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A Perfect Partner? I was going through some of my saved articles today and found this one. I didn’t remember why I saved it at first but as I re-read it I remembered. I really like the idea that imperfections are unimportant in a relationship if the relationship is right. No wonder my keep telling me that I have strange friends. If like attracts like they have to be a bit “different” to even put up with me, let alone like me. The Fallacy of the Perfect Partner January 31, 2013 at 12:00 am By Alina Mikos The Picture-Perfect Relationship Doesn’t Exist The problem with judging by appearances is that you are never getting the full story; sometimes it’s not even the truthful story. Buying into a cleverly-woven tapestry of illusion can easily prevent you from finding the right partner. So don’t get caught up in all the smoke and mirrors of a picture-perfect partnership or mate. They simply don’t exist, so why waste so much time and effort chasing mirages? The Fallacy You’ve seen the couple who projects the perfect image—individually as well as a couple. All that effort going into appearances makes you wonder what they have left for the real relationship. Idealistic portrayals of perfect people and couples in movies, books and in society all play a part in creating this image of the ideal partner. Since perfection is an unattainable ideal for human beings, living up to these impossible standards can never bring you happiness. You will be, in essence, playing out a fantasy role, and living a lie. This does not build a healthy or deep connection with your partner, and no relationship can survive on such feeble support and nourishment. The Reality People, and human love, are imperfect. Embracing this fact will not only make you happier, but can invite all sorts of interesting experiences and twists into your life and relationships. While striving to be the best partner you can be is wonderful, you must allow for mistakes and shortcomings. There is no perfect couple or mate, but there can be a perfect match for you. Whatever imperfections each person brings into a relationship, if you are right for one another, they will seem unimportant, or be seen from a loving and non-judgmental perspective. And remember, what may seem perfect is never the whole story—it’s the truth underneath the surface that defines the relationship. Focus on making that definition as honest and real as the beauty and happiness you want out of the relationship. Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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Spirit,,,I can understand why you saved it and thank you for posting what to me is a good read. . The beginning of life, conception..
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2/28/2013 7:31 am |
Men are an unfinished product. That's why women spend so much time and effort to improve them.
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2/28/2013 8:13 am |
Hi Spirit, I always like to read what I have been thinking. My thoughts however, did move on to the next step, I got to wondering if our striving for perfection,(I realize we never actually get there) helps us as a society to move forward, therefore improving our standards of life in general. As an example, look how the very rich live, eventually some of the things and conditions they enjoy, do filter their way down to us ordinary folks. I think we, as a society, are a better looking and healthier bunch than say, our predecessors of a century ago. Spiritwoman ^i^
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2/28/2013 8:18 am |
Spirit,,,I can understand why you saved it and thank you for posting what to me is a good read. Spiritwoman ^i^
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2/28/2013 8:20 am |
Relationships are work. For me that is primarily work on myself when I see my need for improvement mirrored back at me. Spiritwoman ^i^
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2/28/2013 8:20 am |
That's why you 2 are so happy. It works! Spiritwoman ^i^
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2/28/2013 8:23 am |
Men are an unfinished product. That's why women spend so much time and effort to improve them. Spiritwoman ^i^
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3/3/2013 10:30 am |
Well we did say "picture perfect". Picture perfect is subject to the photographer's skill in capturing a specific moment in time. Hope you are recovering well. Spiritwoman ^i^
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