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LIVE TOGETHER, GET MARRIED OR LIVE SEPARATELY - WHICH DO YOU PREFER? My boyfriend and I live apart. We are both conservative so living together without marriage wouldn't be our style. We don't judge couples who live together. It has to be what's comfortable for them. We aren't planning to get married anytime soon, if ever. It's been working for 9 years so if it isn't broke, it doesn't need fixing. What about you? Do you want to get married at this stage of your life or prefer living together or living separately? Elaine Shuel |
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Yes it does, Pat. I'm glad you found THE one.  Elaine Shuel
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I have to admit that what you described sounds good, Poet_Dancer. Thank you. I'm not worried about neighbours but I'm a bit old fashioned in this regard. I might have to rethink my position at one point. Elaine Shuel
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I don't envision marrying again.... but I never say, 'Never'...LOL. At this point in my life, I would like a monogamous relationship with a fellow who has his own home. I don't want a 24/7 relationship.
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3/11/2015 10:30 am |
I have lived in all of the above situations but I am flexible and don't have any fixed dos or don'ts. Circumstance dictate. As you said "If it ain't broke don't fix it." If you are happy with your situation why change anything? Relationships are between the 2 parties involved and no one else. Personally I prefer not to be married since that obligates the other person and I do not want to be in a relationship with someone who stays out of obligation but that takes a level of independence and self esteem that were a long time in the making. Spiritwoman ^i^
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Welcome to my blog, Beatrix2. It's definitely nice to have a man in your life if you're open to it. Elaine Shuel
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There are many who say they won't marry again but some of them do. Thanks for your candid answer, MySeek2day. Elaine Shuel
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I don't envision marrying again.... but I never say, 'Never'...LOL. At this point in my life, I would like a monogamous relationship with a fellow who has his own home. I don't want a 24/7 relationship. Elaine Shuel
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I have lived in all of the above situations but I am flexible and don't have any fixed dos or don'ts. Circumstance dictate. As you said "If it ain't broke don't fix it." If you are happy with your situation why change anything? Relationships are between the 2 parties involved and no one else. Personally I prefer not to be married since that obligates the other person and I do not want to be in a relationship with someone who stays out of obligation but that takes a level of independence and self esteem that were a long time in the making. What's right for some, isn't right for all.Elaine Shuel
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I actually do not want to live with someone, don't want to get married again, so if I do meet someone, living separately is fine with me. I have a friend who has dated the same man for ten years, they almost got married, but when they couldn't come to an agreement of whose house to live in, the wedding was called off. She didn't want to move away from her kids, and he didn't want to move away from his. She suggested they sell their homes and purchase a home somewhere in the middle, he said no, wouldn't budge. Pretty much telling her that his kids were priority and he came first. That was six years ago and they are still together. She was and still is happy with her decision not to marry.
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I actually do not want to live with someone, don't want to get married again, so if I do meet someone, living separately is fine with me. I have a friend who has dated the same man for ten years, they almost got married, but when they couldn't come to an agreement of whose house to live in, the wedding was called off. She didn't want to move away from her kids, and he didn't want to move away from his. She suggested they sell their homes and purchase a home somewhere in the middle, he said no, wouldn't budge. Pretty much telling her that his kids were priority and he came first. That was six years ago and they are still together. She was and still is happy with her decision not to marry. I hope you'll comment on my new blog, asking WHY many of those who have been married, don't want to again.Elaine Shuel
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Well said RosesLady. Your advice is wise, as always. Elaine Shuel
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Thanks _JKH54. If it works for you, that's good. Elaine Shuel
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Elaine I am an unclaimed treasure...but even if I got claimed I prefer to live separately. Why spoil something if it is good the way it is. See my comment on your other blog.
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Elaine I am an unclaimed treasure...but even if I got claimed I prefer to live separately. Why spoil something if it is good the way it is. See my comment on your other blog. Elaine Shuel
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