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My Independence I have lived alone been independent for ten years Is it true I really need someone? Can I overcome my fears As much as I like my independence There's something I failed to see The lie of my true dependence Is that nobody really needs me |
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Being lonely is less about what you think you need, and more about being needed
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Interesting..... I live on my own and have never felt lonely. My independence is what frees me to all that I do. 
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Interesting..... I live on my own and have never felt lonely. My independence is what frees me to all that I do. Independence is a constant.. In that way we are all free to do what we want. As far as other people go...dependence and indepedence is the same thing. As in other things the extreme is fraught with danger. We tend to think of dependence as in some thing real....like money and help Something we think we need that other people provide us..so we make dependent choices. but that not true, it's pretend. Advantage taking is not dependence .That's not the kind of dependence I'm referring to.. In many cases we depend on people just to be there. They unknowingly support us with our choice to be able to be independence. When our circle grows smaller .....independence grows larger til it reaches the extreme. I am not there yet, As I still feel worth to some other, I believe still want me to support the......., but i'm getting there.
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There is no connection between independence and loneliness. Independence is a constant.. In that way we are all free to do what we want. As far as other people go...dependence and indepedence is the same thing. As in other things the extreme is fraught with danger. We tend to think of dependence as in some thing real....like money and help Something we think we need that other people provide us..so we make dependent choices. but that not true, it's pretend. Advantage taking is not dependence .That's not the kind of dependence I'm referring to.. In many cases we depend on people just to be there. They unknowingly support us with our choice to be able to be independence. When our circle grows smaller .....independence grows larger til it reaches the extreme. I am not there yet, As I still feel worth to some other, I believe still want me to support the......., but i'm getting there. did you make more sense? as leaf THE DAYS WILL END ... TIME WILL BE ETERNAL
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I like my co-dependent relationship ; it has enough freedom during the day with a nice warm back to stick my cold feet on at night.
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3/30/2023 4:45 pm |
Jiminy it is not about defining words. It is about personality and what each individual desires and seeks in life. Seeking happiness through another person usually turns out negative. That is why I always say do your own thing. My high school personality test result was Independent, manipulative. LOL It worked out well in business. If something didn't go right I changed it to where it did. ! In marriage or relationships. ----- not so good.---- Never mix an independent with a person there to draw security from the situation. Two working together can accomplish anything. One day I came home from work. ------ told the wife I quit my job and was going full time with my night time, part time self employed machine shop. LOL Instead of trusting in me ----she said it did NOTHING FOR HER LOL My thoughts were------- USER you will soon be history. Three years later she was. The point is, everyone wants something different in life. Be Happy Jiminy. You are a sensitive personality / with the poetry. We are very different but you are my friend. Do your own thing. Party On!
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HOW TRUE TO THINK NO ONE NEEDS US WHEN WE LIVE ALONE AND ACCEPT IT EASILY. I HAVE FOUND THAT SEVERAL PEOPLE ACTUALLY NEED ME IF NOT EVERY SINGLE DAY, RATHER OFTEN NONETHELESS. THAT IS A VERY COMFORTING THOUGHT.
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I like my co-dependent relationship ; it has enough freedom during the day with a nice warm back to stick my cold feet on at night. there must be sense of dependent equality, between the person who helps and the person being helped. Weigh the advantages received from the person who helps versus the person being helped. Although it may seem unrealistic. the person who helps gets the greater advantage. Giving is almost always better than receiving, when the gift is given freely. There are different ways to warm your feet..and different ways to warm your heart. some are better than others.
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Jimmie id, are you related to the wh press sec or kamala harris. they like you say a lot and mean nothing. word salad and gobbledygook did you make more sense? as leaf
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Jiminy it is not about defining words. It is about personality and what each individual desires and seeks in life. Seeking happiness through another person usually turns out negative. That is why I always say do your own thing. My high school personality test result was Independent, manipulative. LOL It worked out well in business. If something didn't go right I changed it to where it did. ! In marriage or relationships. ----- not so good.---- Never mix an independent with a person there to draw security from the situation. Two working together can accomplish anything. One day I came home from work. ------ told the wife I quit my job and was going full time with my night time, part time self employed machine shop. LOL Instead of trusting in me ----she said it did NOTHING FOR HER LOL My thoughts were------- USER you will soon be history. Three years later she was. The point is, everyone wants something different in life. Be Happy Jiminy. You are a sensitive personality / with the poetry. We are very different but you are my friend. Do your own thing. Party On! Support doesn't come from direct help. Your Ex.....No matter what your ex did it would have not been in support of YOU That what she told you. She could have helped, with the idea of helping herself. by helping you, that too , is not support. Being there for You.. no matter how that is relayed..matters.
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The two poems I posted are related..Seeing into someone heart is very difficult if you can never see it. but the eyes can easily say more about it.. than the lips or the actions.
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When our circle grows smaller .....independence grows larger til it reaches the extreme 'Until it reaches the extreme' - a harrowing position to find oneself in, I would think.
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4/1/2023 5:59 am |
Jiminy you are correct about the eyes. Leave the lights on when being intimate, concentrate on the eyes, you then see into the soul and the heart. Some know what I am talking about. Many have no idea. There is more but I will spare details for those who never had the experience. Party On!
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4/2/2023 2:04 am |
Jiminy I have noticed you have many readers of your blogs. Amazing, because I can not remember you ever mentioning the weather. LMAOFF.
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Jiminy I have noticed you have many readers of your blogs. Amazing, because I can not remember you ever mentioning the weather. LMAOFF.
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