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Supporting a Dream is not necessarily financial Supporting a dream does not mean financing the process. Or financing anything else in the partners life. People need to work and be responsible for their own....whether is is a share with someone else or their own responsibility. I don't speak of a dream as in...we love each other. A dream refers to....a business, a plan for the future, a career, etc. Some venture outside ones self that has some reward whether personal or financial. A few years ago I ran a mini marathon, my longest races to date. I did not win....no surprise. I'll be honest, I never was a spectacular runner, good form, moderate speed, and I did it. I was a member of a council group and some people from my group decided since there was going to be no one there for me "to see me off" they were going to do it. They showed up race day with banners and posters, they cheered when we took off. Some went to major check points, and they were on that last stretch cheering again. Now that is support. Not a check or a new pair of shoes, but just being there. When I talk about stained glass. Art and design are my dreams. I feel good when I create beautiful designs. I am paid handsomely...which I don't mind either. When I order supplies its $$$. When I get the chance to, I buy out other stained glass artists. This is expensive. It is not yard sale pricing. Second hand yes. Yard sale pricing, NO. I buy old glass from buildings at auction, I buy scrap. I buy whole sheets. It is business and a sensible thing to do. This is not something you ask a love interest to do for you. This is not even a decision that involves them. Company money is not personal money. Showing lack of support is demonstrated like, throwing a tantrum when I might leave the state or country on my job and only my expenses are covered. not being supportive is being jealous over meetings with construction bosses. Meetings are required. Lack of support is sometimes shown by destruction of property and physical violence. These are things that cause serious stress and other problems. This is what lack of support is This is the person you do not keep, when you keep the dream. |
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Hope that helps for those confused.
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Accroche-toi à ton rêve Quand tu vois ton bateau partir Quand tu sens ton coeur se briser
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Accroche-toi à ton rêve Quand tu vois ton bateau partir Quand tu sens ton coeur se briser youtu.be/UkekqVPIc2M
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Hope that helps for those confused.
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In any relationship.. it's about how your partner is better off because you are there and not about how worst off one is because they are there. We tend to focus on our wants instead of our needs. Dreams are wants. This isn't one sided. And to have a successful relationship one must navigate the conflict of dreams. The wants of one compared to the wants of another. When that happens who is the one not helping but hindering the dreams of the other. Most of us, begin a relationship because it provides something we NEED. In that regard expectations are met. But a relationship is NEVER going to give you everything you want. It's pretty normal for humans to lose what they need to try and get what they want. I wrote a poem that speaks to this... She thought I hung the moon and all her eyes told me so That me made me feel ten feet tall It's all love needs to know But expectations pay the devils due when what was paid is not enough The toll on love is the revenue that counts the unimportant stuff The moon hung over a sleeping mountain Until changing eyes said more than lips And expectations she began to count on Created a lunar eclipse
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I understand completely, Twilight~~ Warm Hugsss..... 
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"What I refer to as a dream is a career, a goal, not oh I want a ferrari and a castle. When in life you find a partner constantly holding you back from achieving your potential....time for the axe. No one needs to keep a leech hanging on, no one needs to cater to an abuser, or narcissist.......that is a flawed old way of thinking." ************************** It's not that simple to draw lines between wants. for either those that want or those must deal with it. I am also not sure how one holds one back from achieving their potential Without one giving up their potential wants for something they feel may be greater. It almost always plays out the way it suppose to.. It's rarely your choice to give up on the other person.. When the other person has already given up on you. It's becomes a factor only when you look back and see it differently, that you were held back. There are many reasons a person doesn't live up to their potential that has nothing to do with someone else. For most it's not willing to pay the price, but also the fear of failure, the idea that you may be unrealistic, and lack self confidence.. but at any rate, when all is said done, it is just easier to blame someone else for holding you back
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When were you right or when were you wrong Was it at a point or was it all along As who you marry is always a factor. until you run over her with your tractor. LMAO
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