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Before You Go Perhaps, is an occupational hazard, but I been thinking a lot about losing the people we know and love. At our ages we all been through this. Our mothers and fathers, our brothers and sisters, friends we had for lifetimes, lovers, spouses, and some of us even lost our . We come an age, where seems a daily occurrence. How do we prepare ourselves for times like these? Truth is, is almost impossible, if not completely impossible prepare ourselves. These last couple of years with the pandemics, millions lost loved ones. The pandemic has ripple effects. Hospitals and ER departments screen and limit the of people allowed accompany or even visit a loved one. So even those with illnesses or injuries unrelated Covid and its variants are affected. The last couple of years been a roller coaster ride for everyone. So very much loss. Even on this site, we made and lost many friends over the years. How do we prepare grieve? are those with a strong religious faith, they draw on faith and it gives them strength. Friends and family draw together during times of grief, sharing their strength and memories. I worked with patients and their families in the past as a part of my job. I also volunteered in local support groups, some communities them. Family caregivers face so much in these times. Family caregiver, being someone caring for a spouse, a , sibling or a parent. Many of us either been in this role or will some day soon be in this roll. I hope that when that time comes, you will be able find at least one good source of emotional support. If possible give some thought before even happens as whom you might be able talk during this time. Grief is the of love. We are more connected today than ever in history, so let's hope no one should face that journey alone. |
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Just a thought,
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1/25/2022 7:55 pm |
When my husband died I elected graveside services with no military guards. He was a retired Air Force Colonel. About a week later an A7 came over the bank of the pond and cleared the house by about 100 feet. I knew that was the most special salute to my husband and myself. I hope that you and others have that special connection and support. We will all be united again.
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In the span of several weeks, Joe and I lost our best friend, three brothers in law, a sister in law, another good friend, and a son in law. Within a year, we lost another good friend, a son, and a brother. None of those losses was COVID related. I am thankful that I have a deep faith in God and that life continues beyond what we experience here. When I lost my husband back in '95, a friend who was a recent widower gave me some advice, and I pass it on to others when the occasion arises. It's simple..... cry when you feel like crying, no matter who is around. Talk about the one who died when you want and don't feel uncomfortable about it, no matter who is around. And when you feel you need to just scream, get off by yourself and scream as loud and long as you can! You can't scream forever, but it might make you feel better afterwards. And yes, I did all three! Be a prism, spreading God's light and love, not a mirror reflecting the world's hatred.
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Support from family and friends is so very important. But at the end of the day you still have to go through all the pain and sadness, there is no way around it you have got to go through it.
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1/26/2022 6:40 pm |
In 1959 my maternal great grandmother passed away. The day of her funeral my maternal grandmother instilled in me a philosophy that I have kept since then. If I may quote my grandmother "I am not planning on going anywhere anytime soon, but when I do I do not want any one mourning for me for I have had a wonderful life - I have seen my children grow up and go out on their own, I have seen most if not all of my grandchildren. " She did go on to outline many other things thate she was grateful for and while some would be appropriate for me, many were unique to her. She lived another 47 years and not only got to see all of her grandchildren but many great grandchildren. Life is not about weathering the storm - it is about learning to dance in the rain
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