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What happened Ok some of you may have wondered why Silk1958 left the site! Well i am going to tell you. Whilst being a member of SFF i have made many friends and now it would seem an vengeful one. As many of you know i have been ill with a bit of clinical depression and you have helped me face my demons. One day i began talking to a fellow SFF member and we got on great or so i thought. we began talking on the phone he would call me and send me texts and i did the same. We would talk for hours in MSN messenger everyday for weeks, he would send me beautiful emails saying how much he loved me and wanted me as his, in his words not a friend not a lover but much more' we would talk about things in the future. Then one day he told me something that seemed strange but i let it go and then the next day i got an email which really caused me concern. I then began putting things together and realised that this man had lied to me and was now trying to find a way out, well he could have just said he had found someone else but no that would have been to easy. well in the end i told him that i know what he was playing at and thats when the threats started. I received threatening text and emails from him. You see i had been foolish to exchange pictures with him and now he was threatening to post them on the site and also on the world wide web. He even made threats to me and to skin my dog. At this point i had no choice but to contact the police. But in the end i realised that i missed the friends i had made on SFF and that is why i came back. |
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4/21/2006 9:17 am |
Well welcome back....and no one skins a puppy if I have anything to say about it!
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4/21/2006 9:32 am |
Dear crushedsilk, My heart goes out to you, hon. I can only imagine the hell you must be going thru. How does one truly know the reality from the fantasy? It is a truth here that some will be who they say they are and some won't. Same as in real life. We have our guards up in reality and so we should here in ssf. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, here. I have met some wonderful women friends here, too. But if they do not post their picture, (and I realize I haven't posted mine for obvious reasons) how is one to know if it is actually a female to whom we speak? Scary.......I know. Ultimately, the real world is the one in which we all live, and the one we have to live in...... and not here......ssf is only a tool. It must not be all consuming. I realized that too late when I was involved in another online chat community ten years ago called firefly. Those of you who chat frequently may remember it. It has been shut down. I cannot tell you the personal hell I went thru in my life when that world consumed me. I very nearly lost my family. So, here I've learned from my mistakes and tread lightly. Very lightly. Please know, silk, that there are good people in the world and seek the human ones out for the very real hugs you neee when you are down. Believe me, I had my bouts with depression, too. Terrible times.........but you will survive. Repeat that to yourself. "I will survive" and seek support, friends, family, etc to keep you sane. I care, hun, as I have a very human heart here, too. Go easy on yourself and take it one day at a time. Keep me posted...keep us all here who care, posted. Big hugs to you, hun. You are not alone in this world or here on ssf. ------pianolover
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4/21/2006 9:45 am |
Lori, Rocking blue and piano thank you for your comments. Lori until this matter has been delt with through the proper channels i am unable to name names but I will when the time is right. Rockingblue, thank you my dog may be a pain at times but she is my baby. Piano, I have found that i have some good friends that understand what has happened to me and are there for me. Thank you all 
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4/21/2006 9:56 am |
so sorry you were hurt silk, hope things get better for you real soon
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4/21/2006 1:01 pm |
You need to know that you are not alone, many women get deceived online. Try reading my post on online stalkers or go online and do some homework for yourself. Learn about it and how to spot it. so if someone else tries the same thing you can nip it in the bud. Look I was naive about it too, no shame in admitting that. Be pro-active and don't let it ruin your chance to make new friends here. love moony
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4/22/2006 2:08 am |
PD yes hun you are right it was not Sturzy
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hi silk, i agree with stillwater, at least you got to see him for what he truly is before you got any deeper, if you ever fancy a chat, i am here..... huggss...grassier442...glad to see you back
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4/23/2006 9:53 am |
I'm glad it wasn't sturzy but I'm a bit confused ,I had been told by you and sturzy that you were engaged and being married this summer , How the heck does this guy fit in the picture?
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4/23/2006 11:17 pm |
Slowtony, TM, TC, Meek and Grassier, Thank you for your comments. TM you may wonder why this happened and to tell you the truth I dont know how i let it happen, and yes it was my own fault and i have told Sturzy about it. As you may or may not be aware I have been going through a bad time when my past suddenly kicked me in the stomach and I went down like a ton of bricks, I have now been off work for 5 weeks with depression, Clinical depression, I have felt suicidal and that is why my doctor took this action. TC you are right the way i am having this dealt with is the only way and having worked in a similar role as your own I know that what I am doing is the right thing. Grassier, Meek and Tony, to you I say thank you for your words they mean a lot to me. Debbie
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4/23/2006 11:20 pm |
Firebug, Moon, Good Carma and Stillwaters Thank you all for your comments, ParisDreamer Thank you for being a good friend to me. At times i dont think i deserve this friendship I have found here.
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4/24/2006 11:19 am |
I am sorry to hear about this incident but I am happy that you have chosen not to be defeated by returning to what you enjoy. It seems that the internet and real life have the same individuals. There are so many people out there with evil karma and mal intentions. It is a shame that you had one come your way. You are doing what needs to be done and I hope that the future goes well. I wish you well and by this picture here, put that steering wheel back on the correct side. LOL
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4/25/2006 11:18 pm |
Paris, Thank you hun, but i am sure that some will be thinking 'she deserved it'. Que, Thank you hun, and by the way, i wondered why i was having trouble sterring the car, lol. Sunshine, thank you hun, I guess that has always been my problem i trust people and hope they are telling me the truth and when i find out they are not, yes it hurts. Hun if you want to leave your email addy on SFF mail please do hun and i will be in touch. But the thing that hurt the most with this man was that he has tried to turn everything around and say that i stalked him but i have the proof that he looked for me and i still have the pictures he sent me of his home and himself. Now i ask anyone if i had stalked him how would i have these? To all they may take the time to read this blog Thank you whether you agree or not, the fact that you read it hopefully will act as a warning to others.
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4/27/2006 1:00 pm |
SNL thank you hun and i will be very careful and only once i know he cant hurt me anymore. He has said things that are untrue and i know that but others may not if it were to come out, that is why i kept copies of every conversation and email that we exchanged and have passed them to my legal advisor including the pictures he sent me. I know that he will try and drag me down but i am getting stronger every day and wont let him do that to me. But i do still fear the day i see his name appear in chat. But once again my friend thank you for your words. ......Hugs Crushedsilk
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5/1/2006 3:43 am |
I logged on as a standard member - a little naieve - so want to thank-you for having the courage to share your story.
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5/4/2006 11:38 pm |
Yama, Fresh Emerald, kermit and SheWolf. Thank you so much for your comments, I truly appreciate everyone. SheWolf, yes I know I was right to report it and once I know what is going to happen I will let eveyone know. I must say though that it took a lot out of me in writing what had had happened, I felt such a fool to have fallen for his stories. Once again my friends Thank you PS to those that have read and not made comments I hope that you found something in what has happened to protect yourselves........Crushedsilk
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5/9/2006 5:46 am |
Lubby Thank you hun, I appreciate it. You are a true friend. Chat soon Crushedsilk
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5/13/2006 11:56 am |
You deserve everything that befalls on you Silk
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Hi there Crushed, It's really disgusting that someone should try and abuse you like that and I'm really glad it wasn't our Aussie friend. I know what depression is, been there, done that but being very wary of almost every male of the species, nothing bad happend to me. I really hope you feel much better very very soon and am so glad to see you back in here. Archer62
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5/16/2006 6:29 am |
I cheer u Crushed for the courage posting ur experience. I wish you could have posted the SOB's handle that we all avoid. But realize the event is in the court system and can't mention. I thought a meeting face to face/Iming/emailing for a time was the safe way of progressing a relationship...wrong. I've heard too many horror stories of the internet recently, why don't go there anymore. Recently, another member claimed she was and dated the man for a length of time with no clue. I suspect the nice men have difficulty meeting nice women with the garbage appearing in the world these days. My hair stands on end when I read posts of women meeting men outside of public arenas. I also learned that men need to be careful also as women seeking more than a love relationship. BUYER BEWARD SEEKING UPGRADING MEMBERSHIP IN SFF!!!!
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5/17/2006 5:34 am |
ClassA and MW, thank you both and yes i know that there are some really nice people on the site and I am glad to be a friend to them. Hugs Silk
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5/19/2006 5:57 pm |
I am glad you are courageous enought to speak out ...sometimes victims feel shame when they did nothing wrong except trust ... you've presented a believable story and a good lesson to all ...good luck in the future.
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6/3/2006 11:32 am |
Silkybum keep up the fight you will win im sure xxxxxxxx Rusty
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6/7/2006 2:49 pm |
thank you for your comment teluk but please dont miss trust every one as there are good and bad in the world. yes i have had a bad experience but i still trust far more than i dont. keep happy
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7/1/2006 4:02 pm |
I wish to retract my comment on you silk you are a fine lady.
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7/3/2006 1:55 am |
I now go back to my statement, you ask for everything that comes your way thats what sneaky 2 timing,whinging pommy bitches get in life so have a good one with your 4th time canadian mongrel I hope he deceives you & you end up depressed again & by the way have you informed him you are not divorced (bigamy) carries a big punishment all over the world. Silk BITCH.
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