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Relationships and the young I come across a person on another site that often does posts on relationships, one he said "Men you need to stop lying to women, if they like you, they will lie to themselves for you" He wasn't wrong, crude but not wrong. He did a live feed tonight on relationship advice. I swear, I have never before felt like the "normal " person in the room so much as I did tonight. One question he was asked though hit home. "What if the person you are in a relationship with does not support your dream, do you give up the person or the dreams" The response, "Give up the person, live for the dream" I have to say I did not expect that. I must say though , sound advise. I have to admit for a few years now, if a person interferes, they disappear. It happens quicker and quicker to. I wish I had achieved that super power in my youth, it could have made a lot of moments a lot easier. He also said every relationship needs 3 things to succeed, 1. Your Life, 2. their Life, and 3. Your lives together. Makes sense. I am far from relationship material. As the Snowflake generation would say "Do not wife her" lol. The terminology of the young is mind boggling. As it turns out, sometimes they really do have the right idea. So, what would you give up, a person or a dream and why? |
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Me, the person goes.
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the person would go for sure we should never give up on our dreams
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Twilight I am not so sure. It has been a long time since I was in a serious relationship. At this point in my life I am only interested in a good friendship. I would venture to guess that a lot of men that are on this site aren't really interested in pursuing anyone seriously. Most of them men that I hear from who are making overtures are in the states and quite a distance from me. It wouldn't make sense for me to uproot and move somewhere that isn't close to me.
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Well like the saying goes “hindsight is 20/20”. There must be a reason why we don’t understand these simple truths when we first start out. Lessons are meant to be learned and experience shapes who we are now. I would give up the person long before I gave up my dreams. The right person will love what inspires you just as much as they love to inspire you.
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IF A PERSON REALLY LOVES YOU IT WOULD SEEM LOGICAL THAT THE PERSON WOULD WANT TO HELP YOU ACHIEVE YOUR DREAM IF POSSIBLE. I AM NOT THE SACRIFICING KIND AND HAVE FOUND I AM BETTER OFF ALONE. SO BE IT.
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A "bird" in the hand is worth two in the bush. There are a lot of people who dream their life away. I'd prefer someone who could live the dream..without any help from others. If someone needs my help to fulfill a dream...then they better give up the dream. It's not a choice and I will not be responsible for the failure of a dream. because i didn't help enough. Three choices to help, to support, or to prevent. I would choose not to help... and preventing, well that's rhetorical Who's choice is it really? When the choice is taken out of your hands. Most of you have a warped sense of what a relationship is...It goes both ways.
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Seems like relationships r more like politics now. Promises made r broken. When U r young, sometimes we feel like needing to focus on being a mother/father, wife/hubby. We think that our dreams as individuals can still come true. Once U stop following ur dream it never gets fulfilled. Trying to have a relationship at my age, I see that soulmate is used quite frequently. I just don't get that. Most women looking now want a man who will hold them, someone to trust in, and enjoy their last days together. Men I feel just look for someone to scratch their itch, clean up their messes and r usually looking for new shiny things always. I would love to see men and women give their views on what a soulmate is ? I think soulmate and unicorn is the same thing
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"Well like the saying goes “hindsight is 20/20”. There must be a reason why we don’t understand these simple truths when we first start out." - Indigo I think most of us can relate to your blog, Twilight. At my age, I can't say that I'm following a 'dream' but I'm sure living my life exactly the way I want to live it !! 
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Good blog, Twilight. Some very interesting comments too. Dreamers can be hard to live with at times, especially when the dream turns to dust. 
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