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To be listened to. I don't mean that you must act on what I say but that you hear me out, take in what I say and make a decision considering the extra information. That you would be willing to open yourself, to expose your inner thoughts and feelings without fear of ridicule. That you are willing to say when you are displeased and when I ask why, you tell me without turning it into yelling match. That you keep your friends, you take their counsel but you protect my back. I do not mean that you assert my thinking to them but that you do not discuss my secrets and the things that I share with you. If I wanted them to know, I would tell them myself. They are allowed to dislike me and to say so to you. That you trust me to do the right thing by the both of us, that I can make mistakes but that I do not do it deliberately and if I do make a mistake, that it is ok to say something but not to ridicule me for it. That you are willing to say what you really think, that you will not say something because you think it is what I want to hear of that you are afrid I might not like what you say. All of the above means to me that you have respect, trust and communication. These are the pillars of strength that *any* relationship is built upon. It means that there are two, rational adults who appreciate each other.   |
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10/2/2008 10:20 pm |
If she could do all you asked in your comment, will you think she's doing so because these are what you like to see or hear? 
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