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6 Signs Its Getting Serious By Sarah Fielding What are the signs that you're moving towards a relationship with someone you've been dating and how can you help things along on your path towards coupledom? Relationship Sign #1: You seek their opinion You hear some great news -- or some not-so-great news -- and your first reaction is to call him/her? Sounds like the beginnings of a relationship to me. Seeking advice and approval from your date means you've moved from a casual dalliance onto something more meaningful. Confiding in your date means you have established good trust and open communication, that you value their opinion and, perhaps more tellingly, that you want them to have input into your life. How to help things along: If you find your date confiding in you more and more, let them know that you appreciate their honesty and are touched that they want to share things with you. Make sure you reciprocate by sharing your important news with them too. This helps confirm that you're both on the same page when it comes to defining the relationship. Relationship Sign #2: You say 'we' a lot Saying the word 'we' a lot is a definite sign that you and your date are skipping merrily down the road to a relationship. Saying 'we' out loud reinforces the reality that you are becoming a romantic couple and shows the world you have staked a claim on one another. How to help things along: If your date has started using the 'we' word, and you're happy to be defined as a couple, start 'we-ing' too. This shows your significant other that you are aware, and happy, that things have become more couple-focused and less about two singles dating. Relationship Sign #3: You think of one another It's one thing to daydream about your sexy new beau or your next hook-up with that flirty little minx you've been seeing, but quite another to really think about them. In this case, thinking about them means considering them and not making plans without first consulting with them. Prioritizing time with your date in this way is a sure sign that a casual liaison has become something more. How to help things along: You can further reinforce your position as a couple by checking with your date before committing to plans that will take you away from them, such as nights out with the boys or weekends away with the girls. A little consideration goes a long way. Relationship Sign #4: You can be 'you' Being content just being with each other is a great sign that you have passed the nervous, eager-to-please dating phase and are on to something more relaxed... and more serious. Sometimes couples enter this phase without even noticing. This is the sign of a great match and the beginning of what has all the makings of an easygoing relationship. How to help things along: Being at ease with one another is something all couples strive for. Reflect on how lucky you are to be so compatible and comfortable with your mate, and don't forget to remind them of this often. Relationship Sign #5: You have the same taste Your taste and style are in sync. Those who make the transition from dating to relationship often say they feel they're on 'the same wavelength' as their mate. They offer examples of how they love the same music and always know, almost instinctively, what the other person would love to receive as a gift. How to help things along: Keep your eye out for things you know your mate would like -- a book, a piece of jewelry or some other item (note: you don't need to buy these things, merely make note of them) -- and then tell your date about it. Better still, take them window shopping to see for themselves. Your date will love that you have been thinking about them, and will be secretly thrilled that your style and taste is so in sync. Relationship Sign #6: 'The future' is not a scary concept Moving from casual to something more is all about being able to envisage a future with your date in it. If you can chat happily about what you'll be doing together next month or next year, you can be sure that you're on the verge of coupledom. Discussing the future without freaking out gives your date reassurance that you're enjoying the ride and don't want it to end any time soon. How to help things along: When talk of the future crops up, remember to keep the lines of communication open by discussing possibilities together and allowing yourselves to dream. Just don't let your imagination run too wild too soon. Chatting about your next holiday together is fine. Planning the honeymoon (unless there's a ring on your finger) is probably not. |
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3/1/2008 6:21 am |
Just a thought, from experience, hopefully both are being honest from the beginning and continue through these steps. Put away your rose colored glasses when looking at this person and be true to yourself. Tanz I could have missed the pain, but I'd of had to miss the Dance...Hugs, Tanz
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3/1/2008 6:25 am |
thanks for sharing...these are very helpful...now to find Mr. Considerate!   ~~~~~~~~~~~ "The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position." ~Leo Buscaglia
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3/1/2008 6:31 am |
Yes to find a Real Man to Commit and to show up to meet. So it can turn into a Relationship.
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