condition as we were when we began. Being one who likes the adrenaline rush and being overly optimistic I have seldom missed a chance to meet new people. Some were a onetime thing, some became friends and some grew into relationships. However, I do wonder how many miss a chance to have an interesting opportunity to meet someone new and different, take a chance on a relationship etc. out of fear of negative outcome. Kind of like missing the walk through the forest because a bear could eat you. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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Great blog!!! I considered my year wasted if I did not make as much money on the side as I did on my regular job. I was excited when I retired from my job at age 62 with no fear. I then started hauling horses part-time which I never made a profit but I made enough to pay all expenses to see the USA on my way back home from each trip with no fear. Then we got the granddaughter to raise and I stated selling items to teach her the value of communications, human relations, and most of all learning where a dollar comes from. I still enjoy doing that today at the young age of 72 with no fear. A stranger to me is just a friend I have never met. . The beginning of life, conception..
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I've always looked at life from the perspective of "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." Looking back on some of the things I've done, I don't think I'd have missed doing any of them. Life is a challenge and I've always picked up the gauntlet. Alfie...
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3/22/2013 11:24 am |
Great blog!!! I considered my year wasted if I did not make as much money on the side as I did on my regular job. I was excited when I retired from my job at age 62 with no fear. I then started hauling horses part-time which I never made a profit but I made enough to pay all expenses to see the USA on my way back home from each trip with no fear. Then we got the granddaughter to raise and I stated selling items to teach her the value of communications, human relations, and most of all learning where a dollar comes from. I still enjoy doing that today at the young age of 72 with no fear. A stranger to me is just a friend I have never met. Spiritwoman ^i^
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3/22/2013 11:25 am |
I've always looked at life from the perspective of "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." Looking back on some of the things I've done, I don't think I'd have missed doing any of them. Life is a challenge and I've always picked up the gauntlet. Alfie... Spiritwoman ^i^
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3/22/2013 11:29 am |
Interesting thought - I suppose that the line between energizing and paralyzing does vary by individual tolerance and also the extent of the fear. Some things, like being in the midst of a catastrophic disaster would paralyze even me. Spiritwoman ^i^
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3/22/2013 8:39 pm |
I'm with you on the excitement. I always tell people that the only way I ever achieved long term employment was that I worked for an organization that had lots of lateral opportunities as well as promotions. I changed assignments every 3 - 5 years and was really happy with that. Dating - I think the longer we are independent the more comfortable we become that way so the more it takes for us to give that up. I doubt that I could be in any relationship that does not allow me to have alone time, time for my work and time to pursue my separate interests. Guess that is why I have always ended up with engineers. They get so involved in their projects they never know if I am gone or not. Spiritwoman ^i^
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