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PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1649 posts
10/13/2021 2:37 am
A return to everyday activities?

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A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/13/2021 2:39 am

How has COVID changed your life? Are you back to your everyday activities? Feeling confident and safe? I'll tell you my story and I'd love to hear yours!

Six years ago I relocated and opened a new business in my new community. I'm happy to report that by 2020 I was feeling settled in and happy with the way the new business was going. I envisioned a bell curve .. increasing new business, experiencing a plateau, then gradually tapering it off with my planned 2022 retirement.

Then COVID hit. The five community centers and senior centers that housed my business programming all abruptly shut down and the pretty bell curve looked more like a mountain and a cliff.

The nature of my work is aerobic, social, and senior citizen-centric. While the Governor has lifted all statewide COVID restrictions, most of the buildings where I worked remain closed to activities, masking is recommended (incompatible with aerobics in my opinion), and my doctor has advised caution.

So here I sit, feeling a little defeated wearing my almost-dormant fitness tracker that used to register up to 10 miles a day. I stay busy with hobbies but they are unfortunately mostly sedentary and solitary. Just like all of those funny social media posts we see, I am working on practicing social distancing from my refrigerator, glamming up with lipstick and earrings to take the trash out, and planning my next vacation. Should it be to Puerto Backyarda or Los Livingroom? lol

One would think that all of this unanticipated leisure time could be redirected to outdoor fitness activities, cooking adventures and keeping a spotless, organized home. Ummm … I plead the fifth. On a positive note, Foto Friday has been a bright spot, giving me a sense of purpose and something to focus on other than mundane household chores. I'm grateful for the opportunity to be part of it!

That's my story. And how are you these days? Are you back to your everyday activities? What's your key to feeling motivated and hopeful?

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


Maudie1 74F
8151 posts
10/13/2021 4:58 am

More or less back to normal thank goodness. We still have to wear masks in shops and all indoor venues. We must have a vaccine passport for indoor dining, theatre, gyms, leisure centres etc.

Sorry to see that you are still in a sort of lockdown situation there. At this stage people need to get back to some form of normality . I'm surprised to see all your community centres remain closed, big loss for sure. Hopefully they will reopen sooner rather than later.

Roll on Foto Friday, and happy snapping, Pearls.


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/13/2021 5:31 am

    Quoting Maudie1:
    More or less back to normal thank goodness. We still have to wear masks in shops and all indoor venues. We must have a vaccine passport for indoor dining, theatre, gyms, leisure centres etc.

    Sorry to see that you are still in a sort of lockdown situation there. At this stage people need to get back to some form of normality . I'm surprised to see all your community centres remain closed, big loss for sure. Hopefully they will reopen sooner rather than later.

    Roll on Foto Friday, and happy snapping, Pearls.
Thanks, Maudie! Technically my state is open without restrictions but it doesn't really feel that way. The community centers are open for the basics and some but not all of them are slowly resuming activities programming. The biggest hurdle I face is mask usage. Masks are not required here but the CDC recommends them in areas of "substantial or high community transmission", and my community is currently showing as "high". Thank goodness for Foto Friday and the happy snapping we're all doing!

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


Archer62 83F
7093 posts
10/13/2021 5:35 am

WE NEED A "SANITARY PASS" TO PARTICIPATE IN MOST SOCIAL ACTIVITIES AND ENTER RESTAURANTS, LIBRARIES, MOVIE THEATERS AND SUCH.
YESTERDAY WAS OUR SENIOR SERVICES DANCE AND MUCH TO MY SURPRISE WE DID NOT NEED TO WEAR A MASK. LAST WEEK WE HAD SHOWS AND I HAVE BEEN TO THE MOVIES TWICE, IN OTHER WORDS OUR LIFE IS GETTING BACK TO ALMOST NORMAL INCLUDING FOR SPORTS IF YOU HAVE BEEN FULLY VACCINATED OR HAVE A NEGATIVE TEST WITHIN THE LAST 36 HOURS. OUR SENIOR SPORTS ACTIVITIES ARE BACK TOO AND IN RETIREMENT HOMES LIFE IS JUST ABOUT BACK TO NORMAL. GOOD LUCK TO YOU.


Ourfirstdance 74M
2 posts
10/13/2021 5:49 am

Hi I think we all have suffered in more ways than imaginable . After getting my second shot I was ready to come out and join the world again. However after being locked down and socially restricted for so long I wondered if it was similar to being released from prison. Where to go? Is it safe? How to function in society again? Like the ex-con I longed to retreat home (jail) if all else failed.
The old haunts and music venues I would would visit seemed less important to me. I sensed a hidden danger and suspicion around people that I both knew and didn't know at the same time. There was an urgency to reconnect with family but embraced it as callously and safely as possible.
I've recently received the booster shot, although I should be "good" for awhile I'll still approach life from another frame of mind.
I see my children and grandchildren as much as possible. Recently purchased tickets for Trinity Rep in Providence. And am searching for that balance in life that makes it worth living, again.


Ourfirstdance 74M
2 posts
10/13/2021 6:54 am

Should say "cautiously" in last post. Spell check anyone?


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/13/2021 7:01 am

    Quoting Archer62:
    WE NEED A "SANITARY PASS" TO PARTICIPATE IN MOST SOCIAL ACTIVITIES AND ENTER RESTAURANTS, LIBRARIES, MOVIE THEATERS AND SUCH.
    YESTERDAY WAS OUR SENIOR SERVICES DANCE AND MUCH TO MY SURPRISE WE DID NOT NEED TO WEAR A MASK. LAST WEEK WE HAD SHOWS AND I HAVE BEEN TO THE MOVIES TWICE, IN OTHER WORDS OUR LIFE IS GETTING BACK TO ALMOST NORMAL INCLUDING FOR SPORTS IF YOU HAVE BEEN FULLY VACCINATED OR HAVE A NEGATIVE TEST WITHIN THE LAST 36 HOURS. OUR SENIOR SPORTS ACTIVITIES ARE BACK TOO AND IN RETIREMENT HOMES LIFE IS JUST ABOUT BACK TO NORMAL. GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
Archer, I'm so glad to hear that life is starting to return to normal in your area! For a brief period of time this summer I thought it was here too. The positivity rate had fallen dramatically so I started venturing back out into stores and even put a special event on my business calendar. Then the Delta variant caused a new surge and I had to cancel my event. I'm trying to stay optimistic though! Thanks for the good wishes

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/13/2021 7:22 am

    Quoting Ourfirstdance:
    Hi I think we all have suffered in more ways than imaginable . After getting my second shot I was ready to come out and join the world again. However after being locked down and socially restricted for so long I wondered if it was similar to being released from prison. Where to go? Is it safe? How to function in society again? Like the ex-con I longed to retreat home (jail) if all else failed.
    The old haunts and music venues I would would visit seemed less important to me. I sensed a hidden danger and suspicion around people that I both knew and didn't know at the same time. There was an urgency to reconnect with family but embraced it as callously and safely as possible.
    I've recently received the booster shot, although I should be "good" for awhile I'll still approach life from another frame of mind.
    I see my children and grandchildren as much as possible. Recently purchased tickets for Trinity Rep in Providence. And am searching for that balance in life that makes it worth living, again.
That's great that you were able to get your booster shot! My 6 month waiting period after the second shot ends next month and I'll be first in line as soon as I'm eligible! I understand what you mean about getting back out into society again and how things seem a little different now. Last week I went into a community center for a meeting and there were multiple awkward moments replacing what would have been a handshakes. And people guarded their 6' bubble with a stern look if anyone accidentally stepped over the invisible line. Looking forward to when we can all relax a little more! Enjoy Trinity Rep!

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


MrsJoe 76F
17394 posts
10/13/2021 10:07 am

I'll join you on that fifth about cooking adventures and well organized spotless home........... shall we make the fifth Captain Morgan's rum or tequila?
Our COVID saga is that we have no COVID saga at our house. Our social isolation is more due to physical problems that Joe has had, like his broken leg two years ago, and his broken arm last year and all the other debilitating problems he has experienced, than to the COVID pandemic. Add that to the death of our best friend, and losing several other family members and friends.... none of them COVID related, and we just find ourselves staying home.
I order many of the things we need online and have shipped to our house, but I do go to the grocery stores also. I don't mind wearing a mask in them, but I don't put it on until I'm ready to go inside, and I remove it upon leaving, because I have a problem breathing and walking faster like outside. Can you believe I had one woman actually yell at me for walking, outside, in the parking lot with it down below my chin? I told her I would pull it up when I got ready to go in, and she almost screamed, "You will be sorry when you are in the hospital and can't breathe!!!!"
We also go to the shops where we have booths, but many times Joe just waits in the car for me to do what I need to do. I laughingly told our primary doctor that all our socialization these days seems to be with doctors and the nurses and the shop owners..... and online. A big change from the way we were just two and a half years ago, but one to which we are adjusting..... and it's not COVID related.


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PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/13/2021 10:53 am

    Quoting MrsJoe:
    I'll join you on that fifth about cooking adventures and well organized spotless home........... shall we make the fifth Captain Morgan's rum or tequila?
    Our COVID saga is that we have no COVID saga at our house. Our social isolation is more due to physical problems that Joe has had, like his broken leg two years ago, and his broken arm last year and all the other debilitating problems he has experienced, than to the COVID pandemic. Add that to the death of our best friend, and losing several other family members and friends.... none of them COVID related, and we just find ourselves staying home.
    I order many of the things we need online and have shipped to our house, but I do go to the grocery stores also. I don't mind wearing a mask in them, but I don't put it on until I'm ready to go inside, and I remove it upon leaving, because I have a problem breathing and walking faster like outside. Can you believe I had one woman actually yell at me for walking, outside, in the parking lot with it down below my chin? I told her I would pull it up when I got ready to go in, and she almost screamed, "You will be sorry when you are in the hospital and can't breathe!!!!"
    We also go to the shops where we have booths, but many times Joe just waits in the car for me to do what I need to do. I laughingly told our primary doctor that all our socialization these days seems to be with doctors and the nurses and the shop owners..... and online. A big change from the way we were just two and a half years ago, but one to which we are adjusting..... and it's not COVID related.

Lol about the “fifth”!! I understand what it feels like to spend more time at home and less time doing the activities outside of the house that you enjoy. I'm sorry about Joe's health issues and the loss of family members and friends. When you roll that all together it sounds like it's been a tough couple of years for you. It must be comforting, though, for you and Joe to have the company of each other.

I don't have any diagnosed breathing difficulties but I experience the same difficulty with masks that you describe. I'm fine if I'm wearing a mask while inactive but as soon as I start moving around I can't breathe well. My students are getting a little annoyed about my delay in restarting programs but I know I'll need to wait until I am confident that masks are not needed anymore. Wow that lady with the mask comment needs to simmer down!! It sounds like you were very polite to her despite her rudeness.

So true about socialization these days .. My interactions with people are mostly limited to the grocery delivery guy, the gas station attendant, and my cat. If I start talking to my robotic vacuum cleaner I'll know I'm in trouble. Lol

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


Koffla 68M
12263 posts
10/13/2021 3:09 pm



Sorry to hear that Covid shut down your business. Looking on the bright side, at least you can travel to Puerto Backyarda and practice your dance steps.

How has Covid changed my life? I can honestly say that not all has been negative. The fact that I am not going out as much as I did before Covid, has allowed me to save a lot more than ever.

I miss hanging out with friends and family. I personally don't think we will ever be back as it was before, thanks to the anti-vaxxers, anti-maskers and conspiracy theorists.




0048FORD00 75M
79 posts
10/13/2021 7:08 pm

where I live in Australia, my day to day activities have not really been affected all that much. No wearing of masks. No covid out breaks. We have to Check-in to most commercial businesses using a phone app. That's about it. I have had two jabs and have a certificate of immunisation in my phone. I guess I'm one of the few very lucky.


Shartaun03 81F
6198 posts
10/13/2021 9:06 pm

I guess if I hadn't been able to shop for groceries and drug stuff I would have gone loony for sure. For months I wasn't able to go out with my friends for our regular dinners. I haven't seen my family that lives in the area since July 2020. Most of it has to do with Covid. I finally got back in the gym a couple of months ago after receiving my two vaccinations. I have my passport now which makes me feel safe as they will not allow in the gym unless you have that. When I go out to dinner I have to show my passport and if no passport no dining in. But things aren't over with by any means. Our numbers are up again in BC because the naysayers aren't getting vaccinated. So that is where I stand at this time.
Pearls I am sorry you haven't been able to back into the community centers. Our local library was closed for a while and then in order to borrow books we had to order them online. It is more or less open now.


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/14/2021 5:24 am

    Quoting  :

It's so nice that you have a creative artistic outlet. And I agree with you about how the past year and a half has given us all a good reason to think about priorities and the big picture. I wish you the best with your workshops and classes!

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/14/2021 5:30 am

    Quoting Koffla:


    Sorry to hear that Covid shut down your business. Looking on the bright side, at least you can travel to Puerto Backyarda and practice your dance steps.

    How has Covid changed my life? I can honestly say that not all has been negative. The fact that I am not going out as much as I did before Covid, has allowed me to save a lot more than ever.

    I miss hanging out with friends and family. I personally don't think we will ever be back as it was before, thanks to the anti-vaxxers, anti-maskers and conspiracy theorists.


I'm so glad you said that about how not everything related to the pandemic has been negative. It helped me view my own situation a little bit differently. Thanks ... it cheered me up to think about the positive changes!

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/14/2021 5:33 am

    Quoting 0048FORD00:
    where I live in Australia, my day to day activities have not really been affected all that much. No wearing of masks. No covid out breaks. We have to Check-in to most commercial businesses using a phone app. That's about it. I have had two jabs and have a certificate of immunisation in my phone. I guess I'm one of the few very lucky.
It's so good to hear that Covid hasn't impacted your area! I wonder what the secret is to keeping the positivity rate that low. Other countries should take note of Australia's example!

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/14/2021 6:15 am

    Quoting Shartaun03:
    I guess if I hadn't been able to shop for groceries and drug stuff I would have gone loony for sure. For months I wasn't able to go out with my friends for our regular dinners. I haven't seen my family that lives in the area since July 2020. Most of it has to do with Covid. I finally got back in the gym a couple of months ago after receiving my two vaccinations. I have my passport now which makes me feel safe as they will not allow in the gym unless you have that. When I go out to dinner I have to show my passport and if no passport no dining in. But things aren't over with by any means. Our numbers are up again in BC because the naysayers aren't getting vaccinated. So that is where I stand at this time.
    Pearls I am sorry you haven't been able to back into the community centers. Our local library was closed for a while and then in order to borrow books we had to order them online. It is more or less open now.
It's great that you've been able to get back to the gym and dining out, and it's especially nice that the vaccine passport gives you confidence! Sorry to hear that the numbers are up again in your area. They might be here too but I'm still trying to sort out some new info. The positivity rate had been falling for several weeks but just a couple of days ago I received a prerecorded voicemail from the director of my health plan saying that infections are surging again. So just as you said it looks like things aren't over with yet. Trying to stay cheery though!

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!


PearlsWthMyJeans 68F
1708 posts
10/14/2021 6:21 am

    Quoting  :

Had never heard that song before ... can definitely hear the rhythm you're describing in it. And it was kind of fun to see a video of a 45 rpm record on the Youtube clip. Brought back memories!

A day without dance is .... just kidding. I have no idea!