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SFF Bullies And Trolls - A 2006 Article Dealing with -Line Bullies Posted:May 25, 2006 4:34 am Last Updated:Feb 4, 2010 9:19 am 1886 Views When dealing with an -line bully don't respond, don't interact and don't engage. This is not easy but it is doable. The first response want defend yourself but it is counter-productive communicate with a bully. The bully does not function with the mindset of a mature adult.. The bully may be an adult on the outside, on the inside they are like ill-mannered who's never grew - and probably never will. Bullies and harassers often have disordered thinking patterns. Keep documentation of the abuse in a file. When the time comes take action, this file is your evidence. Bullies, especially cyberbullies, are obsessive people and if their account is closed down, they may start another profile so expect receive harassing messages from that profile. This can later be compared harassing messages already received identify the bully. There will be similar words, phrases and strategies occurring. Don’t try deal with the bully yourself. Even mature experienced adults often cannot handle bullying and harassment by themselves. Get a third party intercede and take the bully task. When people use bullying behaviors they project their own weaknesses, failings and shortcomings others. In other words, they are telling you about themselves by fabricating an accusation based on something they themselves have done wrong. When you are being harassed on-line, ask the question, "What is this person revealing about themselves this time?" When the timing is right, take action. Prepare carefully and strike hard. Ignoring the bully may cause them lose interest and find an easier target torment but don't count on it. The cyberbully may obsessed to the point that that s/he cannot and will not let go. You will have to make that person let go, but only through swift, hard, action. It is best not to deal with the abuser yourself. never try to medi negoti conciliate or otherwise deal with a bully or stalker yourself . Always remember Rule #1: don't respond, don't interact and don't engage. Ignore Button, Ban Button and Report Abuse  Abracadabra  |
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A 2006 Blog of lessons I learned when dealing with trolls who were a major league problem at the time.. I still have to remind myself don't respond, don't interact, and don't engage. Abracadabra
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** Excellent blog and it continues to be very relevant today.
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Wonderful article and thanks for posting it. Creative Ideas.
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Great article. ConeyIslandBabe said it so well many years ago, when she told us that we never know what the person on the other side of the screen is dealing with.... it could be drugs, alcohol, mental illness or other things about we have no knowledge. She was very right. But when someone becomes so annoying, so braggadocio, and especially makes hateful comments aimed right at specific people, it is hard not to retaliate. And then it just escalates. Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.
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I love it when someone tries to bully me. It's a lot of fun dealing with them.
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Great article. ConeyIslandBabe said it so well many years ago, when she told us that we never know what the person on the other side of the screen is dealing with.... it could be drugs, alcohol, mental illness or other things about we have no knowledge. She was very right. But when someone becomes so annoying, so braggadocio, and especially makes hateful comments aimed right at specific people, it is hard not to retaliate. And then it just escalates.
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Great article. ConeyIslandBabe said it so well many years ago, when she told us that we never know what the person on the other side of the screen is dealing with.... it could be drugs, alcohol, mental illness or other things about we have no knowledge. She was very right. But when someone becomes so annoying, so braggadocio, and especially makes hateful comments aimed right at specific people, it is hard not to retaliate. And then it just escalates. There are people who use mental illness and addiction to excuse their own unacceptable behavior. The problem with that is that there is no recovery without personal responsibility. Abracadabra
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