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How high are the standards? I really enjoy writing. I think that that is what keeps me coming back to this site. The other reason is to meet women. You know,to exchange a few emails, talk on the phone and arrange to meet up. Seems pretty simple. But it is not. I was recently informed by a woman on another site that the above was not enough. In fact, there had to be more "chatting", more phone calls and that when we did meet (if ever), that we had to go out on a "romantic" date. Going out for coffee or and ice cream just wouldn't do. Now, how is it that you can go out on a "romantic" date when you are meeting the person for the first time. You may have some hopes and dreams of what might be, but certainly no expectations of romance. At least I don't. Be that as it may, everyone has there own standards. I read one profile (no offense to that person)that said that the prospective responder should like cats and not only that had to be liked specifically by this woman's pet cat. Perhaps a little cat nip in the pants cuffs? Go figure. Enjoy the day. Oldsalt |
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Oldsalt: REALLY - romantice dates. Believe me not everyone is looking for the same thing. I sure don't want to go on any romantic dates. I have no hopes and dreams where a man is concerned. I had the love of my life and that was enough. I would love to have a friend that I could talk to but in my case - not looking for romance or a partner. I'm perfectly happy being alone with my two little jack russell pups. Personally I would much rather have a coffee date or an icecream. That way if the date doesn't go well either one can make a quick escape. LOL. I don't even mind going dutch until you really get to know each other. No pretense here. So women's wants are as diverse as the women on this site. Each to his own. Bruja The wealth of a soul is measured by how much it can feel; its poverty by how little. W. R. Inge
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9/2/2012 12:33 pm |
I agree with Bruja - definitely coffee or ice cream first and maybe even some additional non committal get to know you things before plunging into the big romance. No wonder so many people end up disappointed. Believe me though men are much the same. Most of the guys I met had all sorts of requirements I had to meet and hoops I had to jump through. They had one thing in mind and did what they had to do to try to get there as fast as possible. It was a big adjustment to the dating world when I first got back into it. One guy actually said "I bought you a beer, now you are my Senior FriendFinder toy". (as if a great grandma could be considered a sex toy! The ones who did work out? The ones with no agendas or hoops. Hang in there. You will find a reasonable partner but it takes time and kissing lots of frogs. Spiritwoman ^i^
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9/2/2012 1:46 pm |
Hi Oldsalt: I've been on here for years and have never met anyone in person, but I haven't thrown in the towel yet. lol I think a coffee or an ice cream would be perfect for a first meeting in case either party wants to make a quick getaway. I think there should only be a couple of e-mails before the first meeting so neither person will get their hopes up too high. I think that's funny about the woman and her cat. Good blog.
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Someone mention ice cream!! Yippy!!!! I love ice cream sundaes!!!!
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9/2/2012 2:25 pm |
LOL! I know the feeling. Fortunately, I've had the same GF since long before I ever started blogging or chatting online. But I remember when I was single after having been recently divorced and found out times had changed a bit since I'd last been in circulation. I wasn't neccessarily "looking" but I wasn't closed off to the idea of romance either. My dillemna then was similar to what u describe here. When I'd meet a lady, if there was something appealing about her, I would sometimes ask her out. But this (I later realized) was taken to assume I hoped for sex, romance, and possible marriage. It also implied that I was in love. They all heard (prospective) wedding bells in their minds it seems. LOL! And if they felt inclined to explore the matter, they quickly assumed more committment and involvement than I did. If they felt disinclined to explore the matter, they started avoiding me. LOL Sorry u had such an experience. I guess it just goes with the territory. LOL GBU, Gavin GREETINGS EARTHLINGS! I COME IN PEACE! TAKE ME TO YOUR LEADER. Klatu, baraba nicto.
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