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Do Sluts Still Exsist? A recent discussion with someone left me wondering if I am seeing things as they are or living in my own reality (although we all create our own realities). The issue? Does society still have a double standard for sexuality for men and women? Scenario: A man and a woman both are have strong sex drives and libido. Both chose to act on and enjoy this. Does society still view the man as a hero and the woman as a slut? I have to admit this is something I have not even thought about it in a long time. I tend to view sexuality as part of an over all package of sensuality, personal freedom and self confidence. Even as a young I lived on the edge, pushed the envelope, rebelled etc. In the “good old days” I was an activist for civil rights, women’s lib, free speech etc. I have been very comfortable being just who and what I want to be for over 40 years, truly not giving a “rodent’s posterior” what anyone thought, so my perception may be somewhat distorted. I have been sensual in every sense of the word all of my life. Like most artistic types I tend to experience all input, visual, auditory and sensory to a greater extent than most. I feel the intensity of emotion far deeper than most. In my experience expressing this either awes or frightens others, (but DUHH where do they think I get the inspiration for my painting, designs etc.?). I notice colors, smells etc to the extreme. I feel every sensation to the max. Naturally sexual feelings and expressions are also experienced to a greater extent than most. Years ago I learned to focus on the positive of all of my heightened sensual perceptions while being aware that I am more extreme than most. My spiritual belief system is one that honors our humanness as a gift and encourages enjoyment rather than condemnation or guilt. I have felt free to be a sexual being without guilt or recrimination for so long that it is the norm for me. It is just part of the package of sensitivity to physical, emotional and spiritual sensations that allow my creativity. While they see me as unique and not a “normal” friends and family see this as more than acceptable and enjoy my “craziness” along with me. I have not felt judged in many years and still don’t even after it was brought to my attention. Is this because I have always had a wide circle of friends and associates who are like minded and simply ignored what the rest of society ( mainstream )sees as the norm. Not that I care but I am really wondering now. Am I isolating myself to the extent that I do not recognize how the mainstream functions? Do “normal” women feel restricted or guilty about their sexuality? Do “normal” men see women who accept and enjoy their sexuality as sluts? Spiritwoman ^i^ |
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I hadn't heard the word slut used in a long time...and that when one gal was accusing another of 'stealing' her man. I agree with GoodCarMa's second paragraph. When I first came into chat, her second sentence of that paragraph was very evident...LOLOL. At our age, men and women often are not looking for marriage but still want to enjoy the company of another....imho
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6/18/2010 4:51 pm |
I can name a couple .... 
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6/18/2010 5:18 pm |
I have been known as a slut puppie if that counts anything.
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6/19/2010 7:11 am |
Hi Spirit: My goodness all people have urges, not just artistic types, but I don't think they have to act on every urge they experience. A little restraint goes a long way.
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6/19/2010 7:55 am |
In my circles a woman with an active sex life is admired. I'm sure there is still a double standard among those who have retained the values of their parents. If someone thinks me a slut, so be it. I've been called worse.
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6/20/2010 8:37 am |
bike, are you saying you've been called a manwhore 
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I can name a couple ....  The positive is there. Sometimes it's just hard to find.
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