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Where Do I Find Beauty? Jiffybob? |
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12/3/2006 8:49 am |
Many times I have found an "average" looking person with a terrific personality (good heart, sense of humor, etc). Well they can become "better than average" looking once the personality is factored in. Don't go by just the face. That is not the real person.
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12/3/2006 10:31 am |
Jiffybob: We are all so brainwashed about beauty in this society. It is not your fault. Both women and men are bombarded on a daily basis about what a "beautiful" woman is supposed to look like and millions of dollars are spent each year by women trying to look beautiful. It sounds to me like you have become aware of something very important. Maybe now you understand that a woman's appearance is not the only thing that is going to make you happy in a relationship.
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A wise woman(my grandma) once told me.....look for a man as if you are blind. You must use your ears & heart to know who he really is....looks are simply icing on the cake if the cake is no good inside what do you have????? Not much and it won't last forever either, the inside will ruin the outside. I am not at all saying that there doesn't need to be an attraction just that we need to be attracted to the right qualities. As a stylist and make-up artist for 15 years, I do believe that some of a persons appearance does indicate more about them than just looks. I have seen that the better a person takes care of themself and improves on what they have the better they feel about themself and more likely they are to be confident and generally more appealing as a result. RED Some believe in destiny, some believe in fate. I believe that happiness is something we create 
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12/3/2006 12:47 pm |
Try looking at the person from the inside out...it's what's inside that counts!
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12/3/2006 12:50 pm |
What is on the outside dimishes over time, but the inside is where the treasure is...Good luck Bob!
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12/3/2006 1:31 pm |
Bob, Beauty is at the heart of every person. Beauty fades but our inner beauty never. Good Luck for your search! Simplelady From AZ With Love! 
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12/4/2006 7:27 am |
well bob after 26 at no/ 3 i guess we all agree its in a persons heart and mind -- no good looking exterally at our age bits start falling off bob
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12/4/2006 2:21 pm |
Are you a beautiful person Jiffy? There is where you start... best wishes...
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12/5/2006 3:19 pm |
i figure you meet girl ..you 2 talk if you have alot in common you talk moreeeeeee......if you can converse and laugh together thats a real good start if she has looks thats a bonus but truly shouldnt be worried about looks if you get along great ....remember looks are only skin deep ... ....
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12/5/2006 6:35 pm |
Jiffybob,any woman can pack on enough makeup to make herself look pretty,can stuff her bra to make them look biger,a girtle to make it look smaller,and stockings allways make her legs look better.The one area she shows the real her is her heart.No man wants to have a ugly woman,but we all know that a pretty woman can be ugly.When a man looks in a womans heart and finds someone he can love,shes allways beautiful to him,and that is what really counts.Trust your heart,and close your eyes,then you will find a love that will last. Clyde
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12/6/2006 4:17 pm |
men are visual , however we all have our preferences and one persons ugly duckling may be another's beautiful swan .
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12/8/2006 4:38 am |
JB, We are what we. Depending on what you want to change may take time you do not have. And, be defeatful to your your other quest. It will show. Remember it takes two. What are her quests? Looking for inner beauty first may let the outer beauty pass by and yes, vice versa. So how much time do you have? The search should be tempered with some basics. Enjoy yourself doing what you like to do. AND, it will happen. Being on SFF is like being at a GIANT job fare. So how do you progress through the employers? You look for the ones that appeal to you by the attention getting banners and the words ON them. You then read what they offer and start the interviews. Else if you started at one end reading each you may never reach the other end and miss 'the best match' for both of you. With the volume of choices on SFF scanning the pictures may be the fastest to then take the time to read what they have to offer. Scanning the magazine and blogs offer the same concept. Jumping in chat can be a door to your decision making process. Bottom line. Being yourself first means your can be yourself later. No need to be afraid to make a slip that will destroy the pretense you were riding on. Asking questions here is always good. You've put a 'banner' up yourself. You've also gave warning to possible 'applicants' that you will not tolerate answers you don't like. And if that is being your self. Good luck to you. You'll need it.
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12/13/2006 6:10 pm |
Bob, Do you wait for the winks or emails to arrive before you look for the "the real beauty of a woman"? Do you only wink or send email to the 'Non Photo' profiles for the "the real beauty of a woman"? Do you go out in real life with a blindfold so you can see "the real beauty of a woman"? Where DO you start to find "the real beauty of a woman"? Creating a 'poll' with the limitations/restrictions you've imposed, preordain it to the outcome you want and then offer as proof, does not strike me as valid. You say 31 sympathized with you. As opposed to how many that didn't. Or, you chose to not allow? SFF stats say 42 replied. And how many opted to not reply at all because you threatened them with a delete? How many of the respondents that replied are potential mates? Lets try another look? What restrictions do you put on accepting a partner? One that is on a deathbed? Or requires a medical assistance? Or can only communicate via a keyboard? Or, Or, Or? Surely you have some criteria. So you are only seeking "the real beauty of a woman" that fit what criteria? I offered that your statements advertised a negative by saying you would not tolerate disagreements. A simple observation. You chose to ignore that and now suggest that a couple of the men "were obviously jealous". I have no ill will with the ladies the you refer to. But to use them as a justification to suggest jealousy is a little far fetched. Again I say. Good luck to you. You'll need it.
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12/20/2006 10:04 am |
I was once into the "handsome men" syndrome.  I dated handsome men and found they had a lot of imperfections like everyone else. I finally put my feet on the ground and did write a blog about it or at least mentioned it there. Now I dont mind a little chubbiness in a guy and if he is somewhat bald that's O.K. too. I am not hung up on the "gotta be a hunk" stuff anymore. If a guy is drop dead handsome I forget how to talk anyway...I stutter and stammer. I would rather speak so a guy can understand what I said. Pretty women are not all what they seem to be either. The pretties girl in my class now looks old and haggard. Travel, men, 5 husbands....etc. etc. Go for sweet and if she's not gorgeous, she will be in your eyes. Purrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! =^..^=
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12/21/2006 7:50 am |
I was once into the "handsome men" syndrome. I dated handsome men and found they had a lot of imperfections like everyone else. I finally put my feet on the ground and did write a blog about it or at least mentioned it there. Now I dont mind a little chubbiness in a guy and if he is somewhat bald that's O.K. too. I am not hung up on the "gotta be a hunk" stuff anymore. If a guy is drop dead handsome I forget how to talk anyway...I stutter and stammer. I would rather speak so a guy can understand what I said. Pretty women are not all what they seem to be either. The pretties girl in my class now looks old and haggard. Travel, men, 5 husbands....etc. etc. Go for sweet and if she's not gorgeous, she will be in your eyes. Purrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! I did not delete anything ...she n me have added to it and I think you might be mentioned there once again.... See, you have a fan club now...and I know you are lovin' in. New things are a happening on the Z and B blog...it is a popular Soap Opera now....and YOU are one of its players. Did I say the word PLAYER. What say you...Jiffy. Why are you named Jiffy? Inquiring minds of Z and B want to know.Keep those cards n letters coming to Jiffy chickies! Hey if you want a private chat with any of us just arrange to meet in the IM. Now that is simple...and cozy and alone and private. LOL Purrrrr! Z the Explora. (~.*) =^..^=
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