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Grumpy, West Virginia, and Karmic Debts I had an interesting conversation with Grumpy, ex-hubby today. He keeps insisting that I should be a WITNESS at his wedding. I told him that it would compromise my relationship with Gemini Rising. So Grumpy suggests, "Invite Mr. Joe Too! I would really like to meet him as a fellow IBEW Electrician. We could talk shop"  Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! That would be a really interesting scene. Mr. Joe became management. He and Grumpy have opposite attitudes about Unions. Mr. Joe is a Widower and has never been divorced. He may not understand that Parting Spouses don't have to hate each other or have a desire to jump back into each other's arms.So I suggested to Grumpy, "You and I had a Karmic Relationship. We fixed the Karma now it's time to move on." Grumpy wants a younger woman. This Gal needs a way off the streets. He's her best ticket to Stability. I really wish them well. However.......... I DON"T WANT TO GO TO THEIR WEDDING!!!!! So......................Some folks are actually afraid to attempt a healing of their primary relationship because they think that if it were healed then they wouldn't have an excuse to get out of it. They need someone to blame for the relationship breaking up. In fact, before incarnating, we make agreements with many individuals to resolve old karmic hang ups, or simply to learn more about self empowerment through our relationship with them. We may have a strong intuitive insight that this is not the person we contracted with to be a life-long partner. But we don't need the excuse of a bad relationship in order to move on. PER gOOgle RESEARCH The Divorce was by mutual agreement. I told him that I didn't want to mudsling or character assassinate. I took care of him after he had a heart attack and stroke after we divorce. I put my life on hold. A few months ago, he had a third heart attack and she took off in his firebird. I had to drive to West Virginia to take care of the animals and pick him up at the hospital. I had to listen to him talk about her as he puffed on a cigarette while driving him back to West Virginia. Our function is to transform our relationships, not to fix them. We work only on ourselves, not the other person. When we are willing to play our relationship games by new rules, then they will be transformed. The new rules begin with, "what happened yesterday is irrelevant." If we insist that we know how a person will behave tomorrow because we know how they behaved yesterday, we are insisting that our reality not change. Per gOOgle RESEARCH One of the Best Moves I made was getting the HADES out of West Virginia. I have GOT to be Karmically Linked to that place. I've had nothing but Bad Luck there. There was nothing but Minimal Wage Jobs From Hades with Employers who seek to Character Assassinate and Destroy. Not Quite Heaven - West Virginia Country Road - Take Me Away From the Place Where I don't Belong Rearview Mirror is where I wanna see West Virginia!!!!!!!!  I must have in a Past Life in West Virginia where I was on the politically incorrect side of the War Between the States. West Virginia couldn't decide which side it wanted to be on so.........No Wonder I was confused. How do I make Amends to the State of West Virginia for being a Spy or perhaps a Scallywager? Well.............I DID help vitalize the Twelve Step Community and create a safe haven where women could find recovery. I must not have been too evil because the Commonwealth of Virginia seems to welcome me with open arms. I DID recently walk into a Virginia 12 Step Meeting with ALL MEN. That's happened to me many times before. This means that I will have to help some women find recovery and that's Good.   When we refuse to repeat old patterns, when we refuse to attack or defend, when we would rather be happy than right, then other people change. Our relationships transform. If we have been true to our understanding of these principles of self creation, then we will not have to make an ego based decision to continue a relationship or dissolve it. That will take care of itself. The relationship will transform or disappear. The universe always moves us right along to the next experience when we have learned what the last one had to teach. per gOOgle RESEARCH   Abracadabra  |
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You made the best decision for YOU! Your life seems so much better now.
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