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starwomyn 70F
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6/23/2008 1:35 pm

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6/28/2008 11:03 am
OverEagar, Ready For Love OR Committment Phobic
Step Ten - Continued to take A Daily Inventory and When Wrong Promptly Admit it.

Where do you Stand in Regards to Relationships
Over Eagar - Too Ready To Commit and Scare the Dates Away
Open To Love - Health Balance Between Giving Yourself Over to A Relationship and Maintaining A Life of YOur Own
Commitment-Phobic - Fear of Relationships May Be Costing Happineaa

Abracadabra
goose57 66M

6/23/2008 4:19 pm

 Oh yes, I definitely have the commitment phobia! After the divorce 17 years ago I have unknowingly sabotaged every attempt at a relationship since. I know now that I have done this and I am working on it! Is admitting you've done it the first step? I don't know?


DonaldM 81M

6/23/2008 8:37 pm

 It has been my experience and my observation that a lot of people in recovery are toxic to intimacy. Most who are unattached want relationships but the nearer they come to having one the more fearful they become. The fear seems to be a manifestation of fear of abandonment or fear of rejection.

The big book also talks about the inability to form a true partnership with another human being and the two most common manifestations that this inability assumes.


c3c5

6/23/2008 9:16 pm

 By itself .... I don't think I am. But commitment is a two way street. Now all I gotta due is find the street.

Actually there is a lot of 'baggage'. I'm not aware of any emotional stuff here but there is a lot of physical stuff. How do you arrange to merge (or dump) what you both have to make that commitment? All depends. On what each of you have (and/or willing to give up) going in. AND, In the scheme of things there isn't much time left to be hasty. And thats the crux of. Did I just change my mind. Chuckle.




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