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Your Relationship Toolkit This is a somewhat humorous but interesting take on the old issue of expecting Mr. / Ms Perfect and how to work with what the Universe us with. I can somewhat identify in that when I was very young I thought everyone had the potential to be a perfect mate. Live and learn. I don’t even do much sewing these days. I still have a much broader window of acceptable then most. The difference is that I know that whatever it is I need to let it be and live with it as is or leave it alone from the beginning. Your Relationship Toolkit June 26, 2012 at 5:45 pm By Quinn Tool Belts and Sewing Kits As I ventured into relationships, one thing I realized was that many people did not come fully equipped or assembled. I thought to myself, Do I need to be a relationship MacGyver? In this day an age with so much diversity in life penetrating its way to the dating mating realm we find ourselves making and taking choices with people that do not have their acts together. I asked one woman what kind of person would she like and her answer was “one that is breathing.” That is just so wrong, and requires in the end a tool belt full of duct tape and more. It is very important to list the qualities you desire in a person. This way the universe knows exactly who to send you. I have also found that a big screwdriver is one of the most important tools in my belt, this way I can give as good or bad as I get. Some people I meet have a screw or nuts and bolts that are not in the right place or just loose. Moreover, have you noticed people do not come with instruction booklets? I wish I could shop for a mate at IKEA. After paying my dues to the love gods – divorced and widowed more times than I would have liked, I truly believed that the next and last person I was to be with had all his nuts, bolts and screws in the right places and were fastened tightly. Boy was that a dream or fantasy or what? I must admit I love my husband and if all goes well he should be my forever after guy, I had my share of death till us part men, the good news is that I have been able to put the tool belt away and replace it with my sewing kit. Our tool belts consist of: 1. Unconditional love 2. Money 3. All the right answers 4. Magical problem solving skills 5. Wisdom 6. Humor 7. Acceptance 8. Understanding 9. A big box of tissues 10. Knowledge of sports or fashion 11. ESP 12. Domestic God/Goddess skills 13. A tape measure and duct tape 14. Patches for every need – jealousy patches – not calling patches – tardy patches – baby mama drama patches – smoking patches – bad breath patches – attitude adjustment patches – how to please your mate sexually patches 15. GPS 16. A screwdriver with many different heads Once your mate is assembled it is time to hang up the tool belt, but alas, you have to replace it with a sewing kit. This is of course much easier to carry about and comes in very handy for a quick fix. Our sewing kit consists of: 1. Patience 2. Good listening skills 3. Understanding your partner sexually 4. The ability to save Money for a rainy day 5. In-law skills 6. Multi-tasking 7. Lots of love 8. Truth In the end, relationships should be fun and give peace of mind to lives. From time to time, there is always going to be “something” that will upset the flow, being prepared and knowing that perfection is only a word that last for a moment in time makes living with your lover a great Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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Spiritwoman - You know that you can discard both the toolkit and the sewing kit, if you don't try too hard to make it work. I believe that if it works, it works. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. It must have worked for me and Ann. Alfie...
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7/2/2012 2:19 pm |
Has Andy Rooney been revived? Unfortunately I gave up wearing 'tool belts' when I retired. Those below the waist joints just can't handle that extra weight any more. I do have an imaginary tool belt. It only has one tool. It uses imaginary X-Rays. I can see through a lot of profiles AND extra SFF handles. I can then be prepared for relations ships. Well one maybe. I hope they have X-Rays also. Gotta have something in common. Or, cancel each other out. Chuckle Sewing kit? Yikes.
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Who is that guy that says things about me???  Good blog!!
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7/2/2012 8:24 pm |
Spiritwoman - You know that you can discard both the toolkit and the sewing kit, if you don't try too hard to make it work. I believe that if it works, it works. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. It must have worked for me and Ann. Alfie... Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/2/2012 8:26 pm |
Has Andy Rooney been revived? Unfortunately I gave up wearing 'tool belts' when I retired. Those below the waist joints just can't handle that extra weight any more. I do have an imaginary tool belt. It only has one tool. It uses imaginary X-Rays. I can see through a lot of profiles AND extra SFF handles. I can then be prepared for relations ships. Well one maybe. I hope they have X-Rays also. Gotta have something in common. Or, cancel each other out. Chuckle Sewing kit? Yikes. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/2/2012 8:27 pm |
Who is that guy that says things about me??? Good blog!! Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/2/2012 8:29 pm |
Probably so. The "rules" never seem to have worked for me but it is fun to try to see things as others do. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/3/2012 6:51 am |
A really good blog. What can I say? I've been told that one has about 15 seconds to make a good first impression. Not much time in cyberland, so you can tell much about a person by their profile (oops! this is analyzing  ). The impression is further cemented by what comes out of one's mouth on the first contact. I'm surprised no one has written a comedy about Senior on-line dating. Perhaps it should be me. The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page: St. Augustine
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7/3/2012 8:55 am |
A really good blog. What can I say? I've been told that one has about 15 seconds to make a good first impression. Not much time in cyberland, so you can tell much about a person by their profile (oops! this is analyzing ). The impression is further cemented by what comes out of one's mouth on the first contact. I'm surprised no one has written a comedy about Senior on-line dating. Perhaps it should be me. I don't have them any more but maybe I'll try to recreate it. I'm thinking maybe post a few then leave it open for others to add theirs. Might be fun. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/3/2012 11:54 am |
For me unconditional love is easy - it's the living with another daily routines and habits that is a challenge but when I choose to enter into a relationship I see that as my challenge and only ask that they meet the challenge of putting up with my quirks. Much harder than love. Spiritwoman ^i^
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7/3/2012 11:56 am |
Agreed - physical attraction is necessary for a romantic relationship. Many find it waning with age and life circumstances so you are likely in good company. Spiritwoman ^i^
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I am having a good serious look at the tool kit to pass on to the generations that follow. I come with a lot of minuses and a few pluses but it so happens that the Almighty was very kind. We (S & I ) were both gifted enough patience and the 'art of gentle cajoling' which made our togetherness work and we ourselves evolved to better beings. It is a different something that I love so many ladies on the SFF and S loves so many gentlemen elsewhere  . Her claim is that we were born bonded in the head - perhaps she is right.Many thanks for sharing this tool kit which should prove very effective in the evolving India (and elsewhere) because I believe your toolkit will be eternally useful. Have a wonderful day, SpiritGirl.   "To fight the darkness do not draw your sword, light a candle" - Zarathustra
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7/3/2012 9:18 pm |
Part of my belief system is that marriage is a commitment to be there for each other but it dies not preclude "loving" others. If it makes our partner happy we do our best to support it. But then my take on marriage is very different from that of most in this culture. Spiritwoman ^i^
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