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jiminycricket1 73M
5404 posts
10/27/2019 6:34 am
Who I Am


We can not be what we are not.. No matter how hard we try to change the things around US..
That judgment, no one else can judge..That acceptance that no one else can accept.
In a society, where winning matters.. We can not find the success in failure. but in our faults lies the truer measure. You can hide from others behind winning, but you can't hide it from yourself.

I can not be, What I am not....I can only become, Who I am.

The mirage of a journey's destination,
On a road untraveled, unknown.
For each step along the way,
determines the fate of it's own.

Destiny, the one that waits,
knows secrets not revealed.
The destinations have no fates,
Yet journeys haven't concealed

There is no more or less of me
Caught in a road block or traffic jam
On this journey of MY fated destiny..
That discovers.... who I am.


jiminycricket1 73M
13732 posts
10/27/2019 8:17 am

Self-judgment...

I do it all the time..but I have learned it's brings with it...fear and a degradation
Fear of the mirror, and the degradation, if you look..

I have also discovered that's all a bunch of crap. There is no fear and no degradation that exist inside.. It only exist outside.

We must find a success...In the failure to accept the things we can not change.
I have no fear about others, who can accept who they are .. I only fear..the fear itself.
I have learned if I can accept myself, faults and all.. I can accept others
And others, who can not accept themselves,, can not accept me.
Through life's ups and downs, Through all the kicking and screaming..
Your destiny will eventually become clear...there is no choice in the matter.
YOU ARE... WHO YOU ARE...


MrsJoe 76F
17308 posts
10/27/2019 8:57 am

JC, as you know, I hardly ever read your stuff anymore, but something drew me to this one. I usually find that you try to over-analyze yourself and everyone else and you go around in circles until it's just confusing.
I'm glad I read this because your poem is more like the old you that I used to enjoy reading. Your poem is so true. We can only be who we are.


Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
10/27/2019 3:44 pm

We can only be who we are.......However, we are many faceted and we make constant choices as to which facet to go with......making those choices consciously is the goal.....full consciousness is the goal.

This came up in casual conversation recently. I made a remark about how a series of insignificant unconscious decisions can accumulate until we find ourselves in darkness......painted into a corner by unconsciousness. Someone said that he had never made an unconscious decision in his life......I asked him which shoe he put on first this morning..........which route he drove to work.

Consciousness is the work and the goal........


jiminycricket1 73M
13732 posts
10/28/2019 6:05 am

    Quoting sparkleflit:
    We can only be who we are.......However, we are many faceted and we make constant choices as to which facet to go with......making those choices consciously is the goal.....full consciousness is the goal.

    This came up in casual conversation recently. I made a remark about how a series of insignificant unconscious decisions can accumulate until we find ourselves in darkness......painted into a corner by unconsciousness. Someone said that he had never made an unconscious decision in his life......I asked him which shoe he put on first this morning..........which route he drove to work.

    Consciousness is the work and the goal........


People should be conscience of every decisions they make and the reasons for making them..But the evidence suggests it doesn't work that way..If it did, we would all do it.. When the evidence to me says... NONE of US do it.
The right reason for the right decision.. has no meaning whether it's purposeful or not.. People make the right decisions for the wrong reason. The wrong decision for the right reason, and decisions that appear to have not reason.. like emotional decisions.

The idea of the poem may appear to be acceptance of one's faults. but it's much more than that..It's the acceptance of who you are through NO Fault of your own. Fault and judgment does not enter the equation.

Reasonable decisions?.. are based on who's definition of reasonable? When every decision can be reasonable, even the one's without reason.

I think it's widely accepted that we are a product of genetics and environment..Unless you are a TOTAL believer in GOD..Then it becomes His ballywick, not yours. That's an easy way out, to not take responsibility for who you are.

Anyway, I take it much further that that..My reason says.. we are ONLY the product of our genetics. From the moment we are born, our genetic is the only stable thing in our lives. Yet we do not recognize it. Our environment changes, but not our genetics. The environment which we believe is a catalyst for change, can not change our genetics. The environment may explain WHAT you are, but doesn't explain WHO you are. From the moment we are born.. We Should be on a journey of discovery of who we are and not What we are.
The environment doesn't change WHO WE ARE...It only exposes it.
There is no right or wrong or fault in who you are.. That only exists in your "environment" of What you are.
Of course, it matters What you are,, It matters the "environment".. I do not wish to dismiss that.. I wish to dismiss the fault of it..and the overwhelming Need for it.

I wish to accept the "balance" of it.. In a world where our "environment " is out of balance.


jiminycricket1 73M
13732 posts
10/28/2019 7:06 am

How does one recognize the differences.. in the same thing?..
How can a microscopic DNA and it's combinations.. make a world of difference?
How do differences become singular?

It's in the way we choose to recognize the differences..

For example the DNA that creates the color of one's skin.. can make a world of difference. That is not reasonable, and fails to recognize the singularity and commonality of being human.

So how can we choose to recognize it....and maintain the singularity and commonality of being human?

A baffling question?
Who's answer is really SIMPLE..

And again can be inferred from my poem..

How can one arrive at a singular decision, that maintains our commonality?

It can happen...
When You stop recognizing the differences other people have from You
And begin recognizing YOUR difference from other people.

When you start recognizing WHO you are..That makes YOU different. And not recognize the "WHAT" of other people... that makes them different from YOU

So then... other people can maintain their commonality...And YOUR difference becomes singular. The singularity of WHO YOU ARE.


jiminycricket1 73M
13732 posts
10/28/2019 7:36 am

What I find annoying , disheartening, and amusing..Is not in someone's agreement or disagreement.. With what I say..

It's is fossil's response in my last blog..

"WTF are you talking about?"

A response, to my saying he is proof God Exist. as he denies Evolution... It's proof he lacks the gift of 10,000 years of evolution..It validates he has no responsibility to himself, for himself, or to others.. God has relieved him of that..
And that makes our assessment of fossil and his compatriots...
A "No-Brainer".


sparkleflit 76F
10271 posts
10/28/2019 6:12 pm

I've always been odd....One woman, after being at the same small gathering as me for a few hours, said to me...." You'd be a lot better off if you didn't put so much energy into trying to be different." I avoided her for the next several years, then we found ourselves on the same committee and I phoned her to clear up her confusion......I told her that I was actually very different, and what she perceives as me "trying" to be different is actually me trying to fit in.......I'm glad to be weird most of the time, but it can be difficult to communicate......I had a few wonderful mentors in my youth, which really helped me to accept my differences. Nowadays I would probably be diagnosed with being "on the spectrum"......


jiminycricket1 73M
13732 posts
10/29/2019 8:47 am

    Quoting sparkleflit:
    I've always been odd....One woman, after being at the same small gathering as me for a few hours, said to me...." You'd be a lot better off if you didn't put so much energy into trying to be different." I avoided her for the next several years, then we found ourselves on the same committee and I phoned her to clear up her confusion......I told her that I was actually very different, and what she perceives as me "trying" to be different is actually me trying to fit in.......I'm glad to be weird most of the time, but it can be difficult to communicate......I had a few wonderful mentors in my youth, which really helped me to accept my differences. Nowadays I would probably be diagnosed with being "on the spectrum"......
Thank You.. it's nice to have someone to talk with.

We are all "on the spectrum".. one way or another.

Whether we choose a single line of color.....or believe to be many colored..
We can not deny parts of the spectrum we are NOT.

For it becomes a matter of what an eye CAN see... What it CAN be
No matter what it sees

There is no "black" in the eye, unless you choose to put it there yourself ..with blacken eyes..
The Spectrum, itself, is and can only be "white" (not meant to be racial at all)

"White light" is the name given to what the human eye sees, when all the colors that make up the visible light spectrum are combined.

WE are what we CAN see....YOU are what you DO see.